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As a teenager and young man, Justin Lee felt deeply torn. Nicknamed "God Boy" by his peers, he knew that he was called to a life in the evangelical Christian ministry. But Lee harbored a secret: He also knew that he was gay. In this groundbreaking book, Lee recalls the events - his coming out to his parents, his experiences with the "ex-gay" movement, and his in-depth study of the Bible - that led him, eventually, to self-acceptance.

But more than just a memoir, Torn provides insightful, practical guidance for all committed Christians who wonder how to relate to gay friends or family members - or who struggle with their own sexuality. Convinced that "in a culture that sees gays and Christians as enemies, gay Christians are in a unique position to bring peace," Lee demonstrates that people of faith on both sides of the debate can respect, learn from, and love one another.

©2012 Justin Lee (P)2013 Hachette Audio

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i loved this book.

i loved it.. this book really helps not only straight but gays that are struggling with their attractions and as the author it can go both ways but i choose to be as christ like and loving as possible and not blame either party.

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Great book to read on Christianity and Homosexuali

I am glad to have listened to this book. Although I am a straight, married Christian, I feel it is important to study for myself what the biblical truth about homosexuality. It was great hear Justin's story and his interpretation of the Bible verses that referred to homosexuality. I am most interested to know his view of Ephesians 5 (the verse most folks point to when describing Biblical marriage) or Adam and Eve story, and what implications those verses have on his view of Biblical relationships. Because he didn't explore such topics in this book, I felt the book was complete. However, I would certainly recommend this book to others interested in exploring this topic.

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  • 10-07-16

a must read to love people and stop judging

Tears listening to this moving , authentic book. The author shares his experience beautifully to open hearts. In finding acceptance of others, we find acceptance of ourselves, and move closer to what God wants us to be.

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Thanks from a Christian mom desperate for Info

I was looking for information that would help me be able to understand and support my teenage gay daughter.

I am so dreading the prejudice and heartache she will encounter as she lives her adult life as an openly gay woman.

While I still don't have all the answers, this book has given me so much hope, peace, and has made me feel more confident about standing up for my daughter in front of people who will unavoidably judge her.

Thank you, Justin for this book.

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Ideas Into Words

As a man that's always been torn between these two worlds, Lee's book gives me both hope and a voice. This is something I've always wanted to explain to my fellow Christian, as well as, my fellow LGBT community members, but could never formulate the ideas into words. Justin does it very well.

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An Articulate Book that Misses the Biblical Point

As a conservative Christian, I agree with the author that Jesus is love and our Lord spent most of His time with sinners.... gross sinners. Sinners like wicked, sinful women, which describes me. That is why I love Jesus Christ SO much. He has forgiven me for my abominable sins and has brought me into His Kingdom because of His finished work on the Cross, not because I "did" anything. He gave me the gift of faith in Christ alone. That is what is required to go to Heaven. Faith in Jesus Christ alone.

Let me be clear, my hope is that all people come to know Christ. It doesn't matter what their besetting sin is, adulterers, liars, thieves, homosexuals, and the list goes on, Jesus is able to save sinners fully and completely, no matter what they have done.

That's what I was hoping to hear in this book. That Jesus saves. No matter what your sin is, faith alone in Christ is all that is needed to be justified, sanctified and glorified.

However, within the first 20 minutes of this audio book, Mr. Lee had done just what he says he doesn't like. In his own words, Mr. Lee created two groups. He repeatedly uses the terms: "The Christian Community" and "The Gay Community" which sounds like he is pitting one against the other. That should not be. Christians are Christians. The Body of Christ is made up of every tribe, tongue and nation. People of all backgrounds, nationalities and all of us struggle with thousands of sins.

Sexual sin is not about "us" verses "them"-- The Bible is clear. It's not my opinion, it is Biblical truth that sex outside of marriage between one man and one woman is sin. Mr. Lee's argument should not be with "The Christian Community." His argument should be with the Apostle Paul and our Lord Himself. Jesus clearly defined marriage in the Gospels as one man and one woman. So, Mr. Lee, your problem is what is written in Scripture, not with people who actually believes what Jesus said about marriage.

I was really hoping to see Mr. Lee address the Scriptures head on, but he started with, and continued talking about fringe groups, like the Westboro Baptist church, who are clearly hateful, as if the Bride of Christ behaves like that. We don't! We disagree with fringe groups like the Westboro Baptist Church and that kind of behavior. The "true" Church considers what they do a sin. The true Bride of Christ does not hold up hateful signs at gay people's funerals. We know that is a sin!

Mr. Lee -- over and over again, is doing what most liberals do...pitting one "side" against the other, instead of talking about how to deal with sin using God's Word, the Bible. I threw up my hands in despair after an hour into the book, realizing that he was not going to address homosexuality by going through the Bible.

My hope is that one day, he will realize that everyone sins and those who are truly Born Again will spend eternity together around the Throne of God above, in perfect peace and harmony, worshipping the Lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world. I pray he finds peace and rests in Christ alone.

There will always be hateful people on this earth. Read Romans chapter three. Paul writes "there is none who does good. No, not one". That is why we need a Savior and we have the perfect God-Man already ruling and reigning in Heaven.

It is my prayer that whoever may read this review, will not take it as a hateful or judgmental review, but as one that really has a heart to see sinners saved by the blood of Jesus Christ alone. There is no Gospel in this book. That is very sad I pray for Justin Lee with all of my heart.

Let's make it all about Jesus and not ourselves. He did the work. He should be worshipped and glorified. God bless you all.

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propaganda

He shares his lifelong difficulty throughout most of the book, gaining empathy and understanding from the listener until the end when he lays out case for liberal christian view of acceptance of gay lifestyle. It's a good insight into the mind and heart of someone with genuine desire to live consistently and seeks truth but falls short almost as if the agenda all along was to steer readers towards his final viewpoint. The conclusion parsed together by a weak biblical rationale and is logically very shallow.

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Open, honest and gracious

I love how the author is so gracious with his treatment of both gay and non-affirming Christians. This is a topic I’ve struggled with for sometime and being a straight Christian I have never really known where to tire with my honest questions. Every time I broached the subject with my Christian friends, I’ve been treated like I’m on the verge of devil worship for not openly opposing gays and admitting I had doubts about popular theologies.
To the author: thank you for your openness, honesty, and graciousness.

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Amazing!

I think that EVERY Christian should read this book. Regardless of the theological conclusion they come to, there is something for them to learn here.

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I disagree but I enjoyed this book

I liked that this book was well read and very easy to listen too. The author did a good job at conveying points in a tone I wouldn’t have picked up reading I️t alone.

I disagree with his moral theology and holding on to the word gay even though he admitted that people hold multiple meanings behind the word wether attraction or action and I️t causes confusion in discussions.

He rightly pointed out that Christians can be more loving and even though I disagree with his conclusions I️t has forced me to critique my personal approach to this problem.

As a Catholic I am glad we don’t have to deal with interpretation issues on Scripture as our non- catholic brothers and sisters do . side B is our position and I wish he went over it more.

Pax Christi

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  • 03-18-16

Excellent investigation into the subject

Justin Lee has written an excellent narrative of his life, the struggles, the searching and many insights from side A & side B. A must read for all who have interest in the topic, one side or the other.