Beyond Betrayal: Taking Charge of Your Life after Boyhood Sexual Abuse

De: Richard B. Gartner

Narrado por: Fleet Cooper

By the age of sixteen, up to one in six boys has unwanted direct sexual contact with an older person. This is rarely talked about, and when it is, shame and embarrassment often stop us from speaking up openly and frankly. Now, this major new book by Dr. Richard Gartner, a pioneering therapist in the field, explores in depth the once-taboo subject of male sexual victimization.

Providing empowering action steps and written specifically for survivors of male sexual abuse as well as their spouses, partners, and loved ones, Beyond Betrayal is based on Richard Gartner's decades of experience as a psychologist, psychoanalyst, and advocate for sexually abused men. Covering both male and female abuse of boys and young men, Dr. Gartner explores the different types of abuse, from sexual abuse with and without touch to covert abuse to trauma, revealing the profound impact of sexual betrayal by such caretakers as clergy, family, teachers, babysitters, and health professionals. Gartner explains how as a child one trusts out of necessity—and how the betrayal of that trust ravages one's self-concept as a man while also wreaking havoc on one's relationships. .

In this powerful book, Dr. Gartner allows his patients to speak for themselves. The men's heartrending stories convey the full range of long-term devastations of boyhood sexual abuse: the despair, the secrecy, and the isolation; the worry about manhood and sexual orientation; and the difficulties of developing intimate relationships. In sharing their stories, these courageous men demonstrate what bravely deciding to face your inner demons can bring you: trust, resolution, and connection. .

In listening to this book, you'll discover how to safely experience emotions again and relate to others with confidence and security. Dr. Gartner also helps you shed the long-held conviction that you can either be a man or a victim but not both, and he teaches you how to determine who you really are and develop new, more flexible concepts of masculinity. Beyond Betrayal shows you that you can take charge of your recovery while living your life to its fullest potential. .

©2005 Richard B. Gartner (P)2012 Audible, Inc.

Reseñas de la Crítica

"With compassion and clarity, Richard Gartner shares insights from years of working with male survivors. Among this book's greatest strengths is the extensive use of examples from Dr. Gartner's clinical practice to illustrate problems and solutions on the path to healing. Beyond Betrayal offers support, encouragement, and useful skills to men in recovery." (Mike Lew, M.Ed., author of Victims No Longer and Leaping upon the Mountains)

"If you have been sexually abused, this book will give you information, hope, direction, and most importantly, the assurance that you are not alone. Dr. Gartner has written an accessible, compassionate book that clearly lays out the healing process for men who were hurt or abused as children. Whether you were abused by a mother, a camp counselor, a neighborhood boy, or a priest, Beyond Betrayal will give you the tools you need to reclaim your life and move on. If you're going to take one book with you on the healing journey, this should be the one." (Laura Davis, coauthor of The Courage to Heal and author of The Courage to Heal Workbook)

"Compassionate, insightful, and hopeful, Beyond Betrayal shines a bright light. It is a must-read for anyone concerned." (Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D., author of Silently Seduced)

A Great Blessing

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

Yes. Although there is little reference to religion in this book, I could not help but sense the hand of the Divine in it. It seems to perfectly and compassionately convey hard earned knowledge and wisdom, bringing desperately needed understanding on the affects of childhood sexual abuse. This book will greatly bless those who have been victims, as well as friends and family journeying with them. It is a must read.

What other book might you compare Beyond Betrayal: Taking Charge of Your Life after Boyhood Sexual Abuse to and why?

"The Narcissistic Family" is also a very well written and informative book, though it is written for therapists.

What about Fleet Cooper’s performance did you like?

A gifted narrator, Fleet Cooper allows the listener to entirely take in what is being communicated.

What did you learn from Beyond Betrayal: Taking Charge of Your Life after Boyhood Sexual Abuse that you would use in your daily life?

I gained an understanding of the common and negative affects of the abuse throughout the victim's life. This understanding allows for the beginning of the breaking of the bonds that have come as a result of the abuse.

Any additional comments?

I appreciate the gentle approach the author takes--one that is absent of blame.

Good book

I am now 58 years old. this book is the story of my life so for. I have found a solution to many of these problems is the Lord Jesus Christ is my personal savior getting saved prophesying over myself that you are going to be safe today. breathing practicing breathing techniques

Very informative

I'm still listening to this book; but, I was excited to write a review of this book, because I've been learning so much about myself, and I thought that I was the only person in this world with the feelings that I feel - But, now I know there are others, thanks to this book. I am happy now; feeling less depressed, because of what has been revealed to me. Thank you 😁

Im a Male survivor and this book was life changing

Im a survivor of 5 years of childhood sexual abuse by family friend who lived next door. This book was amazing and really taught me a lot about myself as a Male survivor.

Saved my life

being survivor of being molested and raped by a priest from ages 9 to 11 and also the domestic violence that occurred in my household as a child I found this book a tremendous tremendous asset. make sure you at least get to the last chapter that helps you fight and improve your life and how to get over the trauma. stay positive people you can do it!

A Book for Male Victims - FINALLY!

This is the first book I've listened to that was written from the perspective of a male sexual abuse victim. I'm so glad I found it. It was very well done and I would recommend it to any male survivor of childhood sexual abuse.

Overall a good overview- more info needed on how partners and family are effected when an abused person cannot relate.

Overall a good explanation of how this happens and the effects. But too much time spent explaining how each person was abused.
Would have liked more info on ways they can recover, how this effects how they relate. And especially more info on how a partner and the family can be effected, and what they can do to help and how to help the abused person see what damage they are doing.

loved it

opened my mind to alot to what I didn't know why i was feeling and convinced me to get help

Raped and put into sex slavery

even though you are considered mentally handicapped in every major sacred text from every major religion he believes you are only conscious if you can prove you have a job. Being mentally handicapped according to every major consciousness raising figure in history is the same thing as being conscious in this book. Raped sex slavery for this man's preferred Prostitution based religion is where I'm headed now great.