Being the Change

Thriving in postmenopause - 'Meticulously researched and will give all women much needed hope' (Christie Watson)

By: Stella Duffy

'Inclusive, compassionate ... Stella Duffy shows us how to grasp with both hands the vibrant new story that's waiting for us during our 'vital third act' SHARON BLACKIE, author of Hagitude and Ripening

We live between a quarter or even a third of our lives in postmenopause. But although there's been a welcome focus on perimenopause and menopause recently, postmenopause often remains ignored, misunderstood and even feared.

Psychotherapist Dr Stella Duffy wants us to ask: what if menopause isn't the end, but a wake-up call to our vital third act? And what if postmenopause is an opportunity to finally live life on our own terms?

Drawing on original research, stories from the therapy room and Duffy's own experience of medical menopause, Being the Change inspires us to use this transition to postmenopause as an opportunity to pay attention to what we really want. Duffy takes us through questions including what has held us back in the past, how areas like friendship, sex, work and ambition can be impacted by this transition, and what it's like to live in our changing bodies. Duffy's aim is to help us figure out how we want to live, what it would mean to thrive - and then act on it.

'Erudite, important and timely. Stella Duffy's postmenopause guide is meticulously researched and will give all women much needed hope' Christie Watson

'Uplifting and celebratory, Duffy's writing is like a great friend holding your hand and cheering you on as you embrace the transformative potential of menopause' Sophie Harman, author of Sick of It

'Duffy's compassionate, energising, and gently defiant prose convinces me that our 'vital third act' can be our best one yet' Julia Bueno, author of Everyone's a Critic©2027 Stella Duffy (P)2027 Little, Brown Book Group Limited

Critic reviews

Inclusive, compassionate and skilfully straddling the line between inspirational and down-to-earth, Stella Duffy shows us how to flow with the current of change, and to grasp with both hands the vibrant new story that's waiting for us during our 'vital third act'

Being The Change is erudite, important and timely. Stella Duffy's postmenopause guide is meticulously researched and will give all women much needed hope

Stella Duffy is always both witty and wise, a rare and incredibly useful combination

Uplifting and celebratory, Duffy's writing is like a great friend holding your hand and cheering you on as you embrace the transformative potential of menopause

Duffy's compassionate, energising, and gently defiant prose convinces me that our 'vital third act' can be our best one yet