What happens when you've finally reached the goal you've been working towards?

You've had a string of great competitions. Your horse feels incredible. You're getting the results you've been hoping for. And then a thought creeps in: “What happens when this stops?”

In this episode I and Lorna explore what happens mentally when you've reached a peak in your riding, and why the fear of the next dip can sometimes stop you from fully enjoying where you are right now. Because performance isn't a straight line. There will be peaks, plateaus, mistakes, setbacks and days when things simply don't work. But does a bad result actually mean you've become a worse rider? Not necessarily.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why riders can become afraid of losing a successful streak
• What happens when your identity becomes attached to your results
• Why consistency doesn't mean getting the same result every time
• The difference between PERFORMANCE and PROGRESS Why your performance curve naturally moves up and down
• How mistakes and difficult rides can provide valuable information
• Why pushing your comfort zone often creates temporary dips
• How to avoid turning one bad ride into a story about your ability
• Why you don't need to make a bad performance bigger than it actually is
• The importance of accepting that sometimes you simply didn't ride your best
• Why peaks and troughs are both necessary parts of growth
• How fear of a future setback can stop you from enjoying a current success
• Why you can hold both a great result and the possibility of a difficult day
• How your full range of emotions can actually support performance and growth

Resources Mentioned:

Coaching & support: https://www.mindeq.eu/coaching

Weekly Hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks

Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau

Midas's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/midas_forestier_sellier/

Midas's Email: mdebruyne@forestier.com

Have you ever made a mistake while riding and then spent hours, days, or even months thinking about it?

Maybe other people saw it happen. Maybe you immediately started wondering what they thought. Or perhaps one mistake turned into a much bigger story in your head: “I can’t see a distance.” “I’m not good enough to ride at this level.” “Everyone thinks I’m terrible.” “Maybe I’m not ready for this.”

In this episode, we explore why a mistake can feel so much bigger than the few seconds it actually took to happen, and how the meaning we attach to that mistake can keep affecting our riding long after the moment has passed.

I and Lorna discuss:

• Why we often care so much about other people seeing our mistakes
• How our own judgement of a mistake can amplify our worries about other people's opinions
• The difference between a mistake and the story you create around it
• How a growth mindset can help you see mistakes as information rather than proof that you're not good enough
• Why stepping up a level often brings old fears and patterns back to the surface
• How your brain can turn one uncomfortable experience into a rule designed to keep you safe
• Why you don't need to eliminate nerves, fear or self-doubt before you can ride effectively
• How you can be nervous and still ride your canter
• Why trying to stop thinking about something can actually make the thought stronger
• How redirecting your attention can help you get back to what matters during a round
• The difference between avoidance and acceptance
• Why getting comfortable with being uncomfortable is part of personal growth
• How to start unravelling the deeper beliefs and identity stories sitting underneath a mistake

Resources Mentioned:

Coaching & support: https://www.mindeq.eu/coaching

Weekly Hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks

Email: info@mindeq.eu

Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau

Do you keep taking more lessons, trying harder and working on your riding… but still find yourself struggling with the same problems? What if the problem isn't your riding?

In this episode, I and Lorna explore 7 signs that what you're experiencing in the saddle may be more of a mindset issue than a riding or skill issue. Because knowing how to ride something and being able to access that skill when it matters are two very different things. From worrying about what other people think to allowing one mistake to ruin an entire round, they break down some of the mental patterns that can quietly interfere with your performance.

We also explore why trying harder isn't always the answer, why you don't need to feel confident before pushing outside your comfort zone, and why your results shouldn't determine what you think about yourself as a rider.

Coaching & support: https://www.mindeq.eu/coaching

Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau