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Look... every couple struggles. You fight too much; you're bored; sex is either okay (or rare); maybe you're even considering divorce. OR... maybe your marriage is actually pretty good, but you want to go deeper. In this podcast, straight-talking marriage therapist Zach Brittle tackle the most common complaints virtually every marriage experience. Along the way, they reveal the science behind strong relationships and talk about what's really going on for couples. Topics include conflict, communication, compatibility, money, sex, in-laws, infidelity, time-management, future dreams, and more. If you want relief? A deeper connection? A new way forward...? Then you've got to find out what's REALLY going on in your marriage. That's what this podcast is about. You can learn more about Zach, and his alternatives to traditional therapy at marriagetherapyradio.com.

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  • Ep 442 Inside a Real Gottman Marriage: Don and Carrie Cole on Repair, Second Marriages, and The New Marriage Clinic Casebook

    Ep 442 Inside a Real Gottman Marriage: Don and Carrie Cole on Repair, Second Marriages, and The New Marriage Clinic Casebook
    Sep 15 2026
    Zach sits down with Don and Carrie Cole, the Gottman Institute's clinical director and research director, and asks the question the show always comes back to: forget the credentials, what actually makes your own marriage work? Both Coles came into this relationship out of first marriages that failed. Don spent years stuffing his feelings to avoid upsetting his first wife, and it cost him the marriage. Carrie survived a relationship that was psychologically and physically abusive, what she still calls "manhandling" rather than assign it the harsher name it deserves. Thirty years later, with an anniversary trip already booked, they're still negotiating a blended family, a chronic disagreement about punctuality, and an unmade bed, while trying to actually practice what they've spent their careers teaching.The conversation moves fast between the personal and the professional, because for the Coles those two things are the same material. Don walks through the three words he tells every couple in therapy, "that makes sense," and what it costs him to mean them when his wife brings him a plan he didn't ask for. Carrie explains the physiological version of the same idea, how her heart rate visibly drops when Don validates her, and how the worst sign in a relationship isn't two partners fighting, it's one partner's pain landing on a partner who feels nothing at all. They trace their own origin story back to a staff meeting in the mid-90s, before they were a couple, when Don asked Carrie if she'd ever heard of John Gottman and she said she owned everything he'd ever written. From there the two of them talk candidly about where the Gottman Method runs out of answers, the couples where one partner is in and one is out, the ones who've gone flat instead of fighting, and where they'd push back on John Gottman himself if the science let them.The back half of the episode turns to The New Marriage Clinic Casebook, a new collection Don and Carrie edited for the Gottman Institute, seventeen chapters from seventeen different clinicians, including one contributed by Zach himself. The throughline of the book is that almost nobody walks into couples therapy with just a relationship problem. Depression, addiction, trauma, eating disorders, and affairs all tend to show up in the room too, and Don and Carrie talk through which chapters from their contributors surprised them and why. Zach's read on the whole conversation, echoed straight back to him, is the throughline of just about every good relationship the show has ever featured: take care of your own side of the street first. For anyone who assumes the experts have it figured out and the rest of us are just behind, this is a look at two people who wrote the research and still have to work at it.Key TakeawaysLearning to speak up about your needs, instead of stuffing them to keep the peace, is what prevented Don's second marriage from repeating his first one's slow build of resentment.Surviving an abusive first marriage taught Carrie two rules for her second: never allow herself to be mistreated again, and never let anyone tell her no. That's what she credits for her lasting gratitude toward Don.Once you control for blended families and stepchildren, the divorce rate for second marriages isn't actually higher than for first marriages, it just looks that way in the aggregate."That makes sense" is Don's shorthand for accepting influence. You don't have to agree with your partner's plan to validate that their reasoning makes sense, and doing it consistently changes the emotional temperature of a marriage.Repair after snapping at your partner isn't about placating them. It's about recognizing you crossed a line with someone you love and making it right, which is a different motivation entirely.In relationship research, mutual negativity between partners is actually a better sign than indifference. A partner whose mood isn't affected at all by their spouse's distress is a worse predictor than a couple who fights.Real validation has three steps: naming the feeling, having your partner accurately reflect it back, and confirming out loud that they got it. That third step, confirmed understanding, is what actually lands.The hardest couples to treat aren't the loud ones. They're the ambivalent couples where one partner is in and one is out, and the "disaffected" couples who've stopped fighting because they've stopped caring.Guest InfoDr. Don Cole Clinical director of the Gottman InstituteDr. Carrie Cole Research director of the Gottman InstituteThey've been married almost 30 years, a second marriage for both, and blended a family that included Carrie's two children from her first marriage and Don's son. They're on the episode to talk about their own relationship and to introduce The New Marriage Clinic Casebook, a seventeen-chapter book they edited for the Gottman Institute featuring contributions from clinicians across the field, including a chapter written by Zach himself, on couples ...
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    50 mins
  • Ep 441 The Women Who Cheat And The Betrayed Men w/Adam & Judith Nisenson

    Ep 441 The Women Who Cheat And The Betrayed Men w/Adam & Judith Nisenson
    Sep 8 2026
    Zach sits down with Adam and Judith Nisenson, a husband and wife who both work in the betrayal space from opposite sides. Adam is known online as the betrayal shrink and works almost exclusively with men who have been cheated on. Judith works with women who have cheated, and hosts her own podcast, Women Cheat Too. They're four years into their second marriage together, and Zach opens by asking who they are as a couple before getting into the work.The conversation moves through their own story first: seven years of friendship before their first date, and Adam telling Judith he was all in before their first weekend together was even over. From there they get into the parts of betrayal that rarely get said out loud. Judith argues that women almost never cheat for sex itself, that it's usually a transactional stand in for validation and attention they aren't getting at home. Adam pushes back on the double standard that lets men off the hook for cheating while women who cheat get treated like the lowest part of the earth. They also talk candidly about their own healing: Judith describes losing her voice in her first marriage and slowly rebuilding it through yoga training and years in Landmark Worldwide, and Adam traces his own change back to the Mankind Project and the fear he carried into his first marriage of ever speaking his truth.Where the episode really lands is Adam's phrase for it: the gift of betrayal. He tells the men in his groups that if they aren't willing to look at their own part, not the affair itself, but the avoidance or unconsciousness that made room for it, there's no gift in going through it at all. Judith and Adam agree on something bigger too: betrayal is betrayal, whether it's an affair or a partner who quietly checked out of the marriage years before they said so, and nobody gets to rank whose pain counts more.For a couple listening who suspects they're further along in this than they want to admit, or for anyone bracing to hear that their own version of betrayal doesn't count because no one physically cheated, this episode makes the case that the work is the same either way: find your voice, stop pretending, and do the far harder job of understanding what happened instead of just surviving it.Key TakeawaysWomen rarely cheat for the sex itself, it's usually a stand in for validation, attention, and feeling seenSociety punishes women who cheat far more harshly than it punishes men who cheatAn emotional affair can do as much damage as a physical one, sometimes moreLosing your own voice in a relationship is its own quiet form of betrayalHealing starts with the individual work, not the couples workReframing an affair as "the gift of betrayal" only works if you're willing to look at your own partBetrayal isn't only an affair. A partner who checked out long before they said so counts too, and the impact isn't a competitionSmall, consistent rituals, like a monthly love letter, keep a relationship honest over the long runGuest InfoAdam Nisenson, LMFT, CSAT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex addiction therapist known online as The Betrayal Shrink. His own betrayal journey started 13 years ago, and out of it he created the Masculine Betrayal Trauma (MBT) framework for how men uniquely experience and process partner betrayal. He wrote A Man's Guide to Partner Betrayal: Overcoming the Pain and Repercussions of a Cheating Partner, hosts the podcast Men Get Cheated On Too!, and runs private coaching, men's betrayal groups, and Brotherhood in Betrayal retreats. Website: betrayalshrink.com Instagram: @betrayalshrinkJudith Flores-Nisenson is the founder of WomensWRK, an ICF Associate Certified Coach (ACC) and APSATS Certified Partner Coach (CPC) who works with women on every side of betrayal, including women who've betrayed a partner. She hosts the podcast Women Cheat Too!, now more than 50 episodes in, and runs coaching groups including an 8-week Women Cheat TOO track. Also known professionally as Judith Nisenson. Website: womenswrk.com Instagram: @womens.wrkAdam and Judith are married, and often present complementary sides of betrayal work, Adam with men who've been cheated on, Judith with women who've done the cheating.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    41 mins
  • Ep 440 Married, Divorced, Remarried: How One Couple Rebuilt a Marriage From Scratch w/Neal & Rachel

    Ep 440 Married, Divorced, Remarried: How One Couple Rebuilt a Marriage From Scratch w/Neal & Rachel
    Sep 1 2026
    Zach sits down with Neal and Rachel Miskell, a couple who got married in 2008, divorced, and remarried years later, and asks the question most people never get to ask a couple who made it back: what actually happened in between? Rachel is a mom of three and a marketing director for the 11th Force Support Squadron on an Air Force base. Neal had just come home from Afghanistan when their marriage started to unravel, carrying PTSD, contempt, and a habit of projecting his pain onto Rachel. The conversation is less about what broke them than about the specific, unglamorous work that put them back together.Neal traces his turning point to therapy, and to one question from his therapist that he still remembers word for word: have you ever listened to yourself talk? That's the moment he learned what congruency meant, that his thoughts, words, and actions weren't lining up, and started doing the harder work of owning his part, including a small, petty story about refusing to buy Rachel a birthday gift that he still isn't proud of. Rachel tells her side plainly: she wasn't interested in fixing anything at first. She wanted to tolerate what was happening, not repair it, and she refused to go to therapy until she'd decided for herself whether the marriage could actually be different. The shift for her didn't come from Neal's effort alone. It came the day their divorce was finalized, watching how hurt he was, and realizing she'd made a mistake.What makes the episode land is how unsentimental both of them are about the process. Neal describes the two and a half years he spent doing his own work while Rachel wasn't ready to meet him there, and the moment he finally had to be at peace with the possibility that she never would be. Rachel names her own condition plainly: therapy, together, or nothing. They talk about the R3 framework Neal built out of that period, regulated, respectful, repairable, and Reframe, the communication tool he created to help couples catch toxic patterns before they cause damage. Zach's read on the whole thing is the throughline that ties it together: people don't change until something forces them to, and the real skill isn't avoiding the blowup, it's learning how to repair after one. For anyone wondering whether a broken marriage can actually be rebuilt, or bracing for the possibility that it can't, this is a rare look at two people who did it twice.Key TakeawaysRepair matters more than perfection. Neal and Rachel are explicit that their second marriage isn't conflict-free, it's just better at recovering from conflict.Change that only happens under threat of losing the relationship isn't the finish line. The real work is learning to keep changing once the threat is gone."The pattern is the problem, not the person" reframes blame into something both partners can actually work on together.Refusing therapy isn't always avoidance. For Rachel, it was about deciding for herself whether the marriage could change before she'd risk being hurt again.Congruency, when your thoughts, words, and actions actually line up, is a specific, checkable thing, not a vague self-improvement goal.Small resentments compound. Neal's story about withholding a birthday gift shows how petty moments build into the bigger pattern that ends a marriage.Watching a partner sustain change over years, not weeks, is often what makes reconciliation possible.A shared condition, like committing to therapy together, can be the line that turns "maybe" into "yes."Guest InfoNeal Miskell is a U.S. Marine Corps veteran and the founder of WEreFrame LLC, creator of Reframe, a communication tool built on the R3 framework (regulated, respectful, repairable) that helps people catch toxic communication patterns before they cause damage. He and Rachel married in 2008, divorced, and remarried after several years of individual and couples therapy. He's on the episode to walk through what his own accountability work looked like from the inside, and to talk about the tool he built out of that process.Rachel Miskell is a mom of three and a marketing director for the 11th Force Support Squadron, supporting programs for single airmen and families on an Air Force base. She's Neal's wife, and she's on the episode as a voice in her own right: the partner who refused therapy until she was ready, who needed real evidence of change before she'd risk trusting it again, and who ultimately chose to rebuild the marriage on her own terms.Website: wereframe.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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