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From Congressman Todd Akin's "legitimate rape" gaffe to the high school rapists of Steubenville, Ohio, to the furor at Vanderbilt, sexual violence has been so prominent in recent years that the feminist term "rape culture" has finally entered the mainstream. But what exactly is it? And how do we change it?

In Asking for It, Kate Harding answers those questions in the same blunt, no-nonsense voice that has made her a powerhouse feminist blogger. Combining in-depth research with practical knowledge, Asking for It makes the case that 21st-century America - where it's estimated that out of every 100 rapes only five result in felony convictions - supports rapists more effectively than victims. Harding offers ideas and suggestions for addressing how we as a culture can take rape much more seriously without compromising the rights of the accused.

©2015 Kate Harding (P)2015 Blackstone Audio, Inc.

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  • Jo Green
  • Cordova, TN, United States
  • 11-17-16

Clear, concise, and thought provoking.

Kate Harding has laid out clearly what women go through. If you read the book you will get the point of view of the victims in a very well presented manner. The narrator was easy to listen to, had pleasant voice, and it seemed as though I was hearing the voice of the writer. Definitely worth the listen if you have any women in your life that you love. I felt this book presented thoughts that many women/victims have, but it voiced them for us in a fearless way.

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powerful

This is an excellent critique of contemporary western culture's general interpretation of rape. the author is particularly adroit at deconstructing the myths that form our notions of what constitutes rape. she balances intellectual analysis with irreverent sarcasm to great effect. I do, however, wish there had been a deeper/broader treatment of the a priori relationship dynamics between rapist and victim, or at least an examination of the contextual and psychological details involved. this kind of inclusion could help readers understand some of the circumstantial nuances and individual assumptions that take place within specific rape/victim contexts. there is a continuum, for instance, between flirtation, arousal, and consent that is often inconsistent. complicated by the conflict between cultural norms, personal values, and physical desires, sexual behavior is often difficult to understand and interpret. these are the unexplored moments that feed the myth cycle and result in victims feeling guilty & rapists feeling wrongly accused. although the author does discuss these ideas, the topic could use deeper analysis. perhaps in another book?

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Timely and we'll thought out book

This book does an amazing job of putting to words the problems with society and our culture of rape. Kate Harding also describes consent and how it should be in a clear way. I have recommended this book. to my teenage children and my adult family, friends, and co-workers.

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  • 09-21-17

Rape Culture Is Still Entrenched

The author reports on various cases of sexual assault in recent news. Sadly, American culture continues to denigrate & blame victims for "asking for it" by their choice of clothes, alcoholic consumption, the places they go, their physical existence as females. Rape is a criminal act whether perpetrated by a spouse or stranger. There is no mitigation except that dominant culture continues to accept the notions that "boys will be boys," that husbands own their wives, that "no means yes," that "he said, she said" is zero sum, that employers or teachers who have power can demand sex, etc. As long as we continue to wink & pretend that aggressive, violent, non-consensual sexual assault is "normal" behavior, rape culture will remain entrenched. We need accurate sex education in the schools & in the public square to teach people to respect sexual boundaries. The hypocrisy of religious organizations that denies sexuality continues to feed into rape culture. The author is pessimistic but encourages victims & their supporters to speak up, prosecute rapists, publicize the issues, demand legislation to protect women & penalize rapists. Men & teenaged boys should read this book.

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The most important book I've read all year!

I loved the message of
this book. It opened my eyes to situations I hadn't considered. This is a must read for all; teens on up.

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READ!!

Anyone, everyone, of all ages, genders, races and classes MUST read or listen to this book. It will BLOW YOUR MIND!!

It will break your heart, make you laugh out loud at Harding's witty remarks and explanations. She doesn't hold back at all her writing so modern, daring and brave. The narrator, too, was WONDERFUL.

I laughed, I cried, I want to share this with everyone I know. It's effing brilliant!!

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Just Wow!

Every man and woman on this planet should be required to read this book. If they were, sexual assault would become a thing of the past. It really is that simple.

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Incredibly Important Read

The author uses research, legal examples, and outstanding logic to portray that rape not only happens, it is also a crime that for some reason isn't treated as such. I work in the legal system. Did you know I once saw a woman get 20 years for providing a fake alibi but saw no conviction for the guy who was caught by FIVE witnesses raping and unconscious woman? Better yet, the second guy ADMITTED it in text messages, but the jury decided that somehow those texts weren't relevant. This is the world we live in. READ THIS.

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a must read for all persons.

This book is a powerful and honest look at the horrific reality of rape culture.

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Enjoyed having my sentiments echoed

I loved this. it's a great modern day feminist work about the pervasiveness of rape culture. it's accurate and thoughtful without being pedantic.

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