• Anatomy of an Affair

  • How Affairs, Attractions, and Addictions Develop, and How to Guard Your Marriage Against Them
  • By: Dave Carder
  • Narrated by: Tom Parks
  • Length: 5 hrs and 43 mins
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (128 ratings)

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Anatomy of an Affair

By: Dave Carder
Narrated by: Tom Parks
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Publisher's summary

When it comes to adultery, never say, "It won't happen to me."

Just when you think your marriage is safe from adultery is when you may be the most vulnerable. With eye-opening stories, clinical insights, and up-to-date data, Dave Carder reveals what adulterers learned the hard way - and what they want the rest of us to know to save us the pain. Dave Carder, counselor and author of the best-selling Torn Asunder (100,000 in print), is a sought-after expert on issues of adultery. Here he helps you make your marriage adultery-proof by showing you:

  • How attractions can lead to affairs
  • Ways you may be vulnerable to affairs
  • The common ingredients of adultery
  • How to restore intimacy to your marriage
  • How to make wise, protective decisions
  • Marriage is too sacred to be taken casually

Affairs are a very real threat, and they can destroy lives and families. For this reason, Anatomy of an Affair should be on every church leader's and marriage counselor's required book list, and in the lives of every married couple.

©2017 eChristian (P)2017 eChristian

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Hard to relate, as a non-evangelical

The premise makes some sense from a pathological perspective but it gets lost in religious propaganda, seemingly intensifying as the book progresses. I’m not necessarily looking for encouragement to put my problems in God’s hands (or blame the devil instead of taking personal responsibility)! The hypocrisy of the perpetrators’ stories was distracting and ultimately detracting. The written exercises and lists definitely do not translate into audio.

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Very good!

It explains amazingly the different kind of affairs. Why people cheat and the link between family or origin and infidelity. it also gives tips to avoid the affair. Sadly, you do not read it until you already have a BROKEN HEART.

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Excellent read

I couldn’t stop listening and I’ll actually buy a hard copy. It was quite an eye opener and learnt a lot. I’ll recommend it to my wife and friends.

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A Christian approach to infidelity

This book is far too conservative for me. Having a friend of the opposite sex is called a "close call" . In my opinion, the whole subject is mainly based on fear, guilt and shame. On the other hand, in one chapter there are some exercises to reconnect with the spouse, that some may find useful.

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Affairs are more than sex

This book is the first book that I have ever read that discussed the emotional and addictive parts of an affair. I found David Carter’s ideas extremely enlightening. This book, if followed, could save someone a lot of grief.

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Excellent book

The title had me unsure if I wanted to read this, but the description made me interested. I really enjoyed it for such a sensitive subject. Very informative and relatable. Lots of useful exercises that I can’t wait to do with my husband to learn more about ourselves, each other and to help protect our marriage. Highly recommend.

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Love this book!

I read it twice! It is a wonderful, insightful book on how to deal with close calls in your marriage.

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Excellent book

Helpful for understanding affairs & addictions & identifying ways to proactively insulate yourself/relationship from it for life

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My thoughts

I did like some of the valuable information based on experiences of individual and couples through a betrayal and affair. I found no space for same sex relationships but could put it into context for myself. Am not a faithful Christian but a believer and looked to this book as a resource of information for note taking and consideration of my place in this as person directly affected by an affair left to sift through my own experiences, information and perspective of where I feel comfortable in the process of moving forward, together or individually.

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Simply Awesome

I believe audio books need to be easy to listen to, even to necessary mundane details, as well as contain captivating stories to keep our attention. This book offers both at a very high level. Simply awesome!

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  • 02-20-19

Loved it!!

Loved the book. Definitely recommend it. I'll send buying one for my friends and family members.

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  • 10-19-21

Religiões based

No real support from a non-religious perspective. feels judgemental and unhelpful for the reader, despite of what side of the story you are

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