12 Stupid Things That Mess Up Recovery
Avoiding Relapse through Self-Awareness and Right Action
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Narrated by:
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Matthew Boston
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Allen Berger PhD
About this listen
Concise advice on hunting down the personal culprits that sabotage sobriety and personal happiness.
To grow in recovery, we must grow up emotionally. This means getting honest with ourselves and facing up to the self-defeating thoughts and actions that put our sobriety at risk. Although there are as many ways to mess up recovery as there are alcoholics and addicts, some general themes exist, which include: confusing self-concern with selfishness; not making amends; using the program to try to become perfect; not getting help for relationship troubles; and believing that life should be easy.
In simple, down-to-earth language, Allen Berger explores the 12 most commonly confronted beliefs and attitudes that can sabotage recovery. He then provides tools for working through these problems in daily life. This useful guide offers fresh perspectives on how the process of change begins with basic self-awareness and a commitment to working a daily program.
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- 01-17-21
Great useful book
An excellent book which is helping me in my recovery. Great companion to regular AA meeting participation.
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A real journey to self discovery
I want to say thank you, thank you you’re booked help me so much understand the 12 steps and the path to recovery. You break it down and help me understand recovery so much. It was such journey to self discovery and help me believe it’s possible.
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- Krystal M.
- 05-01-21
informative
loved it makes a lot of sense... all the points the author makes. loved it so much!
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Hilarious and True...the humor helps us to earnestly reflect inward. Very powerful. Thank you!
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A hilarious and poignant recovery wake up call! As a scholar and Christian Theology graduate I found this secular book and non Christian reference added levity with stark reminders for those struggling to look inward and reflect on current thoughts, decisions, and actions. Hilarious and powerful. Thank you!
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- 09-20-22
Just the 12 steps
Poor narration that sounds robotic and just an overview in “scientific” terms of the 12 steps.
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