Dating with trauma — Pt. 1: how being a queer, femme-presenting survivor makes intimacy feel like a science experiment gone wrong: safe feels boring, unsafe feels electric, and sometimes you end up dating the wrong people not because you’re not queer — but because trauma, visibility, and thrill-seeking all team up to make the roster messy.

this is Trauma Mommy Part 1: dating with trauma. reading my messy journal, complaining about men, and being honest about why i—queer femme, horny, and fragile—still end up seeing more dudes than chicks. it’s not because i’m “less gay,” it’s because women often feel safe — and safe feels boring when your brain wants fireworks. add childhood abuse, dissociation during sex, daddy-vampire energy, negging, and catcalls, and you get this beautiful chaos that i call my love life.

i talk about saying “no” with no excuse, why attention is addicting even when it’s gross, and the weird gap between wanting control and wanting to be taken. i riff on age gaps as one example of that bait-and-switch pattern, read journal lines about who i actually am, and end with my bubble metaphor for healing (blow the stupid wand — tiny wins count). funny, horny, dark, and real — part one because this is too big for one episode.

Trauma Mommy Pt.1 — attraction, dissociation, and why safe love feels boring. daddy vampires, saying “no” as a flex, and the small wins of healing.

• Trauma Mommy on Spotify → https://open.spotify.com/show/5YTdgyWy2s3VS6vtEPa952 (Spotify)

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• Yenta! podcast episode with you → https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/yenta/episodes/You-Need-a-Coat-Hanger-in-Bushwick-aka-Toilet-Babies-with-Kylie-Vincent-e36hsb0 (Spotify for Creators)

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This week on *Trauma Queen*, I’m joined by my hilarious friend and stand-up powerhouse **Olivia Carter**.

We dive into everything from the trauma of toxic relationships to navigating new love without losing yourself.

We talk comedy, sex, hookup culture, trust issues, and how surviving assault shapes the way we move through the world.We also get into the darker corners of the industry—misogyny in stand-up, the male “ally list” we should really make, and what it means to joke about rape culture without losing your soul (or your spot on stage).

Plus: Epstein conspiracies, Brandy Melville being actual children’s clothes, Joe Rogan asking me if I want kids, and how Olivia once tried hookup culture and immediately said “nah.”If you’ve ever been confused by dating, laughed through your trauma, or wondered if the algorithm is censoring women harder than anyone else—this is your episode.

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:The episode features an interview with Canadian therapist Sarah Hull. The host, Kylie Vincent, and Hall discuss the "trauma of being misdiagnosed" and an underlying fear of the mental health medical field.They also talk about how a lack of understanding of mental health can make people feel "broken" and "stuck". The conversation covers the concept of neuroplasticity and how understanding it can reduce feelings of hopelessness.The discussion further explores the history of mental health diagnoses, including the DSM and the now-removed diagnosis of "hysteria".They connect these historical diagnoses to systemic issues like patriarchy and the misdiagnosis of women and queer people. The episode concludes with a conversation about the general distrust many people have with the medical system and how they can be retraumatized when attempting to seek help.

The discussion further explores the history of mental health diagnoses, including the DSM and the now-removed diagnosis of "hysteria". They connect these historical diagnoses to systemic issues like patriarchy and the misdiagnosis of women and queer people. The episode concludes with a conversation about the general distrust many people have with the medical system and how they can be retraumatized when attempting to seek help.

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The Trauma of Being an American | Trauma Queen Podcast

In this episode I kick off my new format, *The Trauma Of…*, starting with **the trauma of being an American.**

I talk about what it means to grow up Gen Z in a country where mass shootings and lockdown drills are normal, and how that shaped me during the Parkland era and beyond.

I unpack the shooting of Charlie Kirk, not just as a headline but as an example of who gets to claim victimhood in America, and why our reactions to violence are so politicized.

I get into abortion—my own experience, how the left polices the way women are “allowed” to talk about it, and the reality of living in a country where maternal mortality rates climb while access gets stripped away.

I also take on resilience culture: the way survivors are praised for “bouncing back” instead of anyone questioning why we had to survive it in the first place.All of it ties back to the American myths of freedom, denial, and polarization—how both the right and the left are failing us, and why survival in this country gets mistaken for strength.

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Sources and references in this episode include:

* *The Daily* (Michael Barbaro + Robert Draper) on Charlie Kirkhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sODN9H3pgdU* *This Is Propaganda* with Amelia Bonner on abortion storytellinghttps://open.spotify.com/episode/4OHkHLm0TRmpORlT4zrT4a?si=fkSFP04QSxGYjfjubIRtMg* Amanda Montell’s *Magical Overthinker* on resilience culturehttps://open.spotify.com/episode/3xsTIrsNxir1kLIudEazyr?si=gBBrg_dnQ_qdUZzjvJPWXg

This week I dig up my old “Dear Salt” series (like Dear Sugar, but if she had cPTSD and worse boundaries). A listener writes in about getting harassed while babysitting in New York, and we spiral into what it means to protect kids, cry on public transit, and still feel like a “bad feminist” because you didn’t scream at a 6’7” man on the sidewalk.

I talk about coming off a pharmaceutical buffet of antidepressants, dating while avoidantly attached, and why my best relationship is still with my dog. Also: Target food court trauma, Michelle Obama ruining soft pretzels, and why the only recourse against men might be public humiliation.

If you’ve ever replayed an interaction with a creep 400 times, this one’s for you. It’s unhinged, funny, and deeply unserious about very serious things.

New episodes every Friday.
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Keywords: trauma comedy podcast, queer comedian, survivor stories, feminist humor, antidepressant recovery, avoidant attachment, Kylie Vincent

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I struggle with the idea of being a survivor. I have guilt that my assault(s) don't take up much space in my mind. In my day to day, I don't think of it much, but when I'm in a similar setting as when it occurred (a physical therapy session) I get really anxious, uncomfortable, sweaty, and angry. It makes me upset that I never said anything, and it makes me upset that I feel like imposter syndrome about it. I do feel it wasn't as bad as others' experiences have been, but I know that doesn't mean that my experience wasn't painful- it still violated me, crossed my boundaries and was evil. It was so subtle, that's what was so evil about it. Felt nuanced and so I didn't report anything because I felt so confused. I've been confused about it for years. I feel nervous going to the gynecologist and I just get emotional whenever I have to lay down in a medical setting and expose myself. Overall- I'm okay, I feel alright. I think it's just those settings I remember anything even happened to me, and that makes me feel guilty. I feel guilty that I feel okay, that my mind hasn't processed it on some level. Also I just want to say thank you for creating a space for me and this resource. <3 you're amazing.

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Kylie Vincent's "Trauma Queen Diaries" podcast is known for its Gen-Z dark humor, which she uses to address taboo but relatable topics such as mental illness and familial abuse. In her own words, she created the persona of "Trauma Queen" to "own that title and not feel like a a victim of that title, a victim of trauma". Instead, she positions herself as a "survivor of trauma and a queen who has kind of like, come through it".

The podcast is a medium for Vincent's creative visual storytelling, with her content often being described as a combination of "misery memoir and wryly observational humour". The show aims to make people feel "less alone in their trauma" by being honest, hilarious, and tear-jerking.

The show is described as a "heartfelt, thought-provoking piece that can make anyone feel less alone in their trauma". Vincent's approach is to address trauma in a way that is not sensationalized or self-indulgent, using comedy as a defense mechanism to navigate her own difficult life experiences. The podcast is not the only project under the "Trauma Queen" name; Vincent also has a book series titled Trauma Queen Diaries vol 1.

The podcast discusses various aspects of healing from trauma, with some SEO keywords including mental health journey, depression survival story, suicide prevention, parenting with trauma, and generational trauma. The show focuses on normalizing conversations around challenging experiences and providing a free resource for survivors and allies to find "active and productive steps forward".

This week on Trauma Queen, Kylie Vincent records from the kitchen floor — where all great breakdowns (and breakthroughs) happen. In a world that’s burning, both online and off, she unpacks what it means to stay soft, angry, and outspoken when your vulnerability keeps getting weaponized — whether by algorithms or actual people.

From getting banned off Instagram for calling out abuse, to navigating PTSD, abortion recovery, and broken friendships, this episode asks: how do we hold onto connection when trust keeps getting ripped away? What’s the cost of being honest, especially as a queer artist? And is it still possible to be hopeful — even if you don’t have God, Instagram, or your uterus anymore?

This is a love letter to the survivors, the truth-tellers, the emotionally translucent gays, and the chaotic girls who still post from the ashes. Hope you’re doing okay. I’m not, but I am funny about it.

💥 Watch my special ⁠BIRD on YouTube⁠ (yes, it will change your life)🎟️ Come see my ⁠live shows⁠ — NYC + LA dates up now🛍️ Grab the new ⁠MERCH DROP⁠ — limited run, unhinged & wearable📸 Follow my backup IG: ⁠@kylievincenthasrisen & @freekylievincent⁠✨ Support the pod + BTS chaos: ⁠Patreon⁠

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