dating with trauma part 1

Dating with trauma — Pt. 1: how being a queer, femme-presenting survivor makes intimacy feel like a science experiment gone wrong: safe feels boring, unsafe feels electric, and sometimes you end up dating the wrong people not because you’re not queer — but because trauma, visibility, and thrill-seeking all team up to make the roster messy.

this is Trauma Mommy Part 1: dating with trauma. reading my messy journal, complaining about men, and being honest about why i—queer femme, horny, and fragile—still end up seeing more dudes than chicks. it’s not because i’m “less gay,” it’s because women often feel safe — and safe feels boring when your brain wants fireworks. add childhood abuse, dissociation during sex, daddy-vampire energy, negging, and catcalls, and you get this beautiful chaos that i call my love life.

i talk about saying “no” with no excuse, why attention is addicting even when it’s gross, and the weird gap between wanting control and wanting to be taken. i riff on age gaps as one example of that bait-and-switch pattern, read journal lines about who i actually am, and end with my bubble metaphor for healing (blow the stupid wand — tiny wins count). funny, horny, dark, and real — part one because this is too big for one episode.

Trauma Mommy Pt.1 — attraction, dissociation, and why safe love feels boring. daddy vampires, saying “no” as a flex, and the small wins of healing.

• Trauma Mommy on Spotify → https://open.spotify.com/show/5YTdgyWy2s3VS6vtEPa952 (Spotify)

• Trauma Mommy on Audacy → https://www.audacy.com/podcast/trauma-mommy-76d30 (Audacy)

Instagram / Social Media

• Instagram: @kylievincenthasrisen → https://www.instagram.com/kylievincenthasrisen/ (Instagram)

Appearances / Features / Extras

• What Happened To You? Ep #47 featuring Kylie Vincent → https://open.spotify.com/episode/7c4nITL5ldxIuc9iMFYN5R (Spotify)

• Yenta! podcast episode with you → https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/yenta/episodes/You-Need-a-Coat-Hanger-in-Bushwick-aka-Toilet-Babies-with-Kylie-Vincent-e36hsb0 (Spotify for Creators)

Support / Extras / Everything Else

• Patreon (for bonus content / behind-the-scenes) → https://patreon.com/kylievincentthefirst (Spotify for Creators)

• Beacons / link hub (all your links) → beacons.ai/kylievincent

• Watch Bird on YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cJmNJYOBslU