We live in a culture of extremes—where the loudest voice wins, emotional manipulation masquerades as influence, and overcorrection has become the new dysfunction. We see it in our families. We feel it in our churches. And when it finally shows up in our relationships, we wonder why everything feels so chaotic. This week on Win Today, Manny Arango is here to pull the curtain back on the deeper issues no one wants to admit. Together, we’re talking about the generational cycles of chaos we’ve inherited, how manipulation uses fear to gain control, and why overcorrecting for past pain only produces more dysfunction. And at the center of it all? The worship of self, disguised as confidence, but rooted in pride.

In this conversation, Manny exposes:

• The hidden tactics of emotional manipulation that we normalize
• How to recognize and break generational cycles of chaos
• Why overcorrection is not healing—it’s reactionary bondage
• What it really means to dethrone the god of self and let Christ take His rightful place

If you’re tired of pretending, if you’re sick of spiritual language being used to control, and if you’re ready to break the cycles that have defined your family and your faith, this episode will confront you, challenge you, and call you higher. Listen now.

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There’s a moment, often quietly, when you realize life didn’t turn out the way you thought it would. The dreams you chased, the milestones you reached—they didn’t deliver the satisfaction you imagined. And somewhere along the way, loneliness crept in, success started to feel hollow, and the constant pressure to optimize every part of your life became a crushing weight. This week on Win Today, Ian Simkins joins us to talk about the uncomfortable truths no one tells you about midlife. In this conversation, we’ll unpack:

• Why midlife often exposes the false gods we've been serving
• The unique, often hidden loneliness of your 40s—and how to navigate it
• How spiritual abuse leaves scars that don’t just go away with time
• Why efficiency, while celebrated, makes a terrible master
• The freedom that comes when you stop demanding success from God

Midlife isn’t a crisis. It’s an invitation. An invitation to reevaluate what you’ve been chasing, to heal what’s still wounded, and to walk with God in a deeper, quieter way. If you’re feeling stuck, unseen, or frustrated by the gap between your expectations and your reality, this episode will speak directly to where you are.

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Marriage has a way of exposing the wounds we thought we had buried. The unresolved pain, the unspoken insecurities, the habits we hoped would disappear—they all surface in the crucible of intimacy.

In this final installment of our LOVE LIKE THIS series, Dave & Ann Wilson—hosts of FamilyLife Today® and authors of Vertical Marriage—join us to discuss:

• Why your unhealed wounds inevitably show up in your marriage
• The devastating impact of words and how they can either crush or cultivate your spouse
• How intimacy, when misused, turns into manipulation
• Practical steps to break free from destructive cycles and foster genuine connection

With over four decades of marriage and ministry experience, Dave & Ann offer raw, relatable insights that challenge and inspire. Whether you're newly married or decades in, this conversation will equip you to confront the hidden dynamics that hinder true intimacy.

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• Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here!
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Many enter marriage believing it will be effortless—a seamless fusion of two souls destined for harmony. But what if this belief is the very thing setting couples up for disappointment? What if the key to a thriving marriage lies not in ease, but in intentional effort and understanding? This week on Win Today, Gabe and Rebekah Lyons join us to dismantle pervasive myths about marriage and intimacy. Drawing from their 28 years together, they offer candid insights into:

• The biggest lie about intimacy that's sabotaging relationships.
• Why viewing your spouse as a 'problem to solve' undermines connection.
• Understanding the anatomy of an affair and how to safeguard your marriage.
• The concept of marrying your emotional equivalent and its impact on relational dynamics.

In a culture that often glamorizes the idea of effortless romance, Gabe and Rebekah present a refreshing narrative—one that champions resilience, mutual growth, and the beauty of navigating challenges together. Whether you're single, engaged, or have been married for years, this conversation offers invaluable perspectives to cultivate a relationship that not only endures but flourishes.

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• Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here!
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In today's swipe-right culture, many believe love is something you stumble upon—a serendipitous event. But what if that mindset is sabotaging your relationships? What if true love is less about finding and more about forging? This week on Win Today, Kait and JJ Tomlin, renowned dating coaches and hosts of the Heart of Dating podcast, join us to dismantle dating myths and offer raw insights into building intentional relationships.

They delve into:

• The myth of "the one" and why love is intentionally built, not passively found.
• Differentiating between red flags and deal-breakers—and why knowing the difference can save you heartache.
• The art of sliding into DMs with authenticity and respect in the digital age.
• Empowering women to "drop the hanky"—taking initiative without compromising femininity.

In an era where ghosting is rampant and commitment is fleeting, Kait and JJ provide a refreshing perspective rooted in authenticity, intentionality, and faith. Whether you're single, dating, or reevaluating your relationship approach, this conversation offers actionable insights to navigate modern romance with clarity and purpose.

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• Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here!
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We’re in a relationship crisis. Everyone’s talking about chemistry and compatibility, but no one’s talking about maturity. And when emotional immaturity meets unaddressed shame, sexual frustration, and spiritual avoidance? It’s a recipe for dysfunction.

This week, Stephen Chandler joins Win Today to kick off a hard-hitting four-week series on relationships. In this conversation, we’re getting real about the deeper issues driving relational pain—and why surface-level fixes don’t work.

Stephen unpacks:

• Why emotional immaturity is sabotaging modern relationships
• How sexual frustration creates silent fractures in marriages
• The role shame plays in both intimacy and avoidance
• The subtle ways we use spiritual language to hide dysfunction

This isn’t another “five tips for better communication” episode. It’s a wake-up call. Whether you’re dating, married, engaged, or trying to get back into the relationship game, this conversation will expose the patterns keeping you stuck—and invite you into a maturity that transforms everything.

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• Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here!
• Invite me to speak at your church or event.
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• WEEK ONE (04/02): Stephen Chandler kicks us off with a hard-hitting conversation about emotional immaturity, sexual frustration, and how shame is sabotaging intimacy from the inside out.
• WEEK TWO (04/09): Kait and JJ Tomlin are coming for your dating life—talking about red flags, deal-breakers, why love is forged, not found, and yes… why women should absolutely drop the hanky.
• WEEK THREE (04/16): Gabe and Rebekah Lyons show up with the truth every married couple needs to hear—why your spouse isn’t a formula to solve, how emotional pain sets the stage for infidelity, and why the marriage you want is built, not wished for.
• WEEK FOUR (04/23): Dave and Ann Wilson close out the series with a raw look at how your wounds are showing up in your marriage, the power of your words to either crush or restore, and how intimacy becomes manipulation when pain goes unhealed.

We live in a culture that demands constant performance, even in our spiritual lives. We're pressured to present a curated faith—one that hides our doubts, fears, and grief. But what if this relentless pursuit of a flawless facade is keeping us from experiencing the depth of God's presence?

This week, Aubrey Sampson joins Win Today to explore the transformative power of lament—a practice often overlooked but deeply rooted in biblical tradition. She reveals:

• Why our obsession with performing for God leaves us spiritually empty
• The lost art of lament and how it draws us closer to the Lord
• The danger of avoiding grief and the mystery it holds for our formation
• Practical steps to embrace lament as a pathway to genuine faith

For centuries, lament has been a sacred practice, allowing believers to express raw emotions and find solace in God's presence. Yet, today's fast-paced world encourages us to suppress these feelings, leading to a shallow faith experience. If you've ever felt the weight of unexpressed sorrow, struggled with the need to appear 'okay,' or wondered how to connect deeply with God amidst pain, this conversation is for you. Aubrey guides us back—not to a performative faith—but to an authentic journey where every emotion has a place before God.

Episode Links

• Show Notes
• Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here!
• Invite me to speak at your church or event.
• Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.