In this powerful episode, Recovery of Your Family Begins With YOU!, I share a story I heard in Al-Anon that stopped me in my tracks—a story that helped me see how my efforts to “smooth things over” in a home affected by alcoholism were actually hurting more than helping.

Children don’t need everything to look okay. They need someone who is okay—someone stable, trustworthy, and emotionally safe. As Christian wives and moms navigating life with an alcoholic loved one, we are called to be that safe harbor. This episode is an invitation to take honest inventory, let go of unhealthy patterns, and choose a better path—for our kids, and for ourselves. Healing starts with us.

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Resources mentioned in this episdoe. AA Alcoholics Annonymous, Al Anon, Al Ateen, ACOA

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Our kids are looking to us for guidance on how to navigate all of this. They can get caught up in the confusion and the family disease of alcoholism. As the wife of an alcoholic and the momma to these souls, and future ACOA members what can you be doing to help them to get through this too!? Our role is so important mommas!!

What legacy are you leaving for your kiddos? When they are adults what questions will they have for you regarding what they have seen and lived through? ACOA Adult Children of Alcoholics, Al Anon as well as Al Ateen have some thoughts on what we can be doing to teach our kids how to navigate.

This is Part 2 of a 3 part series on children and parents:

Part 1: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-gaslighting-addiction/id1780450985?i=1000702802054

Links for more information:

ACOA and ACA https://adultchildren.org/

Al Anon https://al-anon.org/

Al Ateen https://al-anon.org/newcomers/teen-corner-alateen/

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The impact of alcoholism on me was IMMENSE! However, my kids were experiencing all of this too through the littlest eyes and innoent hearts! I did not used to know how to lead them through all of this! Addiction really impacted our family! I have learned SO many tools and nuggets of wisdom over the years that helped me to navigate what our family was experiencing! If you are a mamma bear, you don't want to miss this episode highlighting our kiddos and their experience! ♥

Children grow up and their childhood trauma can still impact them years down the road. This is why the ACOA Adult Child Of Alcoholic Literature and groups exist. Our children will grow up to be those adults one day and the more we learn ourselves, to in turn teach them to navigate the trauma, the better their chances are to be part of breaking this cycle.

It begins with us Mamma!

Tune in to hear ONE thing that God taught me during this painful lonely season. Being married to an alcoholic who thinks that everything is FINE is SO frustrating! Active addiction is exhausting. AA says that Alcohol is "Cunning, Baffling and Powerful" and it is SO True. The one person that I wanted to talk to was the one person who was also hurting our family, so who else could I talk to? I didn't want my friends and family to know how bad it was and they would all have their own opinions anyway!

God convicted me on how to handle this very dilemna and I accepted the 30 day challenge. Try it for yourself and your situation! See what God can do ♥

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Today hear the ONE thing I did that helped me to start leaning on those that God had placed in my life. To bear someone else’s burden is a powerful expression of love and compassion, reminding us that we are not meant to walk through life alone. I needed friends and family to support myself and my children and ultimately my husband through this mess. Don't miss this episode! We all need each other ♥ God has a design to bear one another's burdens that was exactly what I needed!

I HATED being in a position of needing HELP. I would rather be the person bringing the meal, helping you with your childcare, or being a listening ear. The truth was though that I desparately needed a support system willing to lift up my family, to be the hands and feet of Jesus in our mess, and to remind me that I was not alone in the lonliness of the aftermath of daily alcoholism. Addiction can take everything from our spouse! It robs us wives of everything we had hoped and dreamed of too as we wind up tangled in a mess unable to figure out what to do fast enough. I felt like an unwilling participant in the cycle that I was wound up in. It can be SO confusing! I so often found myself needing practical help and I HATED having to ask for it! It is such a fine balance having to ask for help and feeling like I asked too much!

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When the confusion and gaslighting are a normal way of life in your alchoholic marriage, and life is flying at you so fast, it is so hard to even recognize where to begin setting BOUNDARIES. Today I share my top foundational boundaries to begin with. Setting boundaries is never an easy task when addiction is present. Listen in to find out why I believe this is the place to start to protect your peace (as much as possible) in the future!

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Lying about drinking is SO COMMON in alcoholic marriages! Christians are not immune to the lying and gaslighting! Have you experienced this? I never want to accuse someone of doing something, but if the proof is there it is SO CONFUSING for us as wives!

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It is the ultimate question! Join me as I pour out my heart on this topic that often took me captive and ran through my head on repeat! I didn't want to have to make an impossible choice! Do you find yourself thinking about these two options and trying to decide what to do? This is VERY common!!

If I stay how do I shelter them from the impact of what they see in our home?

If I leave how do I keep them safe when I wouldn't be with them and I don't want to split time with them!

Talk about an IMPOSSIBLE choice we often face!!

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