Let’s get real — most of the time, the thing standing between you and what you actually want… is you.

In this episode, we’re diving into how your own ego, fears, and protective patterns become the ultimate cockblock — blocking love, success, intimacy, abundance, and every other thing you keep saying you want.

We’ll talk about:
✨ How your ego disguises fear as logic
✨ The sneaky ways self-protection shows up as control, avoidance, or “standards”
✨ Why the stories you tell yourself feel safer than the truth
✨ How to spot when it’s you getting in your own way (and how to stop)
✨ The difference between protecting yourself and actually expanding yourself

Because the truth is — you can’t manifest connection, love, or next-level experiences while also protecting yourself from being seen, rejected, or hurt.

Once you realize the walls you built to stay safe are the same ones keeping you stuck… that’s when the magic happens.

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Podcast host: @jess.ica.lee

Podcast Editor: @mollysmithpiro

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In this episode, we dive into the mirror concept: how every relationship, trigger, and attraction is revealing something about your inner world - your wounds, shadows, and unhealed parts.

You’ll learn how to spot when someone’s showing you your unhealed parts, how the people who trigger you are showing you the parts of yourself you’ve rejected or suppressed, why we often fall in love with the version of ourselves someone brings out, why our mirrors are never punishments but invitations for integration, wholeness, and self-acceptance, and how to work through them to grow and heal.

Journal Questions:

1. Who in my life consistently triggers me? What part of myself might they be reflecting back?
2. Who do I admire or envy the most? What qualities of theirs might already live inside me, that I'm wanting to express more?
3. What “familiar patterns” keep showing up in my relationships? How do they connect to my early childhood experiences?
4. What might this mirror be trying to teach me about boundaries, self-expression, or self-acceptance?
5. If every person in my life is a teacher, what lessons are being offered to me right now through my closest relationships?

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Podcast Editor: @mollysmithpiro

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In this episode, we’re breaking down the art of communication: how to speak so you’re heard, how to listen so you understand, and how to shift the way you talk to yourself so you stop sabotaging your own power.

You’ll learn:

• The biggest mistakes we make when communicating (and how to fix them)
• Why listening is the secret weapon of powerful communication
• The protective emotions (fear, shame, anger, pride) that block us from being heard
• Simple tools and clarifying questions that create clarity and connection
• How your self-talk sets the tone for every conversation you have with others

Whether it’s in your relationships, your career, or your inner dialogue, this episode will give you practical tools to step into your voice, be understood, and create real connection.

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Podcast Editor: @mollysmithpiro

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Knowing which of your HD Centers are Defined or Undefined will help you understand where we're the most prone to conditioning. Our centers are the same as our chakras, plus two additions as civilization evolved Pull up your chart and get ready because you need to know YOURS and everyone you care about in your life.

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Every single one of us has an inner child inside of us. Normally it presents when we're in an intense moment, an argument or disagreement. If you're not aware, your younger self can step in in these moments to protect you. This episode is to help understand the inner child theory and how to be sure your highest self is in the driver's seat.

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Podcast host: @jess.ica.lee

Podcast Editor: @mollysmithpiro

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Membership link and discount code for TBM:

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Today we have on Intimacy Expert Susan Bratton -- she talks everything from toys, to why porn is f*cking up all of our expectations, to having 20 different orgasms. Education, empowerment, and embodiment of everything sex!

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Susan Bratton - Intimacy Expert

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We think we're being helpful but more than being helpful, you're hindering yourself and the people in your life from growing. Today's episode will help you understand the intricacies and the peace of mind to know that you are not meant to do everything for every one.

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Podcast host: @jess.ica.lee

Podcast Editor: @mollysmithpiro

Confidence, it's right there at every moment but HOW do step into it? Today's episode will walk you through better understanding confidence, what's getting in your way, and how to step into your most confident self.

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Podcast host: @jess.ica.lee

Podcast Editor: @mollysmithpiro

Mark Groves podcast episode I mentioned: Episode #459 with Tracy Litt