Social media is filled with nostalgia and it can be a lot of fun. But what happens when you look at the shared childhood experiences of others and think to yourself, “that wasn’t me?” Join CA and Jaime as they explore what life looks like for those of us who have had to, more or less, raise ourselves. Is being a latchkey kid something we need to heal from? Listen in and find out.

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Notes:

• Jaime’s struggles with memory around her childhood

• CA’s struggles with not having a carefree childhood

• What happens when you don’t remember your childhood like other people do

• Parentification - what it is and what it means

• How parentification affects development

• Latchkey kids and how they cope

• Why we need to connect with ourselves and find our needs

• Healing from our childhood trauma

• Understanding and embracing your inner child

• Using your inner child was a parent

Links:

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• CA’s Voxer Coaching: http://tinyurl.com/434fs8zd

• Jaime’s Coaching: https://recollectedself.com/workwithme

• Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Over 50 Club!

• Amanda B.

• Plamen S.

• Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

Jaime and CA continue their series on insecure attachment styles with a discussion on the anxious-attachment style. This time, Jaime opens up about her experiences as someone who naturally falls under this category.

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Part 1

Ep. 39: The Justification Trap

Notes:

• The most difficult part of attachment healing

• How anxious-attachment types deal with discomfort in a relationship

• The signs of an anxious-attached person

• Why anxious attachment starts with “never being good enough”

• Roleplaying anxious-attachment

• What causes anxious-attachment people to spiral

• Steps you can take to heal from being anxious-attachment

• The importance of clear and direct communication

Links:

• Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• CA’s Voxer Coaching: http://tinyurl.com/434fs8zd

• Jaime’s Coaching: https://recollectedself.com/workwithme

• Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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• Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠

• International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988

• Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

• Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

Over 50 Club!

• Amanda B.

• Plamen S.

• Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

We’re back!

CA and Jaime return from their hiatus with a series on insecure attachment styles. In this episode, they explore the Avoidant-Attachment style both from a clinical standpoint and from a personal standpoint via CA’s experiences.

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Notes:

• Happy Anniversary! We’re back!

• Please consider supporting the show

• Defining the four main attraction styles (Secure attachment, Anxious-ambivalent attachment, Anxious-avoidant, and Disorganized/disoriented attachment)

• Where all insecure attachment styles come from

• How does someone develop avoidant-attachment?

• Why opposite attachment styles seem to be attracted to one another

• CA’s journey as someone with avoidant-attachment style

• How avoidant-attachment shows up in relationships

• How to heal and form a healthy attachment style

Links:

• Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• CA’s Voxer Coaching: http://tinyurl.com/434fs8zd

• Jaime’s Coaching: https://recollectedself.com/workwithme

• Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠

• International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988

• Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

• Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

Over 50 Club!

• Amanda B.

• Plamen S.

• Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

We all know that healing isn’t linear, but there does tend to be a moment when a corner is turned - where we begin to live our life again. What do we do then? Season 1 of the show focused on healing and trauma recovery. Join Jaime and CA as they introduce Season 2, which will focus on what happens after.

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Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE

Notes:

• Introducing Season 2 - Life After Healing

• What trauma healing really looks like

• Societal beliefs and trauma recovery

• Why should you learn and then honor your thresholds

• How it feels to shift out of survival mode

• How to approach recovery safely

• Honoring your body and mind during the recovery process

Links:

• Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠

• International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988

• Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

• Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

Over 50 Club!

• Amanda B.

• Plamen S.

• Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

In this episode, CA and Jaime explore how relationships can serve as protective factors for trauma processing and healing. Especially relationships in which we are not merely tolerated, but rather accepted and, ideally, celebrated.

Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE

Notes:

• Sweater weather!

• Changing energy and changing seasons

• What are protective factors and how do they affect us?

• Beginning the process of processing trauma

• How relationships can be protective factors for trauma processing

• What normal relationships look like

• The importance of knowing whether you are being tolerated, accepted, or celebrated in a relationship

Links:

• Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠

• International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988

• Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

• Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

Over 50 Club!

• Amanda B.

• Plamen S.

• Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

Join Jaime and CA as they delve into the complexities of spirituality. They question whether religion has exclusive control over our spiritual experiences, provide a clear definition of spirituality, and dive into the topic of secular spirituality. Additionally, they explore the themes of self-righteousness, self-sovereignty, authority within the spiritual domain, and more.

Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE

Notes:

• Does religion own spirituality?

• What is spirituality?

• What is secular spirituality?

• An example of an experience of secular spirituality versus an experience of religious spirituality

• Fear-based spirituality and trauma

• The source of spiritual power

• Self-righteousness, self-sovereignty, and authority

Links:

• Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠

• International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988

• Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

• Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

Over 50 Club!

• Amanda B.

• Plamen S.

• Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)

Join CA and Jaime as they dive into the concept of "cringe." They'll dissect its nature, explore why it makes us squirm, and reveal how trauma recovery can shift our understanding. Get ready for an eye-opening discussion that will change the way you think about cringe.

Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE

Notes:

• Super cringy opening

• March Madness - but with kittens!

• What is cringe?

• What can cringe teach us?

• Is it weird or is it a social contract

• When do we begin to feel cringe?

• Where perception comes into play

• The link between cringe and trauma recovery

Links:

• Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/unlearned⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Follow the podcast on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Jaime’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Jaime’s TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• CA’s Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• CA’s Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Email us topics/suggestions: ⁠unlearned@recollectedself.com⁠

• International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988

• Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

• Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.

Over 50 Club!

• Amanda B.

• Plamen S.

• Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)