Shownotes

• The story behind the quasi-cheating incident that ended the relationship

• Why Ryan and Layla’s first kiss went horribly wrong

• How to take full responsibility for your actions and impact on others

• Why Ryan showed up at the Stanford campus in a full-on chicken costume

• How radical love is different than self-sacrificing

• What Ryan and Layla learned from opening their relationship

Bio

Ryan Cheney is a therapist, seeker, and guide devoted to the process of inner transformation. Based in Austin, TX, he works with individuals and couples to uncover what stands in the way of lasting change – and how to meet those blocks with presence, compassion, and courage. His work is deeply rooted in Internal Family Systems and a profound curiosity about how people evolve.

Before turning his focus inward, Ryan was the founder of Raaka Chocolate, a Brooklyn-based bean-to-bar company built on transparency and ethical sourcing. But his truest calling lies in the inner landscapes: the quiet, tender spaces where real healing happens. His path has been shaped by deep inquiry, spiritual practice, and a love for the moments when people reconnect with the truth of who they are.

Ryan believes transformation doesn’t have to be a battle – it can be a remembering. He’s most alive when exploring the alchemy of change, the courage it requires, and the unexpected grace that can come when we stop striving and start listening.

Timestamps

00:01:16 - Guest introduction

00:06:02 - Ryan shares how he and Layla met

00:07:35 - Going from small and scared to big and free

00:07:59 - Where Layla was at in her life when she met Ryan

00:11:48 - Where Ryan was at in his life when he met Layla

00:12:31 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:13:11 - Friendship turns into strong attraction

00:13:47 - Ryan describes he and Layla’s first kiss

00:16:20 - Why the sex didn’t initially work for Ryan

00:19:33 - Ryan learned to hold all parts of Layla

00:21:11 - Layla’s first experience with somatic therapy

00:23:00 - Layla credits Ryan for being deeply present for her healing journey

00:24:33 - Unlock your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples

00:26:00 - Layla’s desire to find the real Tantra

00:27:19 - Ryan and Layla gave each other spiritual names

00:34:05 - Layla and Ryan discuss their experience with sexual healing

00:39:01 - Why we have to take full responsibility for our actions and impact on others

00:41:48 - How to be present with intensity and pain

00:41:57 - Discover MOOD™ Sex Magic

00:42:55 - Ryan and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC

00:45:57 - The feedback Layla gave Ryan as their relationship ended

00:48:17 - Layla healed and opened her sexuality before healing and opening her heart

00:51:15 - Ryan shares what he learned from the end of the relationship

00:54:55 - Layla shares one of her favorite stories about Ryan

00:56:08 - How radical love is different than self-sacrificing

01:02:18 - Discover your most masculine confidence and presence with Men’s Sexual Mastery

01:03:59 - Layla and Ryan share their experience with an open relationship

01:09:10 - Ryan shares what signaled the end for him

01:17:38 - What Layla learned from the end of the relationship

01:19:20 - What Ryan learned from the relationship

01:21:08 - One of the saddest parts of trauma

01:24:32 - Ryan’s favorite parts of Layla from their relationship

01:27:41 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• What Eva learned through menopause that she wishes she had known

• The science behind body changes in perimenopause and menopause

• Some of the key practices Eva recommends for midlife

• How meditation supports perimenopause and menopause

• How Eva’s needs with men and relationships changed through menopause

• Why Eva calls Kali the Patron Goddess of Menopause

Bio

Eva Clay is an acclaimed sexologist, psychotherapist and professional troublemaker whose mission is to illuminate the ménage-a-trois of soul, sex and science. She's helped thousands of people unlock their innate potential for pleasure, and as a former professor of neuroscience, she bodaciously reminds us that smart is sexy. As a practitioner of sexual tantra for 13 years, her work is an elegant marriage of the profound and the playful - and she has a particular passion for elevating women in their midlife portal to enjoy the most wildly succulent phase of their lives.

See www.EvaClay.com

Timestamps

00:01:00 - Guest introduction

00:04:02 - Eva shares the story of her first hot flash

00:06:20 - The medical model around perimenopause and menopause

00:07:59 - What Eva learned through menopause that she wishes she had known

00:09:19 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:11:00 - What we offer the world when we’re in menopause fundamentally shifts

00:14:49 - The science behind body changes in perimenopause and menopause

00:17:38 - Why women who prioritize pleasure have a more easeful menopausal process

00:19:44 - The mindset that allowed Eva to have lovers in perimenopause

00:21:47 - Some of the key practices Eva recommends for midlife

00:24:46 - How meditation supports perimenopause and menopause

00:25:56 - Discover MOOD™ Sex Magic

00:26:39 - Unlock your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples

00:29:03 - Eva shares her love story

00:32:21 - Eva and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC

00:33:52 - How ketamine helped Eva move into a deeper state of body acceptance

00:35:38 - How Eva’s needs with men and relationships changed through menopause

00:38:23 - Eva’s experience with hormones

00:39:34 - Why Eva calls Kali the Patron Goddess of Menopause

00:40:31 - Fall in love with your body and unlock outrageous orgasms with Obliss

00:42:15 - Why it’s never too late to start these practices

00:46:00 - Menopause isn’t about how you look, it’s about how you feel

00:47:28 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

00:50:16 - Menopause: you are in full bloom

00:51:03 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• Exactly what Internal Family Systems therapy is

• The actual mechanism that creates the most profound level of healing

• Psychedelics as a loving catalyst to know ourselves more

• The truth about psychedelic stigma

• Why it’s important to prepare your set and setting with psychedelics

• The difference between doses of psilocybin

Bio

Nick Brüss, EdD, LMFT, is a leading licensed psychedelic therapist, researcher and educator who is passionate about inspiring and helping people heal, grow and live creative lives. He’s pioneering treatments and programs that harness the synergistic power of combining psychedelic medicine with cutting edge therapy and coaching.

Dr. Brüss was a clinical researcher and supervisor on the ground breaking FDA Phase III clinical trial of MDMA-assisted therapy for PTSD sponsored by MAPS, and is currently a lead therapist on the Phase III Psilocybin therapy study for Treatment Resistant Depression sponsored by Compass Pathways.

In private practice, he specializes in concierge ketamine-assisted and Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. He trains nationally and speaks internationally on psychedelic-assisted therapy safety and efficacy, and is a co-founder of the Psychedelic Coalition for Health, a psychedelic medicine education and training platform.

Dr. Brüss is also a Certified Mindfulness Facilitator through UCLA’s Mindful Awareness Research Center at the Semel Institute for Neuroscience and Human Behavior, and a certified teacher of both Mindful Self-Compassion, and the Compassion Cultivation Training through the Center for Compassion, Altruism Research and Education at Stanford University School of Medicine.

Find more about Dr. Brüss’ work at www.apracticeoffreedom.com and connect with him on LinkedIn and Instagram.

Timestamps

00:01:14 - Guest introduction

00:02:20 - How Layla and Dr. Brüss originally connected

00:04:51 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:06:51 - The first time Layla experienced her own somatic avoidance

00:11:14 - Humans are so beautiful when they don’t have so much pain

00:13:52 - Dr. Brüss explains what Internal Family Systems therapy is

00:19:24 - Unlock your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples

00:20:06 - Discover your most masculine confidence and presence with Men’s Sexual Mastery

00:21:12 - Dr. Brüss introduces listeners to MAPS

00:24:36 - The actual mechanism that creates this profound level of healing

00:27:19 - Layla shares about her experiences with MDMA

00:30:43 - How IFS integrates with felt-sense experience

00:32:30 - How intellectually “getting” something isn’t the same as being “in” it

00:36:33 - We don’t realize how much power we actually have

00:38:44 - Discover MOOD™ Sex Magic

00:42:48 - How psychedelics can be a loving catalyst to know ourselves more

00:44:28 - Layla shares her experience with psychedelics

00:47:22 - Dr. Brüss and Layla drink MOOD Sex Magic

00:55:28 - Psychedelic stigma was intentionally created

00:57:02 - The war on disconnection

00:57:27 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

00:59:15 - Why it’s important to prepare your set and setting with psychedelics

01:04:33 - Dr. Brüss shares about his first psychedelic experience

01:07:24 - The difference between doses of psilocybin

01:12:06 - How different psychedelics work on different situations

01:19:53 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• What people misunderstand about the feminine

• How to surrender into letting life be good

• What sexual surrender looks like in a partnership

• Why men are attracted to different life force energies in women

• Keys to navigating your partner’s triggers with compassion

• What it truly means for a man to be present sexually

• How submission is different than surrender

Bio

Nina Lombardo is a teacher and mentor for women, specializing in conscious intimacy, polarity and sacred feminine practice. She supports women and couples in embodying their deepest spiritual-sexual expressions, allowing them to experience the union they crave with life, their lovers and the divine. The depth of her work is informed through her devotion to her inner practice, over 15 years of training and studies in the realms of healing, embodiment, feminine spirituality and sacred sexuality, her long-term intimate partnership and more than a decade of facilitating thousands of one-on-one client sessions, in-person retreats and online programs.

Learn more about Nina’s powerful work at her website.

Timestamps

00:01:08 - Introduction

00:02:34 - What people misunderstand about the feminine

00:05:54 - How do I show up when life is pulsating through me?

00:08:47 - The beauty of connecting to your feminine essence on a deeper level

00:10:51 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:11:29 - What exactly is surrender?

00:14:40 - How to surrender into letting life be good

00:17:12 - What sexual surrender looks like in a partnership

00:21:15 - Manifest your deepest desires using my free Sex Magic Practice

00:23:58 - Men are attracted to different life force energies in women

00:25:18 - Keys to navigating your partner’s triggers with compassion

00:32:42 - All humans thrive in appreciation

00:34:18 - Unlock outrageous pleasure and self-love inside Crystal Pleasure

00:36:55 - How do you transform tension into surrender during sex?

00:40:05 - What it truly means for a man to be present sexually

00:43:37 - Nina and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™

00:49:16 - How to experience longing as the fullness of life

00:53:10 - Unlock your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples

00:54:01 - How submission is different than surrender

00:57:17 - The difference between active submission and passive submission

00:58:47 - Nina shares a practice for single women to soften into their pleasure

00:59:19 - Nina shares a practice for couples to intentionally cultivate polarity and deeper intimacy

1:00:00 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• 4 Sacred rituals to enhance your relationship

• How to break down the facade of perfection and replace it with what’s real

• Why inspiration is always supported by action

• Essential things you need in order to develop your partnership

• Important ground rules for safe communication

• 5 Core sexual skills to unlock your erotic abilities

Here to download your FREE step-by-step guide to all 4 relationship rituals I shared in this podcast!

Bio

Layla Martin is a visionary and thought leader who teaches on sexuality, relationships and self-love to people across the globe.

Her devoted study of Tantra for 20+ years along with her sexuality, neuroscience and human biology studies at Stanford University have informed her unique teaching process and the creation of her proprietary VITA™ Methodology.

Layla’s programs have taught over 12,500 women, men and non-binary people her method of using breath, sound, movement, meditation and energy awareness to awaken their sexuality and reclaim their power and worthiness.

Layla has shared her work with over 150 million people and 500,000+ subscribers through her YouTube channel and has a weekly email audience of 375,000+ people. Her top-rated podcast, This Tantric Life, has reached over 1.3 million downloads.

Timestamps

00:00:43 - Introduction

00:01:27 - The 4 types of rituals that can enhance your relationship

00:01:49 - What does sacred union mean?

00:03:08 - What exactly is a ritual?

00:03:48 - The way you look at your partnership matters

00:04:33 - Who Layla used to compare herself to when she was dating

00:05:54 - When you compare yourself to perfection, you’ll always fall short

00:06:52 - There is no perfect man on this planet

00:08:22 - How to break down perfect and replace it with what’s real

00:09:17 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:10:56 - Most spiritual traditions have their own version of sacred union

00:13:18 - Inspiration is always supported by action

00:15:02 - We’re not taught rituals for getting the most out of our relationship

00:17:02 - 4 Essential things you need to develop your partnership

00:17:38 - Unlock your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples

00:18:20 - Ritual #1: The gratitude ritual

00:20:51 - Ritual #2: The safe communication ritual

00:22:54 - Ground rules for the safe communication ritual

00:24:37 - Ritual #3: The intimacy ritual

00:24:42 - Discover your sexual and relational potential inside VITA™ Sacred Sexuality

00:27:43 - Ritual #4: The erotic ritual

00:29:09 - 5 Core sexual skills to unlock your erotic abilities

00:33:27 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• Why 1+1=3 in love and relationships

• The 6 ingredients to build a lifetime of love

• Why attunement is one of the most powerful tools

• Dr. Nasserzadeh’s “soak together before you sink together” method

• How to show up with compassion even if you don’t understand someone

• Sexual harmony vs sexual chemistry

Bio

Building world peace, one relationship at a time is the mission of Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, a globally renowned and award-winning author, speaker and relationship expert. With a PhD in Social Psychology and specialization in the fields of human sexuality and relationships, Dr. Nasserzadeh has worked with a countless number of individuals, couples and organizational clients across 41 countries to enhance relational health and a sense of thriving at micro and macro levels.

Dr. Nasserzadeh is a senior Accredited Member and a Registered Supervisor by the College of Sex and Relationship Therapists in the UK (COSRT) and a Sexuality Counselor and Approved Training provider by the American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). She is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist in California.

Dr. Nasserzadeh has been a sought-after cultural advisor, speaker and expert facilitator at high profile events hosted by governmental organizations, UN Agencies, academic institutions and Fortune 500 companies. Her third book, Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love, is the result of her two-decade-long research on the status of thriving relationships and its key ingredients, namely: attraction, respect, trust, shared vision, compassion, and loving behaviors. Dr. Nasserzadeh’s work has been featured on NPR, the BBC, ABC, CNN and USA Today.

Timestamps

00:01:57 - Guest introduction

00:03:25 - Dr. Nasserzadeh’s responsibility and role as a relationship expert

00:06:53 - Our disillusion with love as a society

00:08:28 - Why Dr. Nasserzadeh says 1+1=3 in love

00:09:43 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:13:12 - The system of a partnership is greater than the sum of us

00:15:12 - If you don’t pay attention to the cracks, they become ledges

00:17:39 - How to be happy with what is instead of chasing dopamine

00:20:45 - Dr. Nasserzadeh’s concept of JOMO vs FOMO

00:23:02 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:26:06 - The 6 ingredients to build a lifetime of love

00:30:38 - Dr. Nasserzadeh describes The Platinum Rule

00:32:59 - How to apply the 6 ingredients to your relationship

00:36:27 - Why it’s so important to cheer on your partner

00:38:07 - Discover MOOD™ Sexy Supplements

00:39:16 - Get Layla’s free Orgasmic Breathwork Practice for deeper pleasure

00:40:25 - Unlock your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples

00:43:33 - The way you respect yourself is how others respect you

00:48:42 - Why attunement is one of the most powerful tools

00:55:08 - Trauma shifts your nervous system into hypervigilance

00:56:40 - Dr. Nasserzadeh’s “soak together before you sink together” method

01:01:38 - How to show up with compassion even if you don’t understand someone

01:04:06 - Expand your pleasure potential with Obliss Women’s Sexual Masterclass

01:05:40 - How to build trust with your partner

01:10:10 - Sexual harmony vs sexual chemistry

01:12:38 - Everyone deserves to be in the loving relationship they desire

01:18:56 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• Why we all need people who celebrate our full expression

• What Natalie’s first experience with cyberdildonics was like

• Why a dildo is still one of the most powerful sex toys

• How embodiment work is important for the future we’re moving towards

• Layla’s thoughts on VR pornography

• How to work on your resilience to change instead of trying to control reality

Bio

Natalie MacNeil is an Emmy Award-winning media entrepreneur, futurist, seer, ICF-credentialed business & leadership coach and the bestselling author of five books. Her multi-dimensional work helps visionaries and entrepreneurs create their brightest future through intuitive foresights, practical strategies and her Transformational Embodiment Method.

This powerful method blends several disciplines and modalities with her strategic Futuring process and Transformational Embodiment Coaching Method and is designed to bridge your present and your desired future.

Over the last 15 years, she’s guided more than one million people to become embodied leaders, envision and create their dream future and build extraordinary businesses that make an impactful difference in people's lives.

Learn more about Natalie’s work on her website.

Timestamps

00:01:35 - Guest introduction

00:05:48 - What is a constellation relationship?

00:07:45 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:10:06 - The fastest way to kill your desire and creativity

00:14:54 - How being hopeful is different than being naive

00:17:20 - We have a bright and bisexual future ahead of us

00:23:40 - We all need people who celebrate our full expression

00:25:39 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:29:23 - Natalie’s first experience with cyberdildonics

00:31:54 - What was the first sex toy?

00:35:06 - Why a dildo is still one of the most powerful sex toys

00:36:22 - Enjoy MOOD™ Sex Magic

00:38:02 - Natalie and Layla stack MOOD Sex Magic™ and MOOD Euphoria™

00:42:28 - Natalie shares her experience with VR pornography

00:44:49 - Why embodiment work is so important for the future we’re moving towards

00:46:43 - Layla’s thoughts on VR pornography

00:50:49 - Get Layla’s free Orgasmic Breathwork Practice for deeper pleasure

00:51:58 - Discover your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples

00:54:53 - Why it’s important to build real human intimacy

00:56:07 - A lifetime without intimacy is no life at all

00:58:38 - Would you have sex with a robot?

01:05:16 - Instead of trying to control reality, work on your resilience to change

01:09:22 - Obliss Women’s Sexual Masterclass

01:11:34 - AI fire round questions with Natalie

01:16:40 - AI will surpass us in emotional intelligence

01:20:40 - How to train your AI for your life

01:23:49 - Conclusion