Shownotes

• What most people don’t realize about the happiest couples

• The difference between narcissistic abuse vs toxicity from trauma

• How to never get ghosted again

• What exactly relationship repair is and why it’s important

• Why repair is an ongoing practice

• Four of the most important skills required to repair successfully

Bio

Baya Voce is a relationship repair expert helping couples fight better and make up faster.

She holds an MSW from Columbia University, is in ongoing supervision with Esther Perel and is trained and mentored by Terry Real. Baya’s approach blends therapeutic depth with the practicality of coaching, teaching couples how to break destructive patterns, rebuild trust and come back together.

Baya collaborates with Columbia University, MAPS (Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies) and Rick Doblin on pioneering research into MDMA-assisted couples therapy. She also regularly speaks at SXSW, and with over 5 million views, her TEDx talk on loneliness highlights the often-overlooked impact of relational disconnection.

Learn more about Baya’s work on Instagram @bayavoce.

Timestamps

00:00:45 - Guest introduction

00:03:56 - What led Baya to create a career out of relationship repair

00:08:37 - The social shift of perfection in coaching and leadership

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00:12:01 - What people don’t realize about the happiest couples

00:14:35 - How a virtual world is challenging our human connections

00:19:08 - The difference between narcissistic abuse vs toxicity from trauma

00:22:47 - A question to ask yourself if you think you’re in a manipulative relationship

00:27:20 - Why Baya chooses to stay in her marriage despite the challenges

00:31:14 - Most couples will experience disillusionment in their relationship

00:33:00 - A question to ask yourself to help shift out of victimization

00:33:47 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:39:29 - The end of a partner’s capacity teaches you how strong you are

00:45:51 - How to never get ghosted again

00:50:57 - Explore the magic of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir

00:55:23 - Baya explains the third pole of a relationship

01:01:50 - What exactly relationship repair is and why it’s important

01:04:29 - The difference between perception and perspective

01:12:58 - Why repair is an ongoing practice

01:15:17 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

01:18:30 - Four of the most important skills required to repair

01:28:49 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• How purity culture manifests in women’s bodies and sexual experiences

• Why a woman’s pleasure is a gift to everyone around her

• How ecstatic states purify and cleanse the soul

• Why shame is actually the gateway to pleasure

• A powerful practice that saved Dr. Kim’s life

• Why Jesus’ ministry would not exist without the women who supported it

Bio

Dr. Kimberly Rose Pendleton is a speaker, writer, teacher and the founder of UNCOVER, a 7-figure global lifestyle brand focused on intimacy, pleasure and women’s empowerment.

With a M.A. from Yale, a PhD, in-depth coaching training and many years of experience, Dr. Kim considers it a deep honor and pleasure to weave the intellectual side of empowerment, healing and intimacy work into embodied, playful pleasure practices.

Learn more about Dr. Kimberly and her work on her website and find her on all social media platforms @drkimberlyrosependleton.

Timestamps

00:00:48 - Guest introduction

00:02:49 - Layla shares her religious history

00:05:57 - Why Jesus’ ministry would not exist without the women who supported it

00:09:32 - Religious conditioning is baked into our society

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00:12:55 - How purity culture manifests in women’s bodies and sexual experiences

00:14:58 - The reality of women who follow the rules of purity culture

00:19:06 - An MRI study from Daniel Bergner’s book What Do Women Want? proves that women silence their pleasure

00:26:29 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:30:40 - Pleasure is something all of us can access

00:37:51 - Dr. Kim shares a powerful practice that saved her life

00:40:30 - Why shame is the gateway to pleasure

00:42:30 - Explore the magic of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir

00:44:09 - Why a woman’s pleasure is a gift to everyone around her

00:44:51 - How ecstatic states purify the soul from Ritual Texts for the Afterlife: Orpheus and the Bacchic Gold Tablets by Fritz Graf and Sarah Iles Johnston

00:49:11 - A woman connected to her pleasure can do anything

00:52:25 - Dr. Kim shares why her good girl part had to experience a death to liberate her

00:57:29 - Why every woman needs to learn how to activate pleasure

00:57:35 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

01:01:27 - Humans were designed to play multiple notes in life

01:02:24 - Discover Dr. Kim’s free course Harlots and Heretics

01:02:40 - Dr. Kim shares about her experience inside VITA Coaching

01:08:05 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• The importance of focusing on connection instead of healing

• How to describe your feelings from your body instead of your head

• The most effective way to teach attunement to men

• Why lack of attunement feels like apathy

• The difference between suppression and containment

• What it feels like to be present inside of yourself

Bio

Steven Jaggers is a somatic educator, practitioner and the founder of SOMA+IQ™ Breathwork, a powerful modality for nervous system healing and embodied transformation.

He has trained over 2,000 practitioners in a unique method that rewires the body’s response to stress, trauma and connection through potent tools like breath, co-regulation and somatic self-inquiry.

Steven’s approach bridges ancient healing traditions with modern neuroscience, offering experiential tools for emotional integration, authentic relating and whole-body aliveness.

His work has been featured in university-accredited programs, major podcasts and global events. Learn more about Steven and his work on his website.

Timestamps

00:00:45 - Guest introduction

00:04:54 - Steven explains what meta skills are and their importance

00:08:25 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:09:34 - The importance of focusing on connection instead of healing

00:13:14 - How to describe your feelings from your body instead of your head

00:17:20 - Steven shares Eckhart Tolle’s definition of stress

00:21:05 - Others can feel your alignment in their nervous systems

00:23:24 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:24:35 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir

00:25:36 - Steven’s definition of eros

00:25:47 - Layla shares her definition of eros

00:32:13 - The most effective way to teach attunement to men

00:42:53 - Why lack of attunement feels like apathy

00:47:26 - The difference between suppression and containment

00:51:52 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

00:53:19 - Steven explains the 4 modes of communication

00:55:01 - Steven guides Layla through a powerful breathwork practice

01:06:42 - What it feels like to be present inside of yourself

01:07:05 - What it feels like to not be present inside of yourself

01:12:08 - The 3 potentials that can happen for a client during coaching or facilitating

01:16:57 - Conclusion