Boundaries, negotiation and communication in BDSM are not emotionally sterile. In the paid version of this podcast (bastienne.substack.com) I audit my relationship failures of 2023 and hopefully we all learn something new and valuable from them.

Here we go again! It's my annual celebration of NOT celebrating! Join me this Christmas, be merry, be kinky, have fun!

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In this episode I talk about gut instincts, the natural progression of D/s relationships and the surprising moral boundaries that pop up in pro BDSM. Negotiation, communication and boundaries are buzz words that  - in theory - feel straight forward but IRL can equal messy feelings. 

I talk about "giving away a subby" and feeling anxiety about it because if you love something, set it free and all that jazz.

Check out the full podcast and archive of over 130 epidsodes on bastienne.substack.com!

Thanks so much for listening, stay kinky until next time!

Hello Fellow Perverts!

Hope you're staying kinky and cute and there’s something currently in your boot(ie). Things are changing at The Wiggle Room, slowly but surely including a new room being accessible in the next few months. In this episode, I talk about Americans and have a revelation about respect that kind of runs through the whole episode.

I’m looking for fart, ballbusting and wedgie subs!

I’m also doing lots of audio customs on OnlyFans which has led to me starting a new, wedgie focused podcast on Patreon called THE WEDGIE BOARD. If you’re currently wearing tighty whities…. you know what to do.

I talk about the copy kittens again and a new podcast I’m obsessed with called "Ransofar with Blake”. I approve of every one except episode 21.

I’m visiting Calgary again this winter! I’m figuring out OnlyFans (finally) after a year of shaking my proverbial boobies over there. I’m adding mugs to my online shop (soon) and lots more chitty chatty ;)

Here’s the tweet I talk about in the ep 💋

Thanks so much for subscribing, check out bastienne.ca/links and see what else tickles your fancy!

Until next month, stay kinky!

xo Bastienne

Hey! It’s me and my cleavage! Did you miss me? Well, I’m back to give you a wee, little update. I’ve been busy over the summer, capering about, through nature and online. I started a wedgie podcast over on Patreon called The Wedgie Board, I’ve been collecting data (and souls) over on my OnlyFans, I’m trying out a new scheduled texting app and I’m getting ready to completely redesign The Wiggle Room! I also wrote a mini book called The Basics of Power Exchange and it’s available for $10 on my website, go buy it right meow!

It’s all very exciting, listen to the audio for all the juicy details.

PS. I’m also looking for experienced ballbusting subbies for clips! Apply here, $10 application fee, must be experienced (with proof) and all the usual booking prerequisites apply.

Thanks for listening! If you want more subscribe to the private podcast for $7/month at bastienne.substack.com. Also check out all my links here too, just for fun.

Perfectionism, control freaks, narcissism, codependence, feedback, rejection, acceptance, self aftercare, lifestyle surrogacy, behavioural democracies and a delightful lack of notes.

Thank you for listening, go to BASTIENNE.SUBSTACK.COM for the full episode and visit BASTIENNE.CA/LINKS for all the places that I exist on the internet!

xo Bastienne

Hello Fellow Perverts!

I’ve returned with more revelations!

This episode is all about healthy compartmentalization versus destructive secrecy in kink (and in life). There’s a LOT of mental homework to keep up with, as an adult, with, any level of responsibility. I think it’s fair to say, we all get overwhelmed and lost at times. We get stuck in ruts, deal with shame, feel alone, struggle with anxiety and depression - all that fun, grown up, bullshit. What we do with those experiences is important. I view kink as a release valve, a healthy, therapeutic outlet for dark feelings - but - that is certainly up for debate. Let’s talk about morality in the Den of Iniquity!

How to feel like a good person who does dirty things.

Stay Kinky!

xo Bastienne

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Hello Fellow Perverts! It is me, Bastienne, and I am (momentarily) popping out of my hiatus to tell you some exciting news! I am officially saying goodbye to time wasters - GOODBYE FOREVER! 👋 SEE YA NEVER! This means, I’m not taking new clients currently (and haven’t for a few weeks) and in the meantime, I’ve been scheming up an entirely new way to vet newbies. This involves a $10 application fee, deadlines, and a couple of quizzes and some other, lovely, time-saving mechanisms!

The application will only be available on my new, online shop which I’m making publicly available in May, but I’m actually so freaking excited about it that I wanted to jump back on here and tell yous guys about it.

I’m planning on posting more literotica, FemDom tutorials and other digital downloads for all your kink-nerd needs! I’m currently working on some courses like “How to Plan a BDSM Scene”, “How to Date a Sex Worker” and (of course) “Safe Ballbusting 101”. There was also an option to add A FREAKING MUG WITH MY PICTURE ON IT so please, someone, order that because it is absurd and amazing!

I also wrote an informative (and salty) blog post that you might enjoy. It’s called “My New Booking Process” and it delves into all the ways that people waste my time (intentionally and non-intentionally) and how I plan on preventing that going forward. Tis purposely salty with the intention of providing context to well intentioned, sweet muffins who don’t understand why there are so many hoops to suddenly jump through.

If you’re reading this, that means you’re on my paid mailing list which means (you guessed it) you’re awesome. Thank you for supporting me in all my ventures, not just the wanky ones 💗

Stay kinky until the next revelation!

xo Bastienne