In this episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, Lala unpacks the emotional exhaustion that often follows deep inner work. If you’ve been doing all the things—therapy, journaling, breathwork, meditation—but still feel stuck, lost, or spiritually drained, this conversation is for you.

Lala introduces the concept of overtooling: the compulsive use of healing tools and self-help practices without actually connecting to the self beneath them. She explores how energetic consumption (what we take in from others) and energetic congestion (what we store and never release) quietly shape our emotional overwhelm and disconnect us from true transformation.

Through personal insight and soulful reflection, this episode challenges the idea that healing is something to achieve, and instead centers the truth that sustainable growth requires presence—not just performance. If you've been wondering why the tools aren’t working, this is your moment of clarity.

TAKEAWAYS

It's perfectly okay to cry about your spilled milk.

We often confuse doing the work with being with ourselves.

Energetic consumption is the intake of unprocessed emotional debris.

Over tooling can lead to feeling stuck and unfulfilled.

Tools are essential but cannot replace self-discovery.

We need to meet ourselves in our healing journey.

Sitting in silence can be more productive than using tools.

We often hide behind tools instead of facing our emotions.

Self-abandonment can occur even with good intentions.

Healing is a continuous journey, not a checklist.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Over Tooling and Self Abandonment

04:28 Understanding Energetic Consumption and Congestion

09:59 The Dangers of Over Tooling

18:51 The Limitations of Healing Tools

28:37 Recognizing Over Tooling in Our Lives

33:43 The Importance of Internal Work

37:07 Space Adventures and Celebrity Experiences

40:02 Innovative Solutions to Unusual Problems

44:16 Reflections on Healing and Self-Discovery

After a much-needed pause since March 1, your favorite host Lala is back with guest, Nichelle, for a deep, raw, and soul-stretching conversation to mark the return of The Spilled Milk Podcast. This is not just an episode—it’s a reclamation, and we’re unpacking all the emotional suitcases we’ve been carrying.

In this extended and unfiltered comeback episode, we dive into:

🍼 Parenting through fear and the emotional layers children absorb
🍼 The influence of media on kids and protecting their peace
🍼 A reflective trip to New York City that stirred growth and healing
🍼 Church hurt, betrayal, and how to rebuild spiritual trust
🍼 The power of energetic detox and what we allow into our spaces
🍼 Breaking generational patterns that glorify burnout
🍼 The quiet war of over-communication vs. sacred silence
🍼 The illusion of quick fixes and the reality of soul work

At the center of it all is energetic consumption—what we take in, hold on to, and unknowingly carry in our bodies, our homes, our parenting, and our spirits.

• Parenting through fear? That’s about the energy we absorb and pass down.

• Church hurt and spiritual disillusionment? That’s energetic wounding and spiritual clutter.

• Generational cycles, burnout, always being “on”? That’s unsustainable energetic output.

• Rest, boundaries, silence, and detox? That’s the path to energetic healing.

  
  

We talk GOD, boundaries, faith beyond tradition, biblical literacy, and the necessity of emotional processing. We hold space for you to feel seen in your healing journey—whether you’re parenting through pain, grieving spiritual community, or learning to love yourself outside of performance.

✨ It’s honest. It’s healing. It’s everything we’ve been holding in—and now it’s poured out.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Welcome Back and Podcast Updates

12:15 Navigating Media Influence on Children

18:07 Reflections on New York City

26:19 Understanding Church Hurt

32:40 The Role of Community in Healing

37:42 Recognizing Cult-like Behaviors in Churches

44:33 Finding God Beyond the Church Walls

51:05 Decluttering the Soul

57:32 Communicating Boundaries and Emotions

01:06:15 Unresolved Emotions and Their Impact

01:11:34 Intentional Relationships and Boundaries

01:19:04 Detaching from Past Relationships

01:26:47 The Process of Healing and Decluttering

01:34:09 The Importance of Facing Unresolved Issues

01:43:43 Nourishing the Soul: Applying God's Word

01:49:18 Genesis and the Foundation of Creation

01:56:19 Permission to Feel: Embracing Your Emotions

02:01:30 Returning to Your Spiritual Center

02:08:05 Mindful Communication: The Dangers of Talking Too Much

02:15:16 Releasing Energetic Clutter

02:20:16 Understanding Tithing and Community Support

02:25:39 Navigating Church Hurt and Financial Concerns

02:31:43 Final Thoughts on Worthiness and Self-Care

We love to say, "When one door closes, another one opens," but who opened that door? 👀

Not every open door is a blessing, and sometimes the enemy leaves doors wide open, hoping you’ll walk right into a trap.

🎙️ In this powerful and eye-opening episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, Lala dives deep into:

✅ How to recognize when an "opportunity" is actually a distraction

✅ Why impatience leads to costly mistakes (Saul & Samuel’s story proves it!)

✅ The difference between a "good door" and a "GOD door"

✅ How to stop walking through the same wrong doors over and over again

✅ Practical steps to build discernment and trust God’s timing

💡 If you've ever rushed into something you later regretted, ignored warning signs, or settled for less because waiting felt too hard—this episode is for YOU.

🔥 Listen now & learn how to STOP mistaking traps for blessings.

🎧 Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and everywhere you stream!

#Discernment #FaithMoves #SpiritualWisdom #NotEveryDoorIsYourDoor

TAKEAWAYS

Not every open door is your door.

Discernment is the difference between false opportunity and divine opportunity.

You can work hard and still see nothing.

The devil is a master manipulator.

Sometimes it's not about doing more, it's about discernment.

The longer you wait, the more desperate you feel.

Impatience costs us everything.

You could be planting in a place that wasn't meant to produce your harvest.

What is for me will not require force.

You have to grow into a thing when GOD calls us to a place.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates

16:06 Every Open Door Isn't From God: Discernment Matters

41:29 Navigating Open Doors and Discernment

44:01 Understanding Your Garden: Effort vs. Environment

48:50 The Story of Peter: Right Skills, Wrong Environment

52:46 Finding the Right Door and Garden

53:49 New Chapter

In this episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, Lala breaks down faith, strategy, and spiritual warfare through a fresh lens—gaming analogies and tactical disruption. If you’ve ever felt like the enemy is studying your patterns and throwing the same battles your way, this episode will equip you with powerful strategies to switch things up, move differently, and take back control.

💡 What You'll Learn in This Episode:

✔ Why stillness, worship, and radical forgiveness are your most powerful tools against spiritual attacks.

✔ How joy and rest aren’t just for self-care—but a strategy against burnout.

✔ The secret to breaking repetitive cycles and stopping predictable patterns in your life.

✔ How generosity rewires your scarcity mindset and invites abundance.

✔ The power of music and worship for healing and deliverance.

✔ Why moving in silence can be the key to breakthrough when facing adversity.

🛑 Stop letting the enemy predict your next move. It’s time to disrupt the game, rewrite the rules, and walk in unshakable faith.

🎙️Listen now and level up your faith strategy!

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TAKEAWAYS

Engaging in silence and stillness can be a powerful strategy against spiritual adversaries.

Worship and singing can shift the atmosphere and invite GOD's presence.

Radical forgiveness liberates us from bitterness and anger.

Rest and joy are forms of resistance against the enemy's tactics.

Giving generously disrupts the enemy's mindset of scarcity.

Community provides strength and accountability in spiritual battles.

Belief is a powerful tool in overcoming challenges and adversity.

Music has healing properties and can positively affect our well-being.

Recognizing patterns in our spiritual struggles can help us disrupt negative cycles.

We have a toolkit of strategies to combat spiritual adversaries.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections

06:28 The Second Controller: A Spiritual Parallel

20:15 The Power of Stillness and Silence

30:14 Worship as a Weapon

36:25 Radical Forgiveness: A Stealth Move

42:06 The Power of Forgiveness

44:52 Rest and Joy as Resistance

48:51 The Importance of Generosity

52:57 Community and Support

56:33 The Power of Belief

01:01:19 Healing Through Music

01:04:08 Historical Narratives and Memory

01:12:59 The Legacy of Labor and Resilience

Are distractions keeping you from growing into your purpose? In this episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, Lala uses the powerful metaphor of gardening to reveal how we can reclaim our personal growth, emotional health, and spiritual restoration. 🌱

Discover how to:

• Spot the “weeds” in your life—those distractions and influences that drain your energy and purpose

• Guard your inner peace and emotional well-being from The Hollow Hand

• Reflect on biblical wisdom and actionable insights to reclaim your faith and focus

• Find strength in mindfulness, self-awareness, and community connections

If life feels overwhelming or your purpose feels buried, this episode offers the clarity and encouragement you need to root yourself in intentional growth. 🌟

🎧 Tune in now and start cultivating a life filled with purpose, peace, and faith.

TAKEAWAYS

Loss can lead to a deeper appreciation for community.

Giving back is essential for personal growth.

Life is like a garden that needs tending.

Neglect can lead to significant consequences.

Emotional signs indicate when we are neglecting ourselves.

Restoration is possible through intentional actions.

Presence is more valuable than productivity.

Faith plays a crucial role in overcoming challenges.

Biblical figures provide valuable lessons for our lives.

We must actively guard what we have been given.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to The Spilled Milk Podcast

01:45 Gratitude and Reflection

05:36 The Hollow Hand: A Cautionary Tale

10:10 Adverse Possession: The Importance of Tending Your Garden

12:02 Warning Signs of an Untended Garden

18:00 Avoidance and Overcommitment: The Distraction Dilemma

23:35 Biblical Examples of Neglect and Restoration

35:54 Reclaiming Your Garden: The Path to Restoration

39:44 Practical Steps for Replanting and Restoration

43:08 Giggles and Cream: Lighthearted Moments

46:39 Milk and Honey: Community Impact Stories

47:24 From Everything to Nothing: A Personal Journey

48:24 Giving Back: The Power of Generosity

48:54 Community Support and Fundraising Success

50:21 Social Media Strategy and Engagement

51:48 Mindfulness and Personal Growth

52:26 Cycles of Life and Self-Awareness

In this "Over the Moo" detour episode, Lala reflects on the legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and Coretta Scott King, emphasizing the importance of honoring their contributions to social justice. She discusses the need for self-care and resilience in the face of current challenges, encouraging listeners to reclaim their peace and focus on meaningful action. The conversation serves as a call to action, reminding us that our voices matter and that we have the power to create change.

TAKEWAYS

We must honor the legacy of Dr. King and Coretta Scott King.

Despair distracts us from recognizing our power.

Rest is a form of resistance and self-care.

We can choose peace amidst chaos.

Our history is filled with resilience and brilliance.

Real change is built through action and faith.

We must be strategic and intentional in our efforts.

Our voices matter and can create impact.

We are made for this time and this moment.

Hope is our power, and with GOD, we lack nothing.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Honoring MLK Day and Inauguration Day

02:59 Reflections on Leadership and Resilience

03:25 Honoring Legacy: Coretta Scott King and Dr. King

06:33 The Power of Focus and Intentionality

09:24 Resilience and Action: The Call to Organize

12:30 Choosing Hope and Peace in Uncertain Times

In this episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, host Lala takes a heartfelt look at the journey we’ve traveled together—expressing deep gratitude to every listener who’s poured into this space with their time, shares, and support. This episode isn’t just a reflection—it’s a celebration of the power of community and the resilience it takes to grow in a world full of distractions.

Lala unpacks the realities of personal growth—the wins, the setbacks, and the subtle distractions that try to steal your progress. Enter the "seed thieves": the external noise, internal doubts, and life’s pressures that show up to snatch what you’ve planted. But here’s the truth—your dreams, your purpose, and your healing deserve protection. This conversation isn’t about perfection—it’s about showing up for yourself, even when life gets messy.

In addition to spiritual and personal growth, Lala speaks to real-world struggles, such as the ongoing societal need for accessible childcare. She advocates for free childcare as a powerful way to support parents and create fertile ground where families can thrive without sacrificing their well-being.

This episode is more than a listen—it’s a reminder that you’re not in this alone. Together, we’re building gardens of resilience, purpose, and abundance.

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TAKEAWAYS

Gratitude is essential for personal and community growth.

Life is constantly evolving, and we must adapt to changes.

Planting seeds of intention is crucial for future growth.

Distractions can hinder our progress; we must recognize them.

Self-doubt and internal struggles can choke our potential.

External pressures can strangle our growth; we need to be aware.

Community support is vital for overcoming challenges.

We must talk positively to our goals and dreams.

Childcare should be accessible to support families and communities.

Investing in parents and children benefits society as a whole.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Welcome to the Spill Milk Podcast

02:22 The Importance of Planting Seeds

05:08 The Fight After Planting

07:57 Identifying Seed Thieves

15:02 Understanding Your Adversaries

18:04 Distractions: The Seed Stealers

30:13 Internal Struggles: The Seed Chokers

34:38 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Fear

38:17 Identifying and Dealing with Seed Stranglers

46:43 Navigating Life's Challenges and Hardships

56:53 The Importance of Community and Support

01:02:25 Celebrating the Podcast Journey

01:09:33 Reflections and Future Aspirations

In this episode, Lala takes you on a transformative journey into renewal and intentional living. Building on the powerful theme of necessary endings, she reveals how releasing what no longer serves you creates space for the life you truly desire. Discover how to visualize your ideal future, plant the seeds of growth, and eliminate the distractions, habits, and beliefs holding you back. Lala shares actionable insights on embracing rest, using dormancy as a tool for sustainable growth, and recalibrating with purpose. Packed with inspiration and practical steps, this episode is your blueprint for cultivating a life that thrives—rooted in self-compassion, small consistent actions, and bold new possibilities.

TAKEAWAYS

Renewal is about intentionally choosing what to grow.

Rest is essential for sustainable growth.

Setting intentions is more profound than setting goals.

Self-compassion nurtures our personal gardens.

We need to identify the weeds we want to remove.

Small consistent actions create lasting momentum.

Trust the process of growth and healing.

Celebrate small wins along the journey.

Be mindful of the seeds you choose to plant.

Create a supportive environment for growth.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Welcome to The Spilled Milk Podcast

02:12 Life's Challenges and Gratitude

04:57 Reflections on 2024 and New Beginnings

06:16 Embracing the Magical Journey

09:03 The Importance of Shedding and Renewal

24:15 Setting Intentions Aligned with Values

32:27 Identifying Seeds for Growth and Weeds to Remove

40:17 Weeds to Remove: Habits, Beliefs, and Relationships

45:07 The Importance of Rest and Dormancy

52:01 Recalibration and Rest: Intentional Practices

59:36 Tending to Your Garden: Consistency Over Perfection

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