In this episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, Lala unpacks the emotional exhaustion that often follows deep inner work. If you’ve been doing all the things—therapy, journaling, breathwork, meditation—but still feel stuck, lost, or spiritually drained, this conversation is for you.

Lala introduces the concept of overtooling: the compulsive use of healing tools and self-help practices without actually connecting to the self beneath them. She explores how energetic consumption (what we take in from others) and energetic congestion (what we store and never release) quietly shape our emotional overwhelm and disconnect us from true transformation.

Through personal insight and soulful reflection, this episode challenges the idea that healing is something to achieve, and instead centers the truth that sustainable growth requires presence—not just performance. If you've been wondering why the tools aren’t working, this is your moment of clarity.

TAKEAWAYS

It's perfectly okay to cry about your spilled milk.

We often confuse doing the work with being with ourselves.

Energetic consumption is the intake of unprocessed emotional debris.

Over tooling can lead to feeling stuck and unfulfilled.

Tools are essential but cannot replace self-discovery.

We need to meet ourselves in our healing journey.

Sitting in silence can be more productive than using tools.

We often hide behind tools instead of facing our emotions.

Self-abandonment can occur even with good intentions.

Healing is a continuous journey, not a checklist.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Over Tooling and Self Abandonment

04:28 Understanding Energetic Consumption and Congestion

09:59 The Dangers of Over Tooling

18:51 The Limitations of Healing Tools

28:37 Recognizing Over Tooling in Our Lives

33:43 The Importance of Internal Work

37:07 Space Adventures and Celebrity Experiences

40:02 Innovative Solutions to Unusual Problems

44:16 Reflections on Healing and Self-Discovery

After a much-needed pause since March 1, your favorite host Lala is back with guest, Nichelle, for a deep, raw, and soul-stretching conversation to mark the return of The Spilled Milk Podcast. This is not just an episode—it’s a reclamation, and we’re unpacking all the emotional suitcases we’ve been carrying.

In this extended and unfiltered comeback episode, we dive into:

🍼 Parenting through fear and the emotional layers children absorb
🍼 The influence of media on kids and protecting their peace
🍼 A reflective trip to New York City that stirred growth and healing
🍼 Church hurt, betrayal, and how to rebuild spiritual trust
🍼 The power of energetic detox and what we allow into our spaces
🍼 Breaking generational patterns that glorify burnout
🍼 The quiet war of over-communication vs. sacred silence
🍼 The illusion of quick fixes and the reality of soul work

At the center of it all is energetic consumption—what we take in, hold on to, and unknowingly carry in our bodies, our homes, our parenting, and our spirits.

• Parenting through fear? That’s about the energy we absorb and pass down.

• Church hurt and spiritual disillusionment? That’s energetic wounding and spiritual clutter.

• Generational cycles, burnout, always being “on”? That’s unsustainable energetic output.

• Rest, boundaries, silence, and detox? That’s the path to energetic healing.

  
  

We talk GOD, boundaries, faith beyond tradition, biblical literacy, and the necessity of emotional processing. We hold space for you to feel seen in your healing journey—whether you’re parenting through pain, grieving spiritual community, or learning to love yourself outside of performance.

✨ It’s honest. It’s healing. It’s everything we’ve been holding in—and now it’s poured out.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Welcome Back and Podcast Updates

12:15 Navigating Media Influence on Children

18:07 Reflections on New York City

26:19 Understanding Church Hurt

32:40 The Role of Community in Healing

37:42 Recognizing Cult-like Behaviors in Churches

44:33 Finding God Beyond the Church Walls

51:05 Decluttering the Soul

57:32 Communicating Boundaries and Emotions

01:06:15 Unresolved Emotions and Their Impact

01:11:34 Intentional Relationships and Boundaries

01:19:04 Detaching from Past Relationships

01:26:47 The Process of Healing and Decluttering

01:34:09 The Importance of Facing Unresolved Issues

01:43:43 Nourishing the Soul: Applying God's Word

01:49:18 Genesis and the Foundation of Creation

01:56:19 Permission to Feel: Embracing Your Emotions

02:01:30 Returning to Your Spiritual Center

02:08:05 Mindful Communication: The Dangers of Talking Too Much

02:15:16 Releasing Energetic Clutter

02:20:16 Understanding Tithing and Community Support

02:25:39 Navigating Church Hurt and Financial Concerns

02:31:43 Final Thoughts on Worthiness and Self-Care

We love to say, "When one door closes, another one opens," but who opened that door? 👀

Not every open door is a blessing, and sometimes the enemy leaves doors wide open, hoping you’ll walk right into a trap.

🎙️ In this powerful and eye-opening episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, Lala dives deep into:

✅ How to recognize when an "opportunity" is actually a distraction

✅ Why impatience leads to costly mistakes (Saul & Samuel’s story proves it!)

✅ The difference between a "good door" and a "GOD door"

✅ How to stop walking through the same wrong doors over and over again

✅ Practical steps to build discernment and trust God’s timing

💡 If you've ever rushed into something you later regretted, ignored warning signs, or settled for less because waiting felt too hard—this episode is for YOU.

🔥 Listen now & learn how to STOP mistaking traps for blessings.

🎧 Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and everywhere you stream!

#Discernment #FaithMoves #SpiritualWisdom #NotEveryDoorIsYourDoor

TAKEAWAYS

Not every open door is your door.

Discernment is the difference between false opportunity and divine opportunity.

You can work hard and still see nothing.

The devil is a master manipulator.

Sometimes it's not about doing more, it's about discernment.

The longer you wait, the more desperate you feel.

Impatience costs us everything.

You could be planting in a place that wasn't meant to produce your harvest.

What is for me will not require force.

You have to grow into a thing when GOD calls us to a place.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates

16:06 Every Open Door Isn't From God: Discernment Matters

41:29 Navigating Open Doors and Discernment

44:01 Understanding Your Garden: Effort vs. Environment

48:50 The Story of Peter: Right Skills, Wrong Environment

52:46 Finding the Right Door and Garden

53:49 New Chapter