In this video, Ross Rosenberg explains how an article on the “Happiness Paradox” completely changed his understanding of happiness by revealing that chasing it actually destroys it. He describes how true happiness arises naturally when we’re present, emotionally aligned, and engaged in life—not when we try to force it as a goal. Rosenberg connects this to self‑love deficit disorder (SLDD), noting that many codependents mistake the absence of pain or the approval of narcissistic partners for happiness, leaving them stuck in a cycle of chasing emotional “mirages.” He emphasizes that real happiness comes from healing, building self‑love, and creating a life rooted in peace and authenticity. Instead of chasing “butterflies,” he urges viewers to “mend their garden”—to care for themselves and their emotional world—so joy can appear on its own.

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.

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Ross Rosenberg’s video delves into the roots and reality of Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD)—a trauma-based condition stemming from early childhood experiences with narcissistic and codependent parents. He explains how these formative wounds create “core shame” and “pathological loneliness,” driving people into unhealthy, addictive relationships in a desperate attempt to soothe their sense of unlovability. Through his SLDD framework, Rosenberg highlights the emotional pain that fuels codependency and the false perception that external validation or relationships can fix inner emptiness.

In the video, Rosenberg challenges viewers who believe they are healing from codependency to confront denial and self-deception. He argues that true recovery requires facing deeply buried shame and loneliness rather than avoiding them through therapy, spiritual practices, or intellectual insight alone. Drawing on decades of experience, he presents his Self-Love Recovery Program as a structured path to genuine healing—one that dismantles denial, breaks addictive patterns, and nurtures authentic self-love. His message closes with encouragement to face emotional truth courageously, emphasizing that lasting freedom and connection begin with honest self-awareness.

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.

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For decades, the word codependency shaped how we understood toxic relationship cycles — but it was never quite enough. In this video, Ross Rosenberg explains why he redefined the concept as Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD), a trauma-based framework that better explains the root causes of codependency and why recovery often fails without addressing them.

Ross takes you back to his early years as a psychotherapist, how The Human Magnet Syndrome was born, and what inspired the Self-Love Recovery model that’s now helped thousands reclaim their self-worth.

If you’ve ever felt trapped in painful relationship patterns, this story will help you see the real cause — and the way out. Visit selfloverecovery.com to learn more about his courses, books, and psychotherapy program.

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.

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In this podcast, psychotherapist Ross Rosenberg addresses the challenge of making friends after age 40, especially following a divorce or major life change. He explains that while it can be difficult, it is entirely possible by focusing on key mental and social strategies. The most critical factor is cultivating a positive, self-loving mindset, as anxiety and negativity can become self-fulfilling prophecies.

Rosenberg provides practical advice: be genuinely interested in others by asking questions, maintain relaxed body language and eye contact, and avoid negativity, bragging, or using substances as a social crutch. He strongly recommends using platforms like Meetup.com to find communities based on shared interests and emphasizes that building genuine friendships takes time and patience, encouraging viewers to believe in themselves and their own worth.

For an eight-page article Ross wrote on the subject: https://bit.ly/Friendships_By-Design

Ross Rosenberg, author and CEO of the Self-Love Recovery Institute, announces a new, more accessible fee structure for psychotherapy sessions due to economic challenges. His services now cater not only to those seeking self-love recovery and codependency resolution but also to individuals dealing with depression, anxiety, ADHD, grief, substance abuse, life changes, parenting, or teens. Additionally, the Institute is offering interactive Zoom group therapy for people with self-love deficits, limited to eight clients per 90-minute session. Ross encourages interested individuals to contact the Institute by phone or email to express their interest in joining.

If interested, reach out to us at (224) 518-1452 or email help@selfloverecovery.com. I look forward to connecting with you and starting this journey together.

Learn more about Self-Love Recovery Treatment at my website: www.SelfLoveRecovery.com

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.

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Do you have a "graveyard of broken relationships" because you confront people who hurt you? In this video, Ross Rosenberg introduces the latest addition to his list of codependency personality types: the Abandonment-Sensitive Codependent (or Self-Love Deficient individual). These individuals are highly reactive to perceived abandonment, often confronting the pathological narcissists they are magnetically attracted to, which leads to repeated relationship ruptures.

In the video, Ross explains how this creates a self-fulfilling prophecy of loneliness and how it differs from healthier responses or personality disorders like BPD. If you see yourself in this pattern, learn how healing the core wounds of Self-Love Deficit Disorder can help you break the cycle and find peace.

Learn more about Self-Love Recovery Treatment at my website: www.SelfLoveRecovery.com

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NOW AVAILABLE: THE HUMAN MAGNET SYNDROME WORKBOOK. https://bit.ly/HMS_Workbook

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.

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Narcissism and codependency don’t just appear out of nowhere — they are passed down through families, generation after generation. In this video, Ross Rosenberg explains why children of narcissistic parents often grow up to become either codependent or narcissistic themselves, and how the cycle of trauma and attachment wounds continues unless it is broken.

You’ll learn how conditional love, neglect, or emotional abuse shapes a child’s identity and attachment style, why codependency is actually self-love deficit disorder (SLDD), and why the human magnet syndrome draws codependents to narcissists again and again.

Breaking this curse is possible — and it starts with healing SLDD and building self-love abundance. If you feel stuck in painful relationship patterns, you’re not alone. Ross has helped thousands escape this cycle and finally find healthy, lasting love.

Learn more at selflovereovery.com

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.

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Narcissists use chronic devaluation, criticism, and gaslighting to crush self-esteem and keep their partners feeling powerless. In this video, Ross Rosenberg explains why defending yourself while staying in the relationship rarely works and why rebuilding self-worth starts with choosing self-love. Learn how to break free from narcissistic abuse, overcome core shame, and take the first steps toward healing.

If you’re ready to move forward, visit selflovereocovery.com to explore resources and support for your recovery.

Ross's 3.7 million viewed video, "When You Unmask a Covert Narcissist, RUN, But Quietly! Counterfeit Relationship." https://bit.ly/Covert-Narcissist

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.

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What happens when one of your parents is a covert narcissist? Behind their mask of charm and respectability lies a devastating truth that can destroy a child’s sense of self. In this video, Ross Rosenberg explains the unique dangers of covert narcissist parents, why they’re so hard to expose, and how their manipulation can leave lasting scars. These experiences often leave children questioning their reality and struggling with deep self-doubt well into adulthood. The damage may be invisible to outsiders, but for the child, it feels inescapable and overwhelming. Understanding these hidden patterns is the first step toward healing and breaking free from their grip.

Ross's 3.7 million viewed video, "When You Unmask a Covert Narcissist, RUN, But Quietly! Counterfeit Relationship." https://bit.ly/Covert-Narcissist

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.

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