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Growth isn’t always loud or obvious.

Often, it shows up quietly in how you think, communicate, and take responsibility for your life.

In this episode of The Work with James Shireby, James explores five subtle but powerful signs that you’re genuinely growing as a man.

We cover:

• Why learning to ask rather than assume is a sign of maturity
• How having difficult conversations builds trust and stronger relationships
• What it really means to invest your time and energy into what matters
• The difference between being driven by growth versus being led by ego
• How to reconcile the paradox of being content while still wanting more from yourself

This episode is for men who are reflective, values-led, and committed to doing the inner work — not for perfection, but for clarity, fulfilment, and self-respect.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re truly moving forward or just staying busy, this conversation will help you recalibrate.

This is the work.

Get in touch:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/

Email: jamesshireby@hotmail.com

Interview episodes you might enjoy:

Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s

Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk

Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk

Read more from me:

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Here’s How to Get Clear on Your Values (And Why It Matters More Than Ever)

In a world full of noise, pressure, and endless choice, many men feel stuck, unfulfilled, or disconnected — even when life looks good on the outside.

In this episode of The Work, James explores one of the most important questions a man can ask:

What’s worth caring about?

You’ll learn why a lack of values clarity often sits beneath stress, dissatisfaction, and burnout — and how values act as an inner compass, helping you cut through distractions and make decisions that actually feel right.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why modern life makes it harder than ever to know what truly matters
• What values really are (and what they’re not)
• The subtle signs you’re living out of alignment
• 7 powerful questions to help uncover what matters most to you
• Why a values-based life isn’t about comfort — but meaning, integrity, and fulfilment

This isn’t about motivation or quick fixes.

It’s about living with intention, setting boundaries, and taking responsibility for the man you’re becoming.

If you’re tired of drifting, chasing the wrong goals, or feeling emotionally led rather than values led — this episode will help you realign.

This is the work.

Get in touch:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/

Email: jamesshireby@hotmail.com

Interview episodes you might enjoy:

Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s

Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk

Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk

Read more from me:

https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-thoughts

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Purpose isn’t something you suddenly find.

It’s something you build.

In this episode of The Work, James explores why so many men feel stuck, restless, or unfulfilled — even when life looks “fine” on the surface. The issue usually isn’t motivation or discipline. It’s a lack of meaning.

You’ll learn why waiting for clarity keeps you stuck, how comfort and distraction quietly drain your energy, and why purpose is created through responsibility, values, and aligned action.

This episode is for men who want more meaning and fulfilment in their life and are ready to stop waiting and start moving in a direction that matters.

Purpose doesn’t make life easier.

It makes it meaningful.

This is the work.

Get in touch:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/

Email: jamesshireby@hotmail.com

Interview episodes you might enjoy:

Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s

Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk

Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk

Read more from me:

https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-thoughts

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Growth has a cost.

It’s uncomfortable. Inconvenient. And it asks you to face parts of yourself you’d rather avoid.

But here’s what most men never stop to consider:

not growing costs far more than growth ever will.

In this episode of The Work, I explore the hidden cost of staying the same — and why so many men feel stuck, tired, disconnected, or quietly dissatisfied despite “doing everything right.”

We talk about how life’s chapters change, and how each one demands a new version of you — more patient, more resilient, more emotionally aware. When that growth doesn’t happen, you end up trying to live a new chapter with an old identity — and that’s where the real struggle begins.

You’ll hear about the subtle signs that a man has stopped growing, why the cost shows up in your peace, your relationships, and your potential, and why growth can feel lonely even when you’re moving in the right direction.

This episode isn’t about dramatic transformations or overnight breakthroughs.

It’s about awareness.

Honesty.

And taking responsibility for the next step you already know you need to take.

Because the cost of growing is discomfort.

But the cost of not growing… is your life.

If you’re a man who wants more from himself — more clarity, more connection, more purpose — this episode is for you.

Get in touch:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/

Email: jamesshireby@hotmail.com

Interview episodes you might enjoy:

Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s

Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk

Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk

Read more from me:

https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-thoughts

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In this episode of The Work, James breaks down five things that quietly destroy a man’s mental wellbeing without him even realising it.

It’s not always the big life events that pull you off track — it’s the small daily habits, the environments you tolerate, and the pressures you keep carrying.

You’ll learn why:

• the wrong people drain your energy

• negative media overload hijacks your nervous system

• poor nutrition affects your mood and clarity

• lack of movement weakens your resilience

• overcommitting leads to burnout and disconnect

This episode is a reminder that your mental fitness is built through the choices you make every single day.

If you want to feel stronger, clearer and more grounded — start here.

Tune in, take something from it, and do the work.

Get in touch:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/

Email: jamesshireby@hotmail.com

Interview episodes you might enjoy:

Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s

Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk

Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk

Read more from me:

https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-thoughts

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In this episode of The Work, James breaks down one of the biggest reasons men stay stuck: trying to fix problems they haven’t taken the time to understand.

Most men jump straight into action — solutions, strategies, quick wins — without ever looking beneath the surface. And it’s why the same frustrations, habits, and emotional patterns keep repeating.

James explores what’s really going on underneath the struggle:

• slipping into blame or a quiet victim mindset

• avoiding uncomfortable truths

• old wounds still shaping your behaviour

• responsibility you haven’t fully taken

• a lack of clarity around your values

• or simply not knowing how to tolerate discomfort well

This episode is an invitation to pause, get curious, and understand yourself on a deeper level.

Because real change doesn’t start with fixing the outside — it starts with understanding the inside.

If you feel like you’ve been doing a lot but not moving forward, this conversation will help you see why… and show you where to start.

Tune in, look beneath the surface, and keep doing the work.

Get in touch:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/

Email: jamesshireby@hotmail.com

Interview episodes you might enjoy:

Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s

Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk

Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk

Read more from me:

https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-thoughts

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So many men are struggling right now — not because they’re weak, but because they’re stuck in one of two unhelpful camps.

Camp 1: Work hard, stay busy, push emotions down, and chase success… while health and relationships quietly fall apart.

Camp 2: More open emotionally, but taking no meaningful action. Stuck, overwhelmed, and wanting progress without knowing where to start.

In this episode, I break down the third path — Camp 1.5 — the middle ground most men never find.

A place where you can:

• stay connected to yourself and take aligned action

• understand your emotions without being held back by them

• build healthy relationships while building a strong career

• pursue achievement without losing your wellbeing

You’ll also learn the simple framework that helps men break old cycles:

Stop → Learn → Act.

This is the work that prevents you from becoming successful but lonely…

or self-aware but stuck.

If you’re a man who wants more clarity, more purpose, and real long-term growth — this episode is for you.

Get in touch:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/

Email: jamesshireby@hotmail.com

Interview episodes you might enjoy:

Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s

Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk

Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk

Read more from me:

https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-thoughts

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This week I sit down and talk with Luke French to talk about all things Mental Health and Mental Fitness.

If you would like to reserve your spot on the next Mental Fitness event then sign up here:

https://www.thrive-personaltraining.co.uk/mental-fitness-february-2026

Get in touch:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/james_shireby/

Email: jamesshireby@hotmail.com

Interview episodes you might enjoy:

Anthony Barnes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwZ3TikRV9s

Chloe Thomas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JQEhKfcAZgk

Johnny Lawrence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_ErlDxpeGk

Read more from me:

https://twpt.co.uk/blog/77/how-to-manage-your-negative-thoughts

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