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  • Other People Don’t Control Your Feelings | Conflict, Criticism & Gossip | E61

    Other People Don’t Control Your Feelings | Conflict, Criticism & Gossip | E61
    Oct 3 2025
    Workplace conflict, criticism, gossip, and survival instincts — why your brain reacts like it’s under attack, and how to stop letting others run your day. Other people do not create how you feel. That’s the central truth of this episode. In 2025, we’re still walking into offices, churches, and family dinners as if survival depends on defending against every comment or criticism. Your brain is wired for safety, not harmony. Unless you learn to challenge your thoughts, you’ll keep outsourcing your peace to people who were never in charge of your emotions. In this episode you’ll learn: Why criticism feels dangerous (and why it made sense in tribal times). How gossip destroys trust even when it feels harmless. Why people pleasing (the Fox reflex) leaves you drained. The neuroscience of why “Bob in Accounting” feels like a saber-toothed tiger. How to challenge your thoughts and move from emotional immaturity to emotional adulthood. You’ll leave with practical tools to coach yourself in the moment, stop letting other people dictate your day, and reclaim your power. Highlight Quote: “Nobody’s getting eaten in your office. Stop acting like they are.” Chapters (with Real Timestamps + Descriptive Keywords) 00:00:02 – The Core Truth | Why other people don’t create your thoughts or feelings 00:01:01 – Why This Matters in 2025 | Miscommunication, workplace tension, and survival reflexes 00:03:28 – Criticism as Survival Strategy | The fence, the tribe, and saber-toothed tiger logic 00:08:54 – Bob in Accounting vs. a Bear | Why your brain can’t tell the difference 00:12:22 – People Pleasing Explained | The Fox reflex and why saying “yes” drains you 00:13:13 – Gossip’s Hidden Harm | How lunch-hour talk dehumanizes coworkers 00:17:43 – Thoughts Are Not Facts | Why most of what you think can’t be proven 00:22:19 – Nobody’s Getting Eaten at Work | The survival reflex hijack explained 00:28:33 – Emotional Adulthood | How to challenge your thoughts in real time 00:39:18 – Thought Work That Changes Lives | From resentment to resilience 00:42:59 – The Big Question | When will you stop letting others decide your day? 00:43:32 – Tools for Change | Survival Guides, quiz, and coaching support 00:44:17 – Closing Reminder | Stop handing your power to other people Highlight Quotes “Your brain doesn’t know the difference between Bob in Accounting and a bear.” “Other people don’t create how you feel. Your brain does.” “Nobody’s getting eaten in your office. Stop acting like they are.” “Criticism feels dangerous because your survival brain thinks safety is at stake.” “The clash isn’t personal. It’s wiring.” Questions This Episode Answers Why do I take criticism at work so personally? How does gossip affect trust at work and in relationships? How do I stop people pleasing when I know it’s draining me? How can I stop letting coworkers or family ruin my day? What is emotional adulthood vs. emotional immaturity? How does the survival brain cause workplace conflict? What is the neuroscience behind overreacting to stress? This episode breaks down emotional maturity and immaturity, how survival instincts drive workplace conflict, gossip, and people pleasing, why criticism feels personal, and what brain science and emotional intelligence can teach us about managing emotions at work, building resilience, and moving from survival reflexes into real emotional adulthood. For more: Take the FREE Survival Instinct Quiz: https://charliehornescoaching.com/quiz Confirm your Survival Instinct Archetype and grab a cinematic cheatsheet with first steps to insight and results. Free! And learn more about your customized toolkit. Find YOUR Survival Instinct Archetype Episode Below or binge them all! The Fight Instinct - Lion Archetype https://youtu.be/yEpql4mXYUE The Flight Instinct - Deer Archetype https://youtu.be/n4vK4_ygX5o The Freeze Instinct — Owl Archetype https://youtu.be/VEt4LKeTWEk The Fawn Instinct — Fox Archetype https://youtu.be/bYDOYgAXkOY The Seek Instinct — Panther Archetype https://youtu.be/Mf804KS8J9c Full Survival Instinct Series Playlist https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLydviSJ3yTA8UpwUqOmNwfTQnzkbhyA2t Resources: Fox | Fawning Instinct Digital Edition Survival Guide has dropped! All my Foxes - grab it here: https://charliehornescoaching.com/guides Want to apply for my my private, tailored coaching packages? These are customised for your specific story and instinct archetype. Apply here now to see if you would be a good match. I have opened a few private seats for the upcoming start date. Apply now: https://charliehornescoaching.com/book #WorkplaceConflict #EmotionalMaturity #SurvivalInstincts
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    45 m
  • The Hidden Burnout No One Admits | Why High-Functioning Women Feel Like They’re Failing | E60

    The Hidden Burnout No One Admits | Why High-Functioning Women Feel Like They’re Failing | E60
    Sep 12 2025
    The Hidden Burnout No One Admits | Why High-Functioning Women Feel Like They’re Failing | E60 You look fine on the outside. Inside, you’re replaying the same mistake at 2AM, wondering if you’re failing. This episode exposes why high-functioning women doubt themselves when the system is the problem. Here’s what you’ll hear • Why being the “strong one” leaves you exhausted and invisible • How exhaustion gets mislabeled as weakness instead of system failure • The real reason your body panics before anyone else notices the problem • Why women who look in control secretly wonder if they’re falling apart • The survival reflex that makes you second-guess your own clarity This isn’t mindset talk. It’s survival science built for women carrying impossible loads in systems that punish honesty and reward overfunctioning. If you’ve ever thought, “I can’t let anyone see how bad this feels,” this episode shows you why that reaction is wired in—and how to stop confusing survival with failure. Chapters 00:00:00 Hook — Your body reacts before your brain 00:00:33 Default reflexes show up faster than thought 00:01:46 The problem with criticism and useless advice 00:04:11 Reflex is biology, not identity 00:05:47 Why interrupting the reflex feels impossible 00:06:01 Intro — Dr. Charlie Hornes + ICA framing 00:06:31 Feeling the room shift 00:07:14 Internship story + “pointy elbows” pastor 00:08:55 Blindsided by silence, tone, or pressure 00:10:13 Classic freeze, fawn, flight reactions 00:12:03 Career in dysfunctional systems 00:12:59 Archetypes explained — Owl (freeze) 00:13:41 Fight/Flight/Fawn thrown away as clichés 00:14:44 Double violence defined 00:17:38 Why information alone never helps 00:18:22 Each archetype is a club, not a flaw 00:19:26 Double violence stacked: blindsided + blamed 00:21:07 Naming the five reflexes 00:21:46 Lion — Fight 00:22:56 Deer — Flight 00:23:58 Owl — Freeze 00:25:57 Fox — Fawn 00:27:09 How to say “no” as a Fox (“I’m tied up”) 00:31:21 Toolkit + quiz CTAs 00:34:15 Story — mentors refusing to cosign victimhood 00:36:17 Systemic dysfunction rewires the brain 00:38:21 Doctoral research — women in hostile environments 00:41:13 Transformational confrontation story 00:44:36 Pain turns inward → service pulls you out 00:45:46 Why we can’t cosign victimhood 00:47:02 Kindness ≠ Niceness 00:50:04 Toxic platitude: “everything happens for a reason” 00:51:49 Panther archetype — Seeker defined 00:54:27 Prone to gaslighting + self-doubt 00:57:25 Gaslighting erodes reality perception 01:00:34 Panthers detect mismatch faster than others 01:02:46 Reflexes shaped by environment 01:05:27 Mary Magdalene sermon story 01:06:36 Criticism for preaching women in scripture 01:07:43 Example of winning a fight — rare reflex win 01:11:08 Biology — amygdala fires before prefrontal cortex 01:13:09 Story — church admin refuses aid to homeless man 01:15:49 Homework assignment — identify default reflex 01:18:21 Label reflex vs. identity 01:20:11 Practice pause and self-differentiation 01:22:00 How to retrain reflex with reps 01:23:03 Catch the ugly self-talk 01:25:06 Quiz + cheat sheet CTA 01:26:04 Toolkits + limited-time offer 01:27:30 Closing — it’s instinct, not weakness For more: Take the FREE Survival Instinct Quiz: https://charliehornescoaching.com/quiz Confirm your Survival Instinct Archetype and grab a cinematic cheatsheet with first steps to insight and results. Free! And learn more about your customized toolkit. Find YOUR Survival Instinct Archetype Episode Below or binge them all! The Fight Instinct - Lion Archetype https://youtu.be/yEpql4mXYUE The Flight Instinct - Deer Archetype https://youtu.be/n4vK4_ygX5o The Freeze Instinct — Owl Archetype https://youtu.be/VEt4LKeTWEk The Fawn Instinct — Fox Archetype https://youtu.be/bYDOYgAXkOY Full Survival Instinct Series Playlist https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLydviSJ3yTA8UpwUqOmNwfTQnzkbhyA2t Tags for this episode include: why high functioning women feel like failing, women misdiagnosed with burnout, survival instinct archetypes lion deer owl fox panther, toxic positivity everything happens for a reason, invisible strong woman exhaustion, survival instinct toolkit for women. #survivalinstincts #highfunctioningwomen #burnout
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    1 h y 28 m
  • The Moment You Think It’s You | Survival Instincts & First Clues of Stress Response | E59

    The Moment You Think It’s You | Survival Instincts & First Clues of Stress Response | E59
    Sep 4 2025
    The Moment You Think It’s You | Survival Instincts & First Clues of Stress Response Survival instincts fire before thought. If you’ve ever felt a quick “something’s off” in your body, that flicker isn’t something "wrong"—it’s a signal. A warning shot In this episode, Dr. Charlie M. Hornes explains how the five instinct patterns—fight, flight, freeze, fawn, seek— show up in daily life, why they get misread as weakness, and how to spot the first clue your system is flagging it first. Take the free Survival Instinct Quiz to see whether you lead with Lion (Fight), Deer (Flight), Owl (Freeze), Fox (Fawn), or Panther (Seek). What You’ll Learn Why instinct is not identity How your nervous system responds before your brain “catches up”The meaning of that first body “yuck” as a helpful early alertHow to start with noticing—not fixing Takeaways Survival instincts are fast, protective patterns.Fight • Flight • Freeze • Fawn • Seek = preloaded reflexes.The first clue is subtle—treat it as data, not self-blame.Gentle awareness builds choice in the moment. Chapters 00:00:00 – First Clue: The Body’s Alert That flicker of “something’s off” is your survival instinct, not failure. 00:02:12 – Welcome + Series Context Introduction to the 6-part arc reframing instinct as intelligence. 00:03:00 – The Five Instinct Patterns Explained Fight, flight, freeze, fawn, and seek—reflexes, not flaws. 00:08:34 – Survival Instinct Quiz Invitation How to discover your archetype and separate self from reflex. 00:10:19 – The Paradigm Shift: It’s Not You Mismatch signals are precision, not pathology. 00:12:14 – The Lion Example: Fight Reflex in Action “Clap back” is protection, not aggression. 00:14:27 – The Deer Example: Flight as Boundary Mastery Exiting early as a form of preservation. 00:15:53 – The Owl Example: Freeze Reflex Demystified Stillness as intel gathering, not weakness. 00:19:22 – The Fox Example: Fawn and People-Pleasing Appeasement as room-calming survival intelligence. 00:22:22 – The Panther Example: Seek and Forecasting Early detection as forecasting, not paranoia. 00:27:16 – Hurricane Metaphor: System Forces at Play Storm systems mirror converging reflex pressures. 00:29:00 – Differentiating Self from Reflex Your reflex is a pet beside you, not your identity. 00:32:58 – Training the Animal Reflex Why training instinct matters more than erasing it. 00:36:40 – Childhood Origins of Instinct How early environments shape dominant reflexes. 00:40:42 – Story from Ministry Leadership Recognizing freeze as instinct, not failure. 00:46:27 – Weekly Practice: Spotting the Flicker Track the yuck before reflex; label it “first clue.” 00:48:57 – Toolkit + Resources Mention Where to find survival toolkits and resources. 00:50:15 – Homework + Reflection Practice separating the body flicker from blame. 00:51:09 – Next Week’s Episode Preview Naming the reflex—why language shifts power. Sound Bites “That flicker isn’t failure. It’s your radar working.”“This isn’t about identity. It’s about instinct.”“The first clue isn’t collapse—it’s precision in disguise.” For more: Take the FREE Survival Instinct Quiz: https://charliehornescoaching.com/quiz Confirm your Survival Instinct Archetype and grab a cinematic cheatsheet with first steps to insight and results. Free! And learn more about your customized toolkit. Find YOUR Survival Instinct Archetype Episode Below or binge them all! The Fight Instinct - Lion Archetype https://youtu.be/yEpql4mXYUE The Flight Instinct - Deer Archetype https://youtu.be/n4vK4_ygX5o The Freeze Instinct — Owl Archetype https://youtu.be/VEt4LKeTWEk The Fawn Instinct — Fox Archetype https://youtu.be/bYDOYgAXkOY Full Survival Instinct Series Playlist https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLydviSJ3yTA8UpwUqOmNwfTQnzkbhyA2t #survivalinstincts #stressresponse #fightflightfreeze survival instincts, fight flight freeze fawn seek, stress response patterns, nervous system cues, emotional intelligence, misdiagnosed burnout, high-functioning women, stress reflex biology, survival archetype quiz
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    54 m
  • Can You Beat the 2AM Replays? Stop the Ruminating Cycle.

    Can You Beat the 2AM Replays? Stop the Ruminating Cycle.
    Aug 26 2025

    Compilation 1 — The Moment You Think It’s You Prequel to the 6-Part Survival Podcast Series

    You know that moment. The one that replays at 2AM. The pause. The tone. The thing you didn’t say—or the thing you did. And now your brain won’t drop it.

    This episode is about exactly that. Not from a place of shame or silence, but from the skill of knowing what’s yours to carry—and what’s not.

    Before Burnout Has a Name, There’s a Moment

    You feel the shift in the room. Your body flags it. But instead of trusting that signal, you turn inward:

    • Did I say too much?
    • Was that the wrong tone?
    • Am I the problem?

    This episode maps that first misdiagnosis—the one where instinct gets mislabeled as insecurity, where survival shows up and gets mistaken for failure.

    This Episode Is For You If:
    • You overthink what you said after meetings or hard conversations
    • You edit your words to make others more comfortable
    • Your silence gets mistaken for agreement—but it was survival
    • You’re done replaying moments on a loop at night
    What You’ll Learn:
    • Why your brain replays the scene even when you did nothing wrong
    • What rumination is actually doing for your system
    • The real skill behind walking out of the room without reliving it
    • How to stop chasing a better version of what already happened
    • What quiet confidence looks like when it’s clear and done
    Key Topics:
    • The 2AM mental replay loop
    • Silence as a survival instinct—not weakness
    • The high-functioning reflex to explain, soften, or buffer
    • How to stop rewriting yourself for their comfort
    Chapters:
    • 00:01:44 — The moment you spoke up and still felt unsure
    • 00:02:42 — What it means when your voice shakes
    • 00:05:23 — The survival pattern behind second-guessing
    • 00:06:12 — Silence as a trained protection response
    • 00:07:14 — The instinct to reframe for their comfort
    Next Step: Take the Free Quiz

    Take the Survival Instinct Quiz to confirm your primary survival instinct.

    https://charliehornescoaching.com/quiz

    Get your cinematic archetype cheatsheet with real strategies—and stop mislabeling the signal as a flaw. Get the full 5 Survival Instinct Archetype Series now in a curated auto playlist FREE:

    https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLydviSJ3yTA8UpwUqOmNwfTQnzkbhyA2t Watch: Lion/Fight

    https://youtu.be/Mf804KS8J9c

    Deer/Flight

    https://youtu.be/n4vK4_ygX5o

    Owl/Freeze

    https://youtu.be/VEt4LKeTWEk

    Fox/Fawn

    https://youtu.be/bYDOYgAXkOY

    Panther/Seek

    https://youtu.be/Mf804KS8J9c

    Take the FREE QUIZ and learn how to tame and train YOU survival instinct archetype!

    #SelfTrust #HighFunctioningWomen #ClarityOverChaos
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    9 m
  • Panther Survival Instinct: The Hidden 5th Fight-or-Flight Pattern & How to Use It

    Panther Survival Instinct: The Hidden 5th Fight-or-Flight Pattern & How to Use It
    Aug 9 2025
    Panther Survival Instinct: The Hidden 5th Fight-or-Flight Pattern & How to Use It

    The room shifts. A detail is off. Most people miss it. You don’t.

    This episode of The Art of Managing Your Brain breaks down the Panther Survival Instinct — the fifth pattern beyond fight, flight, freeze, and fawn — and shows how to turn that scanning precision into a strategy.

    Inside This Episode:
    • What makes the Panther/Seeker instinct different from the four classic responses
    • How the salience network flags changes before anyone else notices
    • Why early detection gets mislabeled as “overthinking”
    • Real-world examples of Panther precision in leadership and relationships
    • Step-by-step micro-coaching to work with your early-warning scan
    • How to separate real threats from echoes of the past
    Resources & Links:

    Panther Toolkit — Limited Time $9.97 (Reg. $29.97): Get the full interactive survival instinct toolkit with cinematic graphics, drills, and a 7-Day Panther Precision Challenge.

    Take the Survival Instinct Quiz: Start here

    Chapters
    • 00:00 – The survival instinct no one talks about
    • 01:06 – Why the quiz missed your pattern
    • 02:37 – Meet the Panther: The Seeker archetype
    • 04:13 – How the Panther scans for early danger
    • 07:44 – Real-world example: Predicting burnout before it happens
    • 10:01 – Understanding your salience network
    • 14:00 – How the Panther instinct gets built
    • 16:47 – Micro-coaching: Turning your scan into a superpower
    • 18:39 – What’s happening in your brain (Amygdala, Hippocampus, PFC)
    • 20:27 – The Panther cycle disruptor
    • 23:21 – Auditing your silence and speaking earlier
    • 27:04 – Why the Panther is leadership, not paranoia
    • 29:14 – Resetting after high-alert moments
    • 32:16 – Special offer: Panther Toolkit $9.97
    • 34:36 – Bonus coaching: Trust your first read
    • 36:15 – Final thought: Your Panther is perfect
    • 38:55 – What’s next: Real-world diagnostic tools
    Questions Answered:
    • What is the Panther survival instinct and how is it different from fight, flight, freeze, and fawn?
    • Why do some people notice problems before anyone else does?
    • How does the salience network in the brain work as an early-warning system?
    • How do you stop second-guessing early signals?
    • How can early detection be used for leadership without burning out?
    • What’s the fastest way to tell real risk from a false alarm?
    Related Episodes:

    The Fight Instinct - Lion Archetype

    https://youtu.be/yEpql4mXYUE

    The Flight Instinct - Deer Archetype

    https://youtu.be/n4vK4_ygX5o

    The Freeze Instinct — Owl Archetype

    https://youtu.be/VEt4LKeTWEk

    The Fawn Instinct — Fox Archetype

    https://youtu.be/bYDOYgAXkOY Full Survival Instinct Series Playlist

    https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLydviSJ3yTA8UpwUqOmNwfTQnzkbhyA2t

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    40 h y 5 m
  • Letting Go Isn’t the Goal: Real Transformation with Joanna Rajendran | E57

    Letting Go Isn’t the Goal: Real Transformation with Joanna Rajendran | E57
    Aug 2 2025
    E57 | Letting Go Isn’t the Goal: Real Transformation with Joanna Rajendran

    What if “letting go” is just self-abandonment dressed up? In this no-fluff episode, Dr. Charlie Hornes interviews transformation strategist Joanna Rajendran on what actually works when the storm hits. Together, they unpack the myth of mindset shortcuts, why your nervous system craves chaos, and how real transformation happens when you stop outsourcing your worth.

    What You’ll Learn:
    • Why “letting go” is often used to bypass growth
    • How survival-mode ambition mimics doubt
    • What instinct looks like when it masquerades as intention
    • How to build boundaries without isolating
    • Why you don’t need to feel “ready” to shift
    Chapters:
    • 00:00 – Cold open: What no one tells you about “letting go”
    • 03:14 – Joanna’s background: From survival to strategy
    • 08:27 – Joy ≠ avoidance: real recalibration
    • 14:01 – Why happiness doesn’t stick
    • 17:52 – Coping vs. choosing: the behavioral shift
    • 22:35 – Is it doubt or a safety reflex?
    • 30:48 – Why chaos sometimes feels safer than clarity
    • 37:09 – The trap of “feeling ready”
    • 41:55 – The 30-Day Letter method: scripting what's next
    • 48:42 – Power doesn’t require pain
    • 53:10 – Final takeaway: stop outsourcing your worth
    Questions This Episode Answers:
    • What if “letting go” is actually keeping me stuck?
    • Am I reacting from instinct or making a conscious choice?
    • Why do I doubt right before I break through?
    • Can discipline feel like freedom—not punishment?
    Clarification Upgrades:
    • “Fine” is not a feeling—it’s a script
    • Boundaries aren’t walls—they’re instructions
    • Transformation isn’t control—it’s agency
    • Survival instinct isn’t dysfunction—it’s data
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    Related Episodes:
    • E6 OG Joanna - 2024
    • The Complete 4 Archetype Survival Instinct Playlist
    • MUST WATCH Pod Shorts & Clips Playlist
    • E47: What Burnout Really Is—and What It’s Not
    Quote Preview: “Joanna, I just made a decision without doubting myself—for the first time in years. I feel FREE.” —Beth, Week 3 Find Joanna: @joanna.rajendran https://www.joannarajendran.com/ Joanna's Pod: https://www.youtube.com/@TheManifestStationPodcast Kerr County Community Foundation Flood Relief Donations LInk: https://cftexashillcountry.fcsuite.com/erp/donate/create/fund?funit_id=4201&fbclid=IwY2xjawLWMpFleHRuA2FlbQIxMABicmlkETFTV0JkUXk5ZTlZWDgxbzRjAR4DaLjDOM8VVGT6EZoRqPVdqTtITph3c-5YTEYPwr_tZdE6j5YDqaXVCoFohw_aem_VVpHI38XerzdaOM2-4elUQ Hashtags:

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    1 h y 7 m
  • Fight First. Regret Later. Rinse. Repeat. | The Lion Archetype Survival Pattern E56

    Fight First. Regret Later. Rinse. Repeat. | The Lion Archetype Survival Pattern E56
    Jul 26 2025
    Fight Response Explained: Why You Snap Under Pressure Is it anger… or is your nervous system trying to protect you? This episode breaks down the Lion Archetype — the misunderstood survival style that shows up as intensity, outbursts, or over-control, especially in high-functioning people. If you lead with action when others freeze, you might be running the Lion pattern. What You’ll Learn: What triggers the fight response (neurobiology made simple)Why high-functioning anger is often survival, not personalityThe myths about rage, burnout, and “too much”Four real-world pressure interruptersWhat most systems get wrong about fight-based survivalHow to work with your Lion — not against him Episode Chapters: Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Your lion wasn’t born loud (Fight Reflex Origins)01:42 – Why fight shows up first (Threat Detection + Nervous System)03:37 – What the Lion instinct really is (Clarity Before Labels)05:10 – Why burnout frameworks fail Lions07:06 – The Enneagram 8 illusion (Not About Personality)10:30 – Your brain’s 3 default settings (Survival Simplified)12:51 – Why your system defaults to control15:07 – Why leadership often hides harm17:13 – Why no one notices until you explode19:07 – There’s nothing wrong with you (Survival Isn’t Personality)21:15 – Lions vs. system expectations23:37 – When power looks like a problem25:30 – Why Lions get handed the work27:28 – What sounds loud to others may feel calm to you29:40 – Lions pick up the slack—and pay the cost30:48 – What other types envy (Instinct Comparison)32:43 – Why Lions develop “bizarre” behaviors34:32 – Why your warnings get ignored36:19 – What happens when you reach your redline38:21 – You don’t let things fail—and it shows40:10 – Holding the line when no one else will42:10 – Constant scanning, constant tension44:29 – Fixers get exhausted too46:24 – That fire you feel? It’s not dysfunction48:08 – Why stopping feels dangerous49:57 – Regret loops and overcorrection52:07 – When the control button gets stuck54:11 – Why Lions over-prepare everything56:02 – If you feel attacked, pause 10 seconds58:06 – How to teach others without dominating01:00:07 – Shake it off like the animal kingdom01:02:03 – Reclaiming instinct without shame01:03:02 – Self-coaching: Is your leadership fused with fear?01:04:29 – Learn. Apply. Repattern. (Final coaching)01:05:13 – When silence failed, he spoke01:06:00 – Stillness ≠ Weakness. Control ≠ Safety.01:07:00 – The final mantra for Lions01:08:33 – Survival, creation, myth, and freedom Lion Archetype Survival Toolkit: Ready to work with your fight instinct — instead of fearing it? Grab your Lion's Special Offer Now! Limited Time. Download the Lion Archetype Survival Toolkit Real-time decoding of your survival reflex7-Day “Claws-Out” ChallengeTactical maps (no fluff) This is the first real tool for Lions who’ve been misread, mislabeled, or told their anger was the problem. No fluff. No shame. Just survival clarity. This link is also pinned in the comments for easy access on mobile. Watch Next: Related Survival Archetypes Deer / Flight – The Need to EscapeOwl / Freeze – When Stuck Might Feel SaferFox / Fawn – People Pleasing to Survive Want to decode your own survival instinct? Take the survival archetype quiz Watch the full Masterclass: Joanna Rajendran — Fight-to-Focus System (coming soon) Next in the Series: The 5th Survival Archetype Unveiled — Panther / Seeker Top Questions This Episode Answers: What causes the fight response in high-functioning people?Is it really anger or something deeper?How do you interrupt the fight instinct in real time?What does it mean when anger feels protective, not explosive?How is fight response misdiagnosed as burnout or dysfunction?What’s the difference between being intense and being unsafe?What happens in the brain during the fight response?Why does anger feel safer than sadness for some people? Hashtags: #FightResponse #BurnoutSymptoms #AngerTriggers
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    1 h y 9 m
  • Leadership, Misinformation & Survival Instincts | Kerrville Flood 2025

    Leadership, Misinformation & Survival Instincts | Kerrville Flood 2025
    Jul 21 2025

    Episode 55 – Emergency Update from Kerrville, TX

    Recorded Live on Youtube: July 10, 2025 Official Release Date: July 21, 2025

    On July 4, catastrophic flash flooding struck Kerrville and the surrounding Texas Hill Country. I recorded this message during the emergency phase, now released as conditions begin to stabilize.

    This episode is not a news recap. It’s a real-time reflection on leadership, community response, misinformation, emotional maturity, and what happens when survival systems override rational decision-making.

    There will be no video. No follow-up flood series. No clickbait. Just this message—and then we move forward.

    New episodes return Thursday with regular teaching on thought work, leadership systems, and survival instinct coaching.

    In This Episode
    • What happened in Kerrville during the flood emergency
    • How the local community showed up with courage and care
    • Why misinformation causes secondary harm in disaster recovery
    • How to use your thinking brain when instinct takes over
    • Why I’m pausing video episodes, and when we’ll resume
    Chapters
    • 00:00–01:00 Introduction and flood context
    • 01:00–03:00 Community response and local leadership
    • 03:00–06:00 Emotional intelligence and online behavior
    • 06:00–09:00 Practicing thought work during crisis
    • 09:00–12:00 How to help and verified donation links
    • 12:00–14:00 Final reflections and what’s next
    Support Flood Recovery Efforts

    Verified donation links will be added below as confirmed:

    • Red Cross – Disaster Relief
    • Kerr County Flood Relief Fund
    • Latest Kerr County Flooding Updates

    Thank you for showing up with support, not speculation.

    Resources for New Listeners
    • Take the Survival Archetype Quiz
    • Top Episode on Emotional Intelligence
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    Closing Message

    Practice compassion.

    Pause before posting.

    Use your thinking brain, not just your survival reflex.

    This is Episode 55. Thank you for showing up. – Dr. Charlie M. Hornes DMin, BCC, MCPC Board-Certified Clinical Strategist | Executive Systems Advisor | Doctorate-Level Expert in Leadership Breakdown and Institutional Repair

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