Starting out on your divorce journey can be really overwhelming. It’s hard to know how or where to begin with the practical and legal aspects, let alone trying to navigate this through the huge range of emotions you’re feeling.

In this episode of Life, love and the law, a divorce day special, host and expert family lawyer Liza Gatrell is once again joined by firm favourites Tom Nash, aka Mr Divorce Coach, and Jodie Phelps, leading financial planner. They provide professional insight into taking the first few steps, answering the FAQs they get from clients on an almost daily basis.

00:25 Introductions from Jodie Phelps, financial adviser and Tom Nash, Mr Divorce Coach

01:18 How do you know when it’s time for a divorce?

03:01 I want to give my marriage another shot - what happens now?

05:00 Financial concerns at the beginning of divorce - am I going to be ok?

06:17 Understanding the basics of the matrimonial pot

09:27 The importance of the family home

15:19 Temporary finances and budgeting - understanding current habits and future prospects

20:19 Legal avenues if your ex won’t provide financial support during proceedings

21:23 Getting your team around you

22:46 What could you be doing if you feel that your relationship is on the rocks?

24:35 Is it always 50/50 in a divorce?

26:52 How can friends and family support you during divorce

29:35 What is a no-split divorce? Does living together apart work?

33:22 Approaching divorce in bitesized chunks and the circle of control

35:48 Expert insight into the very start of divorce process - messaging your ex, processing and ignoring hearsay

41:41 The role of the social media and TV in influencing our thoughts around divorce

44:36 AI and divorce vs speaking to a real person

45:25 The most common mistakes in divorce and how to overcome them

Useful resources for getting started in your divorce journey...

Download our in-depth handbook A Beginner’s Guide to Divorce

7 steps to an amicable divorce

Using AI in your legal case

What do I need to know when I start divorce proceedings?

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Christmas is one of the most important times of the year for many families. When you're dealing with divorce and separation, though, the pressure can easily mount up and there can be a tidal wave of emotion. Dealing with child arrangements over Christmas, making a new financial situation work around a festive budget and navigating loneliness are just some of the things divorcing or separating people take on.

In this Christmas Special of Life, love and the Law, host and family lawyer Liza Gatrell welcomes back familiar faces from Stowe talks, Jodie Phelps, financial adviser, and Tom Nash, divorce coach to the podcast. Together, they discuss planning Christmas well before December, working through the tough times and the importance of presence over presents.

00:03 Family lawyer Liza Gatrell introduces Stowe Family Law’s new podcast Life, love and the law

00:40 Jodie Phelps and Tom Phelps introduce themselves

01:35 Why is Christmas such an important topic for divorcing couples?

04:43 Blended families at Christmas - experiencing contention and working through it

07:21 Financial challenges coming up to Christmas

08:30 Are gifts truly the most important thing for children?

09:03 Getting the children’s input on what’s important to them at Christmas

10:00 How do child arrangements work after divorce or separation?

11:10 Putting children in the centre not the middle of divorce and separation

13:23 Making new traditions around special occasions and reframing

17:57 Having the conversations about Christmas earlier in the year

19:40 Is it fair that the primary caregiver should have to split Christmas equally?

21:00 Making room for compromise

23.17 Understanding and navigating loneliness at Christmas

27:10 The social media highlight reel

28:45 Practical tips for budgeting at Christmas

31:02 Should you buy a gift for your ex partner?

33:03 Top tips for approaching your first Christmas after separation

Useful resources to further support you through divorce and separation at Christmas

Co-parenting at Christmas: tips for a peaceful holiday season https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/co-parenting-at-christmas-tips-for-a-peaceful-holiday-season/

Download Stowe’s parenting plan template https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/premium-content/?type=guide&item=creating-a-parenting-plan

Going on holiday at Christmas after divorce or separation

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You loved our first live episode, and there were so many questions that needed answering, we’ve done another one! In this live show, Liza is joined by Managing Partner Sebastian Burrows to answer all the family law questions you put to them. From finances, to the family home, to communicating with your ex, Liza and Seb provided guidance and information, using their extensive expertise.

01:10 How much does a divorce cost?

02:41 Starting out on the divorce process

03:40 What is mediation and why is it helpful?

06:45 What to do if you’re struggling to agree on what happens to the house

07:48 Ringfencing pre-marital assets and matrimonial vs non-matrimonial assets

12:05 Law around changing the locks on the family home

15:25 Adaptations to the property for disabilities

17:17 The importance of disclosing inheritance in financial proceedings

20:53 Managing an ex who you believe is hiding assets

23:45 The concept of percentages in dividing finances

27:28 How are children 16+ treated in the law?

30:25 How is debt treated in divorce?

33:05 Is there an end to spousal maintenance?

3715: Keeping your financial disclosure up-to-date

40:50 Spending inheritance during divorce proceedings

42:36 An explanation of Mesher Orders

47:00 Managing an uncooperative ex-partner

49:54 Housing needs for older children with ongoing medical needs

50:58 Paying your mortgage during divorce

51:31 Cohabitation disputes and financial disclosure

View our upcoming events https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-talks/

Ask a family lawyer - Live https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MBr19NPLgRs

Cohabitation and separating as an unmarried couple https://youtu.be/L3HCXKdQz1g?si=21ODuz1ip6ea6EhQ

What ‘needs’ and ‘sharing’ really mean https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/divorce-finances-explained-what-do-needs-and-sharing-really-mean/

Clean break v maintenance - what’s right for me https://youtu.be/0sIi22ST4uI

Avoiding the top divorce mistakes https://open.spotify.com/episode/0miHzVWzorsoj2QH5XOgi6

How to manage financial hearings in the Family Court https://y

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Matt and Liza discuss the problems around the lack of protection for unmarried couples living together. Cohabitation is the fastest growing family type and with this social change, there have been calls from family lawyers to review the law and help protect the financially vulnerable. But is this just inventing new laws for the sake of it? Can current marriage and divorce laws be adapted to better reflect society?

00:51 What are the problems with current cohabitation laws?

01:56 How property ownership works

04:47 Do unmarried couples have claims other than to property?

05:30 Why there are calls for cohabitation reform

07:39 Options for cohabitation reform

09:38 The importance of education around relationships and marriage

13:49 Role of prenuptial agreements

14:15 Social changes and the impact on marriage laws

16:25 How to educate people

17:50 Do the current laws reflect society?

18:45 The role of civil partnerships

19:25 Cohabitation laws providing a middle ground

20:29 Are cohabitation laws just renaming marriage?

21:32 Reforming marriage laws

22:10 The importance of protection for cohabitees

Living together before marriage: the legal reality https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/living-together-before-marriage-the-legal-reality/

Legal Q&A: “My partner and I are buying a house together. How can I protect myself?” https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/legal-qa-my-partner-and-i-are-buying-a-house-together-how-can-i-protect-myself/

Buying a house as an unmarried couple https://open.spotify.com/episode/6hAGmZJSUsKh8fxEa508xV?si=54025b36c4bd4859

TOLATA claims https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/family-law/cohabitation-lawyers/tolata-claims/

What rights do cohabiting couples have? https://open.spotify.com/episode/1rzM1yDZkKeG9mfS6GZ02j?si=1cf8b74a2c5441ca

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Moving on after a break-up is rarely easy, but many individuals do go on to have new relationships after divorce or separation. But what happens if you want to move in with a new partner? Buying somewhere together, or either of you moving into an existing property can have knock-on effects. Matt and Liza discuss how having a new partner can impact your divorce, including your finances, child arrangements and ongoing communication with your ex.

00:54 How does moving in with a new partner impact a financial settlement?

02:10 When the court will take a new partner into consideration

02:57 Exceptions to the rule

03:23 New partners and ongoing maintenance claims with your ex-spouse

05:09 Does a new partner have to provide financial disclosure?

07:00 Housing needs and mortgage capacity post-divorce

08:03 Supporting a new partner’s children

10:19 Impact on child arrangements of moving in with a new partner

12:10 What to do if you have safety concerns

13:23 Your ongoing relationship with your ex spouse

14:27 Communicating with your ex

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In this episode of Stowe talks, Matt and Liza welcome back Tom Nash aka Mr Divorce Coach for a fascinating chat about how to manage a heterosexual divorce when one partner has come out. Tom explores having the conversation, letting people in, what to do about children and potential responses from the other spouse.

02:15 Common reasons people come out later in life

06:06 The impact of suppressing who you are

09:52 Reactions and emotions experienced by the other spouse

12:07 What preparation can you do before having the conversation

15:31 Coming out to your ex if you’ve already separated

18:30 How to talk to children about sexuality and divorce

21:39 What happens if your ex doesn’t want you to tell the children

27:55 Things to avoid in this process

29:29 Top tips from Tom

Avoiding the top divorce mistakes https://open.spotify.com/episode/0miHzVWzorsoj2QH5XOgi6

Handling the judgment of others during your divorce https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/handling-the-judgement-of-others-during-your-divorce/

Challenges of relationship break down in the LGBTQIA+ community https://open.spotify.com/episode/3busTeSBgvOIhgGKmmDw8f?si=4WFrBCE4QYmZddx6vTumdA

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Getting a financial settlement in divorce is a hugely important step, ensuring that you break all financial claims to your ex. The first part of this process is ‘full and frank’ financial disclosure, i.e., sharing the details of all your money, property, assets and debts. In this episode, Matt and Liza discuss the importance of legal advice in this process and potential risks of a DIY divorce.

00:34 What is financial disclosure and why is it important?

02:40 Practicalities of financial disclosure

03:28 What is the Form E?

06:00 The wider impact of not giving full disclosure

07:05 The importance of a lawyer in supporting your financial disclosure

08:17 Using the Form E to explain your needs post-divorce

09:52 What does ‘conduct’ mean in financial disclosure and settlements?

10:54 Income and housing needs in divorce proceedings

12:39 What happens if your financial situation changes throughout the disclosure period?

13:48 The Form D81

15:03 The court drawing inferences from lack of disclosure

15:28 Summary

How to complete your Form E - handbook https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/premium-content/?type=guide&item=how-to-complete-your-form-e

Reviewing your financial disclosure https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/premium-content/?type=guide&item=how-to-complete-your-form-e

Managing your money during divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/2lwI17QmgQLvTZtNN3XPmp?si=2b455019fb2e4d77

Ask a Family Lawyer https://open.spotify.com/episode/4Ql7uKEFMNpE8upJTWCrop?si=43e1aef212384728

How to complete Form D81 https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Stowe-Talks_How-to-Complete-form-D81-GUIDE.pdf

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One of the main things parents going through divorce are concerned about is the impact on their children, what their family situation will be going forward, and how best to shield their children. In many cases, parents can agree on matters between themselves. However, sometimes it’s necessary for the court to get involved. In this episode, award-winning barrister from 4PB, Mani Singh Basi joins Matt and Liza for a discussion on the finer details of children proceedings in the family court.

02:09 What is the function of the Family Court when it comes to children?

05:08 The difference between a Judge and a Magistrate in court and their purposes

09:15 Public children law and private children law explanation

12:06 What is involved in the first hearing in children disputes

17:40 The dispute resolution appointment where there are disputes

18:00 The final hearing and when it might be necessary

19:45 The importance of the welfare of the child

20:18 The Pathfinder pilot and improvements to the system

20:29 How are children involved in divorce proceedings?

27:58 The importance of trusting professionals

32:34 Top tips for parents going through court proceedings

How to prepare for a Family Court hearing https://open.spotify.com/episode/0D2CMIP3GPVGAK4Q11ktYa?si=f816e49470ff4edb

Single parenting, successfully https://youtu.be/UoMk44EPGzo?si=YJTTFyx6elXLnMyR

Pathfinder Pilot https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/pathfinder-pilot-continues-to-put-children-first-in-the-family-court/

Family Justice Council Guidance on covert recordings https://www.judiciary.uk/guidance-and-resources/family-justice-council-guidance-on-covert-recordings-in-family-law-proceedings-concerning-children/

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