Starting out on your divorce journey can be really overwhelming. It’s hard to know how or where to begin with the practical and legal aspects, let alone trying to navigate this through the huge range of emotions you’re feeling.

In this episode of Life, love and the law, a divorce day special, host and expert family lawyer Liza Gatrell is once again joined by firm favourites Tom Nash, aka Mr Divorce Coach, and Jodie Phelps, leading financial planner. They provide professional insight into taking the first few steps, answering the FAQs they get from clients on an almost daily basis.

00:25 Introductions from Jodie Phelps, financial adviser and Tom Nash, Mr Divorce Coach

01:18 How do you know when it’s time for a divorce?

03:01 I want to give my marriage another shot - what happens now?

05:00 Financial concerns at the beginning of divorce - am I going to be ok?

06:17 Understanding the basics of the matrimonial pot

09:27 The importance of the family home

15:19 Temporary finances and budgeting - understanding current habits and future prospects

20:19 Legal avenues if your ex won’t provide financial support during proceedings

21:23 Getting your team around you

22:46 What could you be doing if you feel that your relationship is on the rocks?

24:35 Is it always 50/50 in a divorce?

26:52 How can friends and family support you during divorce

29:35 What is a no-split divorce? Does living together apart work?

33:22 Approaching divorce in bitesized chunks and the circle of control

35:48 Expert insight into the very start of divorce process - messaging your ex, processing and ignoring hearsay

41:41 The role of the social media and TV in influencing our thoughts around divorce

44:36 AI and divorce vs speaking to a real person

45:25 The most common mistakes in divorce and how to overcome them

Useful resources for getting started in your divorce journey...

Download our in-depth handbook A Beginner’s Guide to Divorce

7 steps to an amicable divorce

Using AI in your legal case

What do I need to know when I start divorce proceedings?

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Christmas is one of the most important times of the year for many families. When you're dealing with divorce and separation, though, the pressure can easily mount up and there can be a tidal wave of emotion. Dealing with child arrangements over Christmas, making a new financial situation work around a festive budget and navigating loneliness are just some of the things divorcing or separating people take on.

In this Christmas Special of Life, love and the Law, host and family lawyer Liza Gatrell welcomes back familiar faces from Stowe talks, Jodie Phelps, financial adviser, and Tom Nash, divorce coach to the podcast. Together, they discuss planning Christmas well before December, working through the tough times and the importance of presence over presents.

00:03 Family lawyer Liza Gatrell introduces Stowe Family Law’s new podcast Life, love and the law

00:40 Jodie Phelps and Tom Phelps introduce themselves

01:35 Why is Christmas such an important topic for divorcing couples?

04:43 Blended families at Christmas - experiencing contention and working through it

07:21 Financial challenges coming up to Christmas

08:30 Are gifts truly the most important thing for children?

09:03 Getting the children’s input on what’s important to them at Christmas

10:00 How do child arrangements work after divorce or separation?

11:10 Putting children in the centre not the middle of divorce and separation

13:23 Making new traditions around special occasions and reframing

17:57 Having the conversations about Christmas earlier in the year

19:40 Is it fair that the primary caregiver should have to split Christmas equally?

21:00 Making room for compromise

23.17 Understanding and navigating loneliness at Christmas

27:10 The social media highlight reel

28:45 Practical tips for budgeting at Christmas

31:02 Should you buy a gift for your ex partner?

33:03 Top tips for approaching your first Christmas after separation

Useful resources to further support you through divorce and separation at Christmas

Co-parenting at Christmas: tips for a peaceful holiday season https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/co-parenting-at-christmas-tips-for-a-peaceful-holiday-season/

Download Stowe’s parenting plan template https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/premium-content/?type=guide&item=creating-a-parenting-plan

Going on holiday at Christmas after divorce or separation

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You loved our first live episode, and there were so many questions that needed answering, we’ve done another one! In this live show, Liza is joined by Managing Partner Sebastian Burrows to answer all the family law questions you put to them. From finances, to the family home, to communicating with your ex, Liza and Seb provided guidance and information, using their extensive expertise.

01:10 How much does a divorce cost?

02:41 Starting out on the divorce process

03:40 What is mediation and why is it helpful?

06:45 What to do if you’re struggling to agree on what happens to the house

07:48 Ringfencing pre-marital assets and matrimonial vs non-matrimonial assets

12:05 Law around changing the locks on the family home

15:25 Adaptations to the property for disabilities

17:17 The importance of disclosing inheritance in financial proceedings

20:53 Managing an ex who you believe is hiding assets

23:45 The concept of percentages in dividing finances

27:28 How are children 16+ treated in the law?

30:25 How is debt treated in divorce?

33:05 Is there an end to spousal maintenance?

3715: Keeping your financial disclosure up-to-date

40:50 Spending inheritance during divorce proceedings

42:36 An explanation of Mesher Orders

47:00 Managing an uncooperative ex-partner

49:54 Housing needs for older children with ongoing medical needs

50:58 Paying your mortgage during divorce

51:31 Cohabitation disputes and financial disclosure

View our upcoming events https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-talks/

Ask a family lawyer - Live https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MBr19NPLgRs

Cohabitation and separating as an unmarried couple https://youtu.be/L3HCXKdQz1g?si=21ODuz1ip6ea6EhQ

What ‘needs’ and ‘sharing’ really mean https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/divorce-finances-explained-what-do-needs-and-sharing-really-mean/

Clean break v maintenance - what’s right for me https://youtu.be/0sIi22ST4uI

Avoiding the top divorce mistakes https://open.spotify.com/episode/0miHzVWzorsoj2QH5XOgi6

How to manage financial hearings in the Family Court https://y

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

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