My first Youtube video was me talking about how I was afraid to put myself out there. And now 2 years later I'm telling you everything I learned that helped me get more comfortable showing up online.

Note: this episode is an oldie but goodie so the community no longer exists, however, I have created a new community with coaching to help you become the best version of yourself.

If you struggle with the fear of being seen, confidence, procrastination, self-sabotage, any anything else that hinders you from becoming the best version of yourself, sign up for coaching with me: https://secludedthoughts.com/identity

Journals prompts to become the best version of yourself: https://secludedthoughts.com/journals

If you’re a high achiever, you may be dealing with what I call pedestal relationships — where people place you on a pedestal, expect you to always have it together, and then don’t show up for you the same way they show up for others. In this episode I share how I realized this was happening in my life, the signs I ignored at first, and the changes I’m making so my relationships aren’t built on me being the “strong one” all the time.

[Substack Post ] The Weight of Being Placed on a Pedestal: https://diaryofahighachiever.substack.com/p/the-weight-of-being-placed-on-a-pedestal

Journal for High Achievers: https://secludedthoughts.com/doha

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Hyper independence doesn’t come from nowhere. For a lot of high achievers, it’s learned. It’s survival. It’s what you do when you realize no one is coming to save you.

In this episode, I’m opening up about how 2025 forced me to confront my hyper-independence and self reliance—and why God allowed it to break me down instead of letting me power through it like I’ve done in the past.

We talk about:

• how “strength” and independence can become a stronghold
• why I grew to avoid depending on people and being vulnerable
• what happens when you’re the “strong friend” who finally runs out
• what happened when I finally started opening up
• why God had to break the stronghold of hyper independence in my life
• and why community isn’t optional for the next chapter of your life

This is the first episode in the series for the month of February where we talk about Shedding—letting go of what can’t come with you into the next chapter.

[Substack] Diary of a High Achiever: https://diaryofahighachiever.substack.com/

• Read the post on Pedestal Relationships here

Journal Prompts for Relationships: http://secludedthoughts.com/journals