Hyper Independence Is Ruining Your Life (How I learned this the hard way)

Hyper independence doesn’t come from nowhere. For a lot of high achievers, it’s learned. It’s survival. It’s what you do when you realize no one is coming to save you.

In this episode, I’m opening up about how 2025 forced me to confront my hyper-independence and self reliance—and why God allowed it to break me down instead of letting me power through it like I’ve done in the past.

We talk about:

• how “strength” and independence can become a stronghold
• why I grew to avoid depending on people and being vulnerable
• what happens when you’re the “strong friend” who finally runs out
• what happened when I finally started opening up
• why God had to break the stronghold of hyper independence in my life
• and why community isn’t optional for the next chapter of your life

This is the first episode in the series for the month of February where we talk about Shedding—letting go of what can’t come with you into the next chapter.

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