Episodios

  • 136 - Redefining Milestones: Rings and Anniversaries after Betrayal

    136 - Redefining Milestones: Rings and Anniversaries after Betrayal
    Oct 1 2025
    After discovery, a betrayed partner is left trying to make sense of a reality that suddenly feels upside down. Moments and symbols once filled with joy -like wedding photos, anniversaries, rings - can now feel heavy and confusing.

    In today’s episode, Kylene and Patrick share their personal approach to some of these difficult moments. They explore the emotions these events bring up from both perspectives, and reflect on the different choices other couples may make as they move through their own recovery journeys.

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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    59 m
  • 135 - Navigating Sobriety: Expect the Unexpected

    135 - Navigating Sobriety: Expect the Unexpected
    Sep 24 2025
    In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick share several experiences to anticipate as you navigate initial sobriety from porn or sex addiction patterns including:
    • Dreams and Intrusive Thoughts
    • Uncomfortable Emotions
    • Nocturnal Emissions
    • Alternative coping mechanisms or behaviors
    They discuss the importance of choice through sobriety, how deep recovery means living a life making conscious choices vs falling into the belief that life just happens to you. They also share some basic techniques to help in the moment of stress in order to feel more grounded, become more present, and step into conscious choice. They mentioned the Intrusive Thoughts Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000652006011 and the Faster Scale which they discuss in more detail in this episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000658758308

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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    53 m
  • 134 - Facing Life's Hard Moments After Betrayal

    134 - Facing Life's Hard Moments After Betrayal
    Sep 17 2025
    Content Warning: Today's episode is discussing some of traumatic events that have happened in our society lately and that are all over the news leading to a heavier episode. Please be aware of where you are in your recovery if this episode is appropriate for you. Things we discuss: The impact of national violence and how it impacts us individually How societal change starts individually The importance of connection and community for mental health, grieving and healing Our personal faith and how it impacts our views on how we love others Kylene's health scares and how they impact her view of the world and her life While this episode is heavier than most, we hope it also helps you feel seen, encouraged, and loved.
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    47 m
  • 133 - When Both Are Hurting: The Complex Layers of Recovery

    133 - When Both Are Hurting: The Complex Layers of Recovery
    Sep 10 2025

    Life and recovery are rarely simple. Sometimes, unique dynamics add even more layers to an already complex journey.

    In this episode, Kylene and Patrick explore three challenging scenarios that can complicate the recovery process:

    • What if the betrayed partner has also struggled with addiction but in another form?
    • What if the betrayed partner has also had an affair in the past?
    • What if the betrayed partner has looked at porn?

    Together, they unpack why personal responsibility matters, how choosing individual health impacts the relationship, and the importance of showing empathy for the pain we may have caused—whether intentional or not—even when we’ve been hurt ourselves.

    These are tough conversations, and one episode can’t cover every nuance. We encourage you to seek guidance from trusted professionals who can support you in your unique situation.

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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    53 m
  • 132 - The Reality of Grief After Betrayal

    132 - The Reality of Grief After Betrayal
    Sep 3 2025
    As much as we wish it were, healing isn't always linear. There are ups and downs, and moments where we are living happily in the present and are reminded of the past. In today's episode Kylene and Patrick share about grief, how confusing it can feel for the betrayed partner, and how important it is to recognize that healing doesn't mean we forget what happened. It's normal for thoughts, emotions or memories to come up years later, and it's important to create safety with each other in order to have connecting conversations together.

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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    54 m
  • 131 - The Importance of Boundaries after Betrayal

    131 - The Importance of Boundaries after Betrayal
    Aug 27 2025
    Boundaries aren't just helpful for the hurt spouse, they are crucial for the recovering spouse as well. They can create structure, offer safety and give the betrayed partner the information they need in order to make decisions about the future of the relationship. There are many individuals that struggle with the idea of boundaries. In today's episode, we offer some reframes around what boundaries mean and how to think about them in order to feel confident using your voice.

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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    52 m
  • 130 - Compliance vs Proactivity How to Help your Betrayed Partner Feel Safe and Heal

    130 - Compliance vs Proactivity How to Help your Betrayed Partner Feel Safe and Heal
    Aug 20 2025
    In this episode, Kylene and Patrick explore the difference between compliance—“just checking the boxes”, and true proactivity, where personal responsibility becomes the driving force of recovery.

    They share why compliance alone can feel hollow, often leaving betrayed partners frustrated as they wait for their spouse to engage in recovery with equal energy and commitment.

    Together, they unpack why consistency matters, and how the power of repetition creates the foundation for lasting, meaningful healing.

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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    50 m
  • 129 - Healthy Sexuality after Betrayal and Infidelity

    129 - Healthy Sexuality after Betrayal and Infidelity
    Aug 13 2025

    In today’s episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss healthy sexuality after betrayal, addiction and infidelity. What is healthy sexuality? Why is consent so important and what does that look like?

    They share thoughts on what plays into our beliefs around sexuality and their own personal experiences around healing.

    They mention the Raabsmiths book: “Building True Intimacy” which you can see here: https://raabsmithteam.com

    Kylene and Patrick share more on reconnecting sexually after betray in these previous episodes as well:

    Sex Through Recovery - Year 1 - Ep 54: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000649141817

    Establishing True Intimacy - Ep 55: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000649843594

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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    1 h y 7 m