Your daughter just got pulled after one mistake. Here's exactly what to do. Grab the free training here - https://trainhergame.com/mom 💛

If you've sat in those bleachers watching her slump on the bench, frustrated for her AND with the coach, this video is for you.

🙋‍♀️ Hi, I'm Coach Bre, a certified Mental Performance Coach and former collegiate athlete with 14 years of coaching experience, including 4 state championships. I'm also the co-founder of The Elite Competitor and host of the Raising Elite Competitors podcast, where I help sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game so they can perform their best when it matters most.

In this episode, I'm giving you the inside perspective on why coaches pull athletes, and more importantly, what your daughter can actually do about it.

Here's what you'll learn:
✅ Why venting with your daughter about the coach puts her in a victim mindset (and what to do instead)
✅ How to help her separate her performance from her worth
✅ The 2-second Snapback Routine that helps athletes reset before coaches lose confidence in them
✅ 🚦 The traffic light framework coaches use to decide who stays in and who comes out
✅ What your daughter can always control - even from the bench

The athletes who earn more playing time aren't always the most talented. They're the ones who reset fast, keep their chin up, and show the coach they're ready. Here's how to help her become that athlete.

💬 Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction: The Pulling Problem
00:56 What NOT to Do as a Parent
03:30 What TO Do: Separate Worth from Performance
06:34 Give Her a Skill: The Snapback Routine
10:59 The Coach's Perspective11:48 Having Conversations with the Coach
13:05 Control What You Can Control
13:38 Wrap-Up and Next Steps

💬 Moms - comment below: Has your daughter ever gotten pulled after one mistake? What did you do in that moment?

📌 Resources & Tools
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg

🔔Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️ Raising Elite Competitors YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingEliteCompetitors

P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
⚡️ 70% of youth athletes quit sports by age 13 - with girls leaving at significantly higher rates than boys, most citing eroded confidence as the primary reason. (Aspen Institute, Project Play)
⚡️ Athletes with high athletic identity are more vulnerable to emotional distress following reduced playing time - meaning the athletes who care most are often hit hardest when they get pulled. (Journal of Sport and Exercise Psychology, Brewer et al.)
⚡️ Athletes who use consistent pre-performance reset routines perform 22% more consistently under pressure than those without one. (University

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💛 A 9-year-old competitive swimmer learned one mental skill and dropped time in every single event. Grab the free training for your daughter: https://trainhergame.com/mom

Meet Mackenzie. She's nine years old, a competitive swimmer, and our December Athlete of the Month inside the Elite Mental Game.

At her first swim meet after starting the program, she used her Snapback Routine for the very first time. She placed first in two events. Third in another. And dropped nearly 14 seconds in one event alone.

Her mom Sarah said she was blown away by Mackenzie's excitement, dedication, and commitment. In fact, Mackenzie asked for a journal so she could take notes on the Zoom calls.🏊‍♀️

In this episode, you'll hear:
✅ What Mackenzie said about her first time using the Snapback Routine
✅ Why mental skills matter even more in swimming (the clock doesn't lie)
✅ What Sarah noticed about her daughter's confidence before her next meet
✅ How mom and daughter worked through the program together

This is the shared transformation we talk about. When your daughter has the tools to reset quickly, she doesn't just swim faster. She believes in herself differently. And that's the whole point. 💛

💬 Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction
01:20 Mackenzie's Snapback Routine Success
02:03 First Swim Meet Results
02:58 Mom's Perspective
04:55 Closing & Call to Action

Athlete of the month episodes are hosted by REC Coach Saylor, a mental performance coach for girl athletes. I empower girl athletes with tools to build confidence and manage pressure so they can compete freely and passionately. New AOTM episodes every month!

📌 Free Tools & Next Steps
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg

🔔 Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️

P.S. - Stats worth knowing:
According to research from the NCAA, 85% of elite athletes use mental training as a regular part of their performance preparation. (NCAA, 2020)
A study published in the Journal of Applied Sport Psychology found that pre-performance routines significantly reduce anxiety and improve consistency in athletes. (Journal of Applied Sport Psychology, 2010)
Athletes who learn emotional regulation skills before age 12 are significantly more likely to maintain sport participation through high school. (Aspen Institute, Project Play, 2022)

The Raising Elite Competitors podcast is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.

#mentalperformance #girlathlete #sportsparenting

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We both quit our sports despite being talented. Here's what girls actually need to stay in the game → https://trainhergame.com/mom

Girls are quitting sports at twice the rate of boys by age 14. But it's not about talent or access.

The real reason? Mental game. Fear of judgment, anxiety, pressure to perform, low confidence.

In this episode, my co-founder Kristina and I are sharing our personal stories about quitting our sports. Stories we don't usually tell.

Kristina was a basketball starter who quit her senior year because she physically couldn't shoot anymore. Not because she lost her skills, but because she couldn't handle the pressure of standing out and the fear of friends getting mad at her for being too good.

I turned down college volleyball offers after my senior year because the emotional cost felt unbearable. Between my parents' divorce and perfectionism, I felt like I was failing everyone no matter what I did.

We both came back to our sports later. But we shouldn't have had to quit in the first place to find peace.

That's why we built The Elite Competitor and the Play, Stay, Lead mission.

What You'll Learn:
✅ Why girls quit sports at twice the rate of boys (and it's not what you think)
✅ The real reason talented athletes walk away from their sport
✅ How mental game challenges show up (pressure to be invisible, perfectionism, anxiety)
✅ What keeps girls in sports longer and turns them into confident leaders
✅ The mission behind everything we do at The Elite Competitor

👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre, a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a former head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.

🕓 Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction: The Girls Sports Crisis
02:40 The Mission: Play, Stay, Lead
04:39 Kristina's Story: Quitting Basketball
12:32 Bre's Story: Walking Away from Volleyball
17:04 Coming Back: Finding the Game Again
22:36 Why Girls Quit: The Mental Game Gap
24:13 Building Future Leaders Through Sports
25:52 How You Can Help: Parents and Coaches

💬 Parents - comment below: Did you or your daughter ever struggle with wanting to be good but not wanting to stand out?

📌 Resources & Tools
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg

🔔 Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️ Raising Elite Competitors

P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
⚡️ Girls quit sports at twice the rate of boys by age 14 (Women's Sports Foundation, Aspen Institute)
⚡️ 94% of women in C-suite positions played sports growing up (Ernst & Young and espnW)
⚡️ 70% of girls drop out of sports by age 13 (National Alliance for Youth Sports)

The Raising Elite Competitors Podcast is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.

#girlssports #mentalperformance #sportsparenting #girlathlete #youthsports

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Your daughter's dealing with team drama and everything you say seems to make it worse. Let me show you what actually helps → https://trainhergame.com/mom

In this conversation with teen relationship expert Sheri Gazitt (founder of Teen Wise), we're breaking down why girls default to mean girl behavior, what parents accidentally do that shuts daughters down, and the exact 4-step formula that teaches girls to handle conflict without the drama.

🙋‍♀️ Hi, I'm Coach Bre, a certified Mental Performance Coach and former collegiate athlete with 14 years of coaching experience, including 4 state championships. I'm also the co-founder of The Elite Competitor and host of the Raising Elite Competitors podcast, where I help sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game so they can perform their best when it matters most.

👤 My guest is Sheri Gazitt. She founded Teen Wise 15 years ago after 30 years in psychology. Sheri specializes in helping teen girls navigate friendships, team dynamics, and mean girl behavior through private coaching, community presentations, and her Game On webinar for coaches.

🧐What You'll Learn:
✅ The 4-step conflict conversation formula that actually works for teen girls (affirm, share, own, seek solution)
✅ Why exclusion happens and how to help without being intrusive
✅ The difference between gossiping to connect vs gossiping with negative intent
✅ How to support your daughter when she feels left out by teammates
✅ Proactive strategies coaches can use before drama erupts

This isn't theory. It's what works when she's shut down in the car ride home and you have no idea what to say. 💛

💬 Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction to Teen Wise
05:14 Common Types of Drama Girls Face
07:51 Teaching Conflict Resolution Skills
14:55 Early Warning Signs for Parents
16:38 How Parents Should Respond
19:59 When to Involve Coaches
24:47 Helping Girls Who Feel Excluded
29:31 Top 3 Mistakes Parents Make
35:46 Guidance for Coaches
39:48 Resources and Wrap-Up

💬 Moms - comment below: What's the biggest friendship or team drama challenge you're facing with your daughter right now?

📌 Resources & Tools
You can find Sheri at:

• Teen Wise Website: https://www.teen-wise.com/
• Be Teen Wise Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beteenwise/

🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy

💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20

🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg

🔔Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️ Raising Elite Competitors YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingEliteCompetitors

P.S. Here's what the research shows about girls and sports:

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Feeling nervous before games? Here's a simple one-word reframe that changes everything: Instead of saying "I'm nervous," say "I'm excited." Your body literally can't tell the difference. 🎯 FREE ATHLETE TRAINING: trainhergame.com

Here's the truth: nervousness and excitement produce identical physical responses. Faster heartbeat. Clammy hands. Dilated pupils. The only difference is how you label it.

When you reframe nerves as excitement, you stop viewing your body's response as a threat and start seeing it as your competitive advantage. This one shift helps you show up ready to compete at your best.

In this episode, I break down the science behind why this works and share a client win from Rose, a track athlete who just broke 7 minutes in the 1600 for the first time using mental training tools. Plus, I introduce the concept of finding your optimal "hype number" so you can show up at exactly the right energy level every single time.

👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre, a Certified Mental Performance Coach and former 4x state championship volleyball coach with 14 years of experience. I help girl athletes ages 11-18 build unshakeable confidence and develop the mental skills that create a competitive advantage. At The Elite Competitor, we believe your mental game is what separates good athletes from great ones.

🕓 Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction: Nervousness is Normal
00:38 Athlete Spotlight: Rose's Success
01:31 The Hack: Say 'I'm Excited'
01:49 Understanding Your Body's Response
02:58 Advanced Strategies & Resources

💬 Athletes - comment below: how do you manage your nerves before big games?

💡 MENTAL TRAINING RESOURCES FOR ATHLETES:
🔗 Free Training: trainhergame.com
🔗 The Elite Mental Game Program: elitecompetitor.com/emg
🔗 Instagram: @raising.elite.competitors
🔗 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdg
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (for athletes!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
📩 Questions? Email us: hello@elitecompetitor.com

🔔 Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️ Raising Elite Competitors YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingEliteCompetitors

P.S.
💡 Studies show that reframing anxiety as excitement improves performance in high-pressure situations by up to 22% (Harvard Business School).
💡 85% of elite athletes work with sports psychologists or mental performance coaches (American Psychological Association).
💡 Research confirms the physiological response to excitement and anxiety is nearly identical—your body genuinely can't tell the difference (Journal of Experimental Psychology).

The Raising Elite Competitors YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.

#PreGameNerves #AthleteMentalTraining #SportsPerformance #MentalGame #CompetitiveAthletes #SportsAnxiety #MentalToughness #YouthSports #GirlAthletes #EliteCompetitor

If your daughter has ever said "I suck" after a game and you had no idea how to respond, this one's for you. 💛 Join my free training for sports moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom

I used to think the best response was to immediately reassure her. Tell her she played great. Remind her of all the things she did well.

But here's what I learned after 14 years of coaching girl athletes: That response actually makes her feel MORE misunderstood, not less.

In this video, I'm breaking down the 3-step system that actually works when your daughter tears herself apart after games or practices.

🎯 What you'll learn:

• Why "No you don't! You played great!" backfires (and what she's actually hearing when you say it)
• The 3-step response system: Validate → Ask → Offer Perspective
• Why your response is only half the solution (she needs her own mental skills too)
• Real transformation story: How one mom went from dreading pickup to easy car rides home

I also share the story of Leah and her daughter Campbell, who went from 20 minutes of post-practice negativity to healthy, objective processing after learning mental skills through our program.

🕓 Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction
02:24 What's Really Happening
03:45 The Three-Step System
03:53 Step 1: Validate the Feeling
05:30 Step 2: Ask Don't Tell
06:50 Step 3: Offer Perspective
07:50 Mental Skills Training

The Elite Mental Game teaches athletes how to catch negative thoughts before they spiral, use reset routines in real time, and assess their performance objectively instead of catastrophizing.

When you combine YOUR calm response with HER mental skills training, the car rides home get so much easier.

💬 Moms - comment below: What's your biggest struggle your daughter has a bad game?

📌 Free Tools & Next Steps
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg

🔔 Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️ Raising Elite Competitors YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingEliteCompetitors

P.S.

• Did you know that 70% of kids quit organized sports by age 13, with pressure and lack of enjoyment as primary reasons? (National Alliance for Youth Sports)
• Research shows that athletes with mental skills training demonstrate 45% greater improvement in performance consistency compared to those receiving only physical training. (Journal of Applied Sport Psychology, 2019)
• According to the Aspen Institute's Project Play, parents' post-game behavior is the #1 factor affecting whether young athletes continue in sports - ahead of coaching quality and playing time. (Aspen Institute, 2023)
• Studies show that 85% of elite athletes work with mental p

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Inside look at how mental training actually works for girl athletes. Get my free training here → https://trainhergame.com/mom 💛

I'm pulling back the curtain on The Elite Mental Game so you can see exactly how it works, who it's for, and whether it's the right fit for your daughter. This isn't theory or motivational speeches.

It's a complete mental training system that teaches girls how to bounce back from mistakes, perform under pressure, and build lasting confidence. And here's what makes it different - we coach both you and your daughter together.

👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre - a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a former head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.

In This Episode You'll Learn:

• How the 5-phase athlete program works (self-paced, 30 min/week)What parents learn in their dedicated training program
• How the kickoff call handles teen buy-in (so you don't have to convince her)
• Why mental training is the missing multiplier in the performance equation
• What Level-Up Club live coaching includes (coach-on-call texting, group calls)

🕓 Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction
00:49 What is Elite Mental Game?
03:23 How the Program Works
05:24 The 5 Phases for Athletes
09:24 Level Up Club Benefits
14:29 Common Questions
16:20 Investment & Value
18:53 Final Thoughts & Enrollment

💬 Moms - comment below: What's your biggest hesitation about trying mental training with your daughter?

📌 Free Tools & Next Steps
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg

🔔 Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️ Raising Elite Competitors YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingEliteCompetitors

P.S. A few stats worth knowing:

• 70% of kids drop out of organized sports by age 13 (National Alliance for Youth Sports)
• Athletes who work with mental performance coaches report 60% improvement in confidence and 55% improvement in handling pressure (Journal of Applied Sport Psychology, 2019)
• 85% of elite and professional athletes use mental performance coaches or sports psychologists (American Psychological Association)

The Raising Elite Competitors YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.

#mentaltraining #girlathlete #sportsparenting #athleteconfidence #sportsmom

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Ever wondered what mental training actually looks like for athletes? Sadie, a college volleyball player, shares what happened when she tried it. Get the free training for sports moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom

I sat down with Sadie Scoville, a senior college volleyball player who just finished her season at Colorado Mesa University. Here's the thing - Sadie wasn't struggling or falling apart. She just wanted to play with confidence and trust herself under pressure. And she wanted to rediscover her love for the game.

👋🏼 Hi! I'm Coach Bre, a certified mental performance coach, former collegiate athlete, and 4-time state championship volleyball coach with 14 years of experience. I'm also the co-founder of The Elite Competitor and have worked with over 5,000 girl athletes to strengthen their mental game and confidence.

In this interview, Sadie walks through exactly what mental training looked like for her during her senior season. She shares the tools that actually worked (like the Snapback Routine she used during a 24-24 serve in a high-stakes game), what surprised her about the program, and how she fit it into her crazy travel schedule.

You'll learn:What mental training actually is (spoiler: it's not therapy)How Sadie used mental tools in real pressure momentsWhy the "I'm fine" athlete still benefits from mental trainingHow to introduce mental training to your daughter without pushbackThe science behind why these tools work

Key moments:
00:00 Introduction
01:35 Meeting Sadie
02:42 Discovering the Program
07:13 What Mental Training Actually Is
08:54 Weekly Routine & Tools
11:13 High Pressure Moments
14:05 Parent Support
17:15 Finding Joy in the Sport
20:06 Advice for Athletes
22:29 College Recruiting Wisdom

💬 Sports moms - does your daughter ever say "I'm fine" even when you can tell she's struggling with confidence? Drop a comment below.

📌 Free Tools & Next Steps🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy

💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg

🔔 Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️ Raising Elite Competitors YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingEliteCompetitors

If you're an athlete wondering whether mental training is worth your time, or a parent trying to figure out how to support your daughter better, this conversation is for you.

P.S. Some research for you:

• Athletes who use pre-performance routines show 23% better performance consistency under pressure compared to those who don't (Journal of Applied Sport Psychology, 2019)
• Athletes who journal regularly about their performance show 31% faster emotional recovery after mistakes (Psychology of Sport and Exercise, 2021)
• 70% of youth athletes quit sports by age 13, with "not having fun anymore" cited as the primary reason (Michigan State University, 2020)

#mentaltrain