Was the First Lady’s dress disrespectful… or simply modern fashion? In this episode of Raised By Her, we break down the viral Pastor Jamal Bryant / Karri Turner controversy and what it reveals about church culture, boundaries, and double standards.

We also revisit the long-awaited Oprah Winfrey & Iyanla Vanzant reunion—unpacking the real reason they fell out, what reconciliation requires, and the healing lesson behind: “I couldn’t hear you.”

Plus: we respond to listener feedback from our viral “Black Love” conversation, touch the RHOP/Gizelle Bryant connection, and close with a powerful conversation about MacKenzie Scott’s major giving to HBCUs like Spelman and why it might be time to audit your circle for growth.

In This Episode:

• Listener feedback: “Black Love Only” & what people really meant
• Interracial vs. intercultural relationships
• Oprah vs. Iyanla: why they feuded and how they repaired it
• Communication breakdowns + healing when someone can’t “hear” you
• Boundaries in family dynamics (and why it’s hard)
• Jamal Bryant / Karri Turner: faith, fashion, and church expectations
• RHOP ties: Gizelle Bryant & Jamal’s past
• MacKenzie Scott, HBCUs, and the power of philanthropy
• “Audit your circle” for personal growth
• Podfest plans (yes—Disney bound)

Timestamps:

00:00 Addressing the “Black Love Only” Comments
00:39 Interracial vs. Intercultural Relationships
03:53 Is She the Next Oprah? (The Comparison)
09:53 The Real Reason Oprah & Iyanla Feuded
13:57 “I Couldn't Hear You”: Healing Communication Breakdowns
19:57 “Get Out!” - My Mom Hated How I Set Boundaries
22:02 The Maya Angelou Rule: Not In My House
24:41 Too Sexy for Church? The First Lady Dress Scandal
30:25 The RHOP Connection: Gizelle Bryant & Jamal’s Past
37:31 Why MacKenzie Scott Gave Millions to HBCUs
41:34 Audit Your Circle: Why Diversity Matters
49:50 We’re Going to Podfest! (Disney World Bound)

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Welcome back to Raised By Her!

We’re kicking off the New Year with equal parts chaos, culture, and celebration. In this episode, we unpack a tense misunderstanding with police at a VA hospital (yes—expired insurance and Santa hats were involved), then shift into the unsettling reality of riding in a self-driving Tesla Model 3 and how EV ownership is changing what maintenance really looks like.

From there, we dive into pop culture and relationships—starting with Venus Williams’ wedding and the online criticism surrounding interracial marriage. We share our own lived experiences navigating interracial relationships, cultural differences at home, and the unexpected challenges that come with wedding planning.

From “no kids allowed” policies to accidentally hosting an illegal riverboat wedding on the Ohio River—and even discussing Indian wedding traditions involving elephants—this episode is a reminder that life doesn’t always go as planned, but it can still be one you love.

What we cover

• Police encounters and lessons learned the hard way
• Self-driving cars, Tesla anxiety, and EV maintenance realities
• Interracial marriage and cultural fusion in families
• Wedding planning disasters, traditions, and boundaries
• Aging gracefully, identity, and choosing a life you can love

Timestamps

0:00 – Welcome to 2026
0:28 – Surrounded by Police: The Traffic Stop Story
2:40 – Dealing with Aggressive Officers
5:22 – The Lesson: Check Your Insurance
7:50 – Terrified by a Self-Driving Tesla
12:50 – Gas Cars vs. EVs (Maintenance Costs)
15:40 – Venus Williams & Aging Gracefully
18:47 – Interracial Marriage Controversy
23:38 – Cultural Differences at Home
28:30 – Wedding Planning Gone Wrong
35:20 – The “Illegal” Riverboat Wedding
38:53 – No-Kids Wedding Debate
41:35 – Indian Wedding Traditions
45:32 – Live a Life You Can Love

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Are you exhausted from high achievement—or struggling to communicate effectively at work?

In this episode of Raised by Her, we unpack why being “direct” isn’t always effective, explore the dark side of the Enneagram Type 3, and reflect on what it really takes to move into 2026 without burning out.

Through an honest mother–daughter conversation, we reflect on the challenges of 2025 and set the stage for a more intentional, sustainable approach to ambition, leadership, and self-care. If you’ve ever felt the physical toll of stress, the guilt of slowing down, or the pressure to always perform, this episode is for you.

We dive deep into:

• High achievement, burnout, and Enneagram Type 3 tendencies
• Why “being direct” can cross into being perceived as rude at work
• How small shifts in communication (yes—even a smiley face) can change outcomes
• Mentorship, manifestation, and meeting your heroes
• Generational differences in work, style, and success
• The rise of the day party and redefining joy at every age

Whether you’re navigating leadership, corporate communication, or personal growth—or just want a thoughtful (and funny) conversation between a mother and daughter—this episode offers wisdom, reflection, and forward momentum.

⏱️ Episode Timestamps

• 0:00 – Surviving the chaos of 2025
• 1:48 – What your body tells you about stress
• 3:33 – How to raise unapologetic daughters
• 5:02 – The dark side of being an Enneagram 3
• 6:36 – Are you living in the past?
• 10:44 – How I manifested my dream mentor
• 13:02 – The truth about meeting your heroes
• 18:42 – Direct vs. rude: a hard lesson in communication
• 22:04 – The “smiley face” rule in corporate emails
• 29:14 – Advice on “trying” vs. doing
• 32:36 – Why day parties are superior (at any age)
• 40:10 – Millennial comfort vs. boomer style

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In this special holiday episode of Raised by Her, we dive into the rising controversy surrounding Sean “Diddy” Combs and unpack the culture of 90s hip-hop through Ro Nita’s firsthand experience as a radio station owner.

Ro Nita shares never-before-heard stories from inside the industry — from the era of Bad Boy Records to the difference between authentic talent and carefully manufactured celebrity. You’ll hear wild behind-the-scenes moments, including a tense standoff with K-Ci & JoJo in a limo and her encounter with a young Destiny’s Child before they became icons.

We also explore leadership through a modern lens, comparing Diddy’s ego-driven culture to Taylor Swift’s recent generosity toward her team. Plus, we reflect on our favorite memories from the Kennedy Center Honors, navigating the “dirty lyrics” era as a parent, and why giving back remains at the heart of our family Christmas traditions.

Grab your cocoa — this episode blends industry insight, cultural commentary, and heartfelt holiday reflections.

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We recorded an entire episode… and lost it. So we hit reset and turned a podcast disaster into one of our realest conversations yet about holiday grief, family boundaries, and surviving the chaos of the season.

In this episode of Raised By Her, we keep it 100%. Donnica shares what really happened the night she was honored at the Who’s Who in Black Dayton & Cincinnati awards—including the valet meltdown that left hundreds stranded in the cold.

We open up about navigating the holidays while grieving and how we’re learning to show up emotionally when the season feels heavy. We also dive into:

• The viral trend of Millennials going “No Contact” with parents
• How to handle difficult in-laws and family drama
• Why setting boundaries is essential for your mental health
• And… the reason Ro Nita is forcing the family to go caroling (even though she can’t sing)

If you’re moving through loss, trying to protect your peace, or dealing with complicated family dynamics this time of year, this episode is for you.

Timestamps:

0:00 - Ohio weather is bipolar
1:05 - The "Lost Episode" disaster (We forgot to hit record!)
2:40 - Broadcasting horror stories & finding joy in failure
4:57 - Mom gets honored at "Who's Who in Black Dayton"
8:12 - The 45-minute Valet Parking nightmare
11:44 - How to handle holiday grief & setting boundaries
16:22 - Bringing back the Caroling Party tradition
19:35 - Our favorite holiday games (Charades & Trivia)
23:45 - The case of the missing Christmas decorations
26:25 - The truth about marrying into a difficult family
28:31 - "No Mother-in-Law Required": A dating horror story
30:23 - Why Millennials are going "No Contact" with parents
33:51 - Forgiving people for your own peace
36:02 - Choosing your "Word of the Year" for 2026
40:13 - Morning rituals for a better life

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Burnout, anxiety, low libido, “mystery symptoms,” and feeling stuck in midlife? You’re not imagining it—and you’re not alone.

In this episode of Raised By Her, holistic health strategist and international best-selling author Victoria LeFebre shares how to move from Chaos to Confidence—especially if you’re navigating perimenopause, chronic stress, or hormone-related shifts.

Victoria breaks down her signature Chaos to Confidence Method, including a practical Time Audit to reclaim your days and reduce overwhelm. We also explore the mind-body side of women’s wellness: nervous system regulation, EFT tapping for anxiety, and simple tools like scent anchoring to shift your emotional state. Then we get into the topics women are often told to “just deal with”—the 500+ symptoms of perimenopause, the HRT vs. holistic conversation, sudden changes in libido, and even whether “male menopause” is real.

If you’ve been stuck in constant “doing mode,” feeling disconnected from yourself, or craving a real reset—this conversation offers clarity, comfort, and actionable steps you can start today.

Note: This episode is for education and conversation, not medical advice.

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Timestamps / Chapters:
0:00 - Meet Victoria LeFebre: Chaos to Confidence
1:33 - Why You Feel Stuck (And What to Do)
3:26 - The “Time Audit” for Busy Women
7:41 - Introverts + Building Community
12:20 - EFT Tapping for Anxiety
16:00 - Castor Oil Packs + Fibroids (What to Know)
19:00 - Using Scent to Regulate Emotions
24:20 - Masculine vs. Feminine Energy (Explained)
27:50 - The 500 Symptoms of Perimenopause
36:26 - HRT vs. Natural Support
39:40 - Why Libido Disappears
44:00 - Does “Male Menopause” Exist?
45:30 - Heavy Metal as Self-Care
51:50 - The “No Regrets” Lesson

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Is 70 the new 50—or are we just ignoring the fine print of aging?

In this episode of Raised By Her, we break down healthy aging, building a 10-year aging plan, and why the “I’ll be happy when…” mindset keeps people stuck.

Ro Nita and Donnica recap the “Paws in Paris” gala with a surprise third co-host—Truffle the Dog—and share hilarious pet stories (including the $10,000 puppy we almost bought). Then we shift into the real talk: how your body changes, why you can’t dodge hard conversations with your doctor, and how to stay mentally strong as you get older. We also address the viral “Sephora Kids” skincare trend and why children using anti-aging products like retinol is a problem. Plus: sunscreen truth, Black skincare nuance, legacy moments, and Donnica’s keynote takeaway that hits every time—Do it afraid.

TIMESTAMPS:

0:00 — Meet Truffle: Our Unplanned Third Co-Host 🐾
0:58 — Paws in Paris: What Really Happened at the Gala
2:50 — Picking the Right Dog (Before You Regret It)
6:50 — They Wanted HOW MUCH? The $10,000 Puppy Debate
12:11 — The Guinea Pig “Bullying” Story (Yes, Really)
18:40 — Giving the Family Dog Away… and the Fallout
23:48 — Is 70 the New 50? The Part Nobody Mentions
29:36 — Your 10-Year Aging Plan (Steal This Framework)
34:50 — Andrew Weil’s Advice on Loss, Aging, and Starting Over
36:20 — “Sephora Kids” Controversy: Why Kids Don’t Need Retinol
41:53 — Sunscreen + Black Skincare: What People Get Wrong
45:45 — Honoring Black Real Estate Pioneers (Legacy Talk)
49:30 — Do It Afraid: Fear Is Proof You’re Close
54:03 — The “Introvert” Myth (And How It’s Holding You Back)

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Thanksgiving stories, Wicked Part Two, and why The Wizard of Oz still hits in 2025 — we’re covering it all on this episode of Raised By Her. 💚🦃✨

This week, Ro Nita and Donnica open with a cozy (and hilarious) look at Black family Thanksgiving traditions: fried vs. smoked turkey, mac & cheese rules (Velveeta is banned 😅), how grandmothers cooked everyone’s favorite dish, and the emotional weight of hosting. They also talk honestly about navigating holidays after loss and preparing for “that one relative” who brings chaos every year.

Then we dive into a rich, emotional breakdown of Wicked Part Two, The Wizard of Oz, friendship, identity, and “otherness.” Ro Nita shares memories of watching The Wizard of Oz as a child on a black-and-white TV, while Donnica explores why the Wicked universe still resonates: the politics of Oz, how fear is used for control, and what it means to stand in your truth when misunderstood.

We also unpack:

• Why Thanksgiving can be beautiful and hard when you’re grieving
• How to set boundaries and protect your peace
• What Oz represents (the “perfect place” vs. joy in the journey)
• How adulthood can still make room for play and creativity
• Why so many women see themselves in Elphaba and Glinda

If you’ve ever felt like the “different one,” navigated shifting friendships, or tried to hold both gratitude and grief this season, this episode is for you. 💛

⏱ Timestamps:
0:00 – Welcome back & Thanksgiving hosting check-in
0:35 – Our favorite Thanksgiving dishes (and mac & cheese crimes 😂)
3:10 – The wildest Thanksgiving recipes we’ve heard
4:20 – Grandma’s stuffing, oyster dressing & big family traditions
5:00 – Kentucky trips, hunting season & childhood memories
6:30 – Hosting out of love vs obligation
7:10 – Beautiful dishes, no dishwasher & Black women making holidays happen
8:10 – Holidays, grief & handling stress
8:40 – How to deal with that relative at Thanksgiving
9:15 – A hilarious text strategy to avoid being asked for money
10:40 – Happy Thanksgiving & well wishes
10:47 – Our Wicked Part Two movie date: first reactions
11:20 – Why we still love the original Wizard of Oz
12:00 – Why this story keeps getting retold (Oz, The Wiz, Wicked)
13:30 – Professors, Oz, and what keeps this story timeless
16:00 – Wicked, friendship & how relationships evolve
17:30 – “Otherness,” confidence & accepting who you are
20:10 – Villain narratives, public perception & truth
22:20 – Fear, activism & why some people can’t “stay and fight”
24:10 – Real-life story: betrayal, apology & taking the higher road
27:20 – Vibrating higher vs staying stuck in hurt
28:01 – Why Wicked makes grown women cry in the theater
29:05 – Is there really a “place of happiness”… or is it the journey?
30:15 – Lion, Scarecrow, Tin Man or Dorothy – who are you right now?
31:00 – Using Oz as a metaphor for college, goals & adulthood
33:00 – Why this story still works in classrooms & culture
35:02 – Movie theaters, streaming life & “no place like home”
35:45 – The Wiz, soundtracks, and holiday music in the house
36:33 – What Oz represents to us now
37:06 – Reimagining adulthood so play still exists
38:16 – Are you still playing as an adult?
39:18 – Full-circle mother–daughter moment & closing reflections

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