If you’ve ever felt a quiet simmer of anger in your marriage (or a full-blown wave of resentment) you’re not broken, and you’re not alone. But pushing those feelings down isn’t working… and never has.

In this episode, I walk you through:

• The real difference between anger and resentment
• Why resentment builds when we wait for our partner to change
• A powerful shift that puts you back in the driver’s seat

You’ll learn how to listen to what your emotions are trying to tell you, how to speak up without sliding into criticism, and how to take action that aligns with your integrity, regardless of how your partner responds.

Ready to stop the resentment cycle and start honoring your own clarity?

✨ For deeper support around emotional responsibility, boundaries, and self-trust in your marriage, visit www.mynameiscourage.com.

In today’s episode, I’m reading a raw journal entry from the days I was in an abusive relationship and lived with what psychologists call a reflected sense of self—when your identity depends on how someone else sees you.

At the time, I didn’t know I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. I just knew I was constantly anxious, terrified of upsetting him, and couldn’t trust my own gut. I share how this pattern followed me, even into a safe marriage, and what it actually takes to rebuild your inner compass.

You’ll hear:

• What a reflected sense of self looks like in real life
• How emotional abuse distorts your reality
• Why self-trust is essential—and how to start reclaiming it
• The shift that changed my marriage, my motherhood, and my peace

If you’ve ever questioned your reality, withheld something to avoid conflict, or wondered if you were the “crazy one”—this episode will speak to you.

✨ Ready to build a solid sense of self? Book a discovery call to discuss different ways to get support.

Ever feel like you’ve lost yourself inside your marriage?

In this episode, I share the raw truth about what happens when we give and give, until there’s nothing left. If you’ve been stuck in a cycle of self-sacrificing, shutting down, or quietly resenting your partner while trying to be “the good spouse,” you’re not broken. You’re just in the part of marriage no one warned you about.

We’ll unpack the natural progression every marriage goes through, the real difference between attachment and autonomy, and why learning to regulate yourself (not your spouse) is the key to finding your voice again.

This isn’t about blame. It’s about ownership. And I’ll walk you through the emotional skills that helped me reclaim my sense of self—without blowing up my marriage in the process.

💡 Plus, I’m offering one free coaching session to the first five to schedule HERE as I work toward my ICF certification.

If you would like to explore more resources, visit mynameiscourage.com.

Why does marriage still feel so hard—even when you’ve left the abuse and married someone good?

In this episode, I unpack the frustrating truth so many survivors face: you escaped the toxic relationship, but the patterns followed you. I walk through the pendulum swing from self-sacrifice to self-protection, why “not your fault” isn’t the whole story, and how past trauma quietly shapes the way we show up in even the healthiest marriages.

If you’ve found yourself wondering why peace still feels impossible—or why being a “good partner” seems to come at the cost of yourself—this is for you. We’ll explore what true responsibility looks like, how to reclaim your voice without swinging into defensiveness, and the first steps toward the kind of relationship that doesn’t require you to disappear to keep the peace.

🎙️ Plus: I’m offering one free coaching session to the first five to schedule HERE as I pursue my ICF certification.

If you would like to explore more resources, visit mynameiscourage.com.

We thought marrying the right person would fix the pain.

We were wrong.

In our very first episode, Brent and I (Robyn) open up about the early days of our marriage—what we thought healing would look like, how unspoken expectations fueled resentment, and why even "nice guys" can unintentionally contribute to emotional disconnection after trauma.

We share how past abuse shaped our dynamic (without either of us realizing it), what finally cracked open the truth, and why real intimacy required way more than patience and positivity. If you’ve ever wondered why your marriage still feels lonely—even though you both want it to work—this conversation is for you.

💬 We talk validation vs. intimacy, the role of self-authoring in reclaiming your sexuality, and how facing discomfort led to the emotional safety we craved.

Ready to start building a marriage where you actually like each other again? Head to mynameiscourage.com to learn more about our couples retreats and one-on-one coaching.

I’m Robyn, a domestic abuse survivor turned relationship coach, and this is Mr. Nice Guy & the Broken Wife, a space for couples who want to heal from the past and build a marriage grounded in truth, safety, and connection.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in resentment, misunderstood by your partner, or unsure how to break the patterns that keep you apart, you’re not alone. Together, we’ll unpack what healing actually looks like inside a relationship, through real stories, paradigm shifts, and practical tools that bring clarity, hope, and lasting change.

Sometimes, my husband Brent joins me for real conversations about our own journey from dysfunction to deep intimacy, because getting here took both of us choosing growth, again and again.

This podcast will help you unlearn false beliefs about love, discover emotional safety, and take your next step toward the marriage you’ve always wanted.

LAUNCHING NOVEMBER 21, 2025