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Is marriage outdated—or are couples just doing it wrong?

With marriage rates at an all-time low and a growing number of young adults saying marriage is “obsolete,” Matthew and Monica Powers dive into the uncomfortable truths nobody wants to talk about. From phone addiction and emotional distance to sexless marriages and unrealistic expectations, this episode pulls back the curtain on why so many couples feel disconnected and what actually works.

In this honest, funny, and unfiltered conversation, we talk about:

• Why New Year’s resolutions fail couples every year
• How phones are killing intimacy (and what to do instead)
• The power of gratitude, vulnerability, and letting the small stuff go
• Why most couples aren’t having enough sex and how to fix it
• How experimenting within healthy boundaries can reignite desire
• Why marriage isn’t outdated, but lazy marriage is

This isn’t marriage advice wrapped in clichés. It’s real talk for real couples who want more connection, more fun, and a marriage that actually feels alive.

If you’re tired of surviving marriage and ready to enjoy it again, this episode is for you.

If marriage is so outdated… why do the healthiest couples still fight to protect it?

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Let’s stop pretending. The happiest couples aren’t lucky, they’re raw, honest, and a little dangerous behind closed doors. In this no-blush episode of Married AF, Matthew & Monica crack open the 7 taboo conversations that turn “roommates” into ride-or-die lovers: unfiltered fears, money secrets, the State-of-Us check-in, past scars, a shared “we” world, laser-fast emotional responsiveness, and yes your detailed desire map (aka the sex menu).

We go straight at the headlines,“Is marriage overrated?” “Why aren’t people getting married?”, and show you how couples who actually talk about the “off-limits” stuff end up with more intimacy, hotter chemistry, stronger trust, and way fewer blowups.

Inside this episode:

• The confession that turns fear into magnetic safety
• The financial naked truth, end money secrecy & weekly fights
• A 10-minute State of the Union that keeps you from drifting
• How to heal unspoken history so it stops hijacking today
• Bids for connection: the tiny turn-towards that skyrockets trust
• The sex conversation that upgrades desire without shame

Drop your take: Is marriage outdated or are we just cowards about real conversations?

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What if the most dangerous lies in your life aren’t coming from TikTok or culture—but from your own mirror? In this episode, we unpack the identity battles that keep people stuck: the quiet scripts that say you’re not enough, you’ve failed too much, or you’ll never have a “real” marriage. We contrast those lies with biblical truth—Psalm 139, 2 Corinthians 5:17, Ephesians 2:10—and we share a simple, practical exercise our singles group used to replace lies with truth you can carry daily.

We also tackle the cultural headwinds making connection harder than ever: younger adults increasingly calling marriage “outdated,” stagnating marriage rates and declining divorce rates that still mask deep disconnection, and the loneliness epidemic reshaping how we date, commit, and stay married.

Along the way, we name the modern trends—“checklist dating,” viral “icks,” and algorithm-fed expectations—that leave people chronically disappointed and relationally cautious, then offer a better path: identity first, covenant next, habits always.

If you’ve ever thought, “I still love my spouse, but I feel alone,” or if you’re single and wondering who you are before you date again—this one’s for you. Expect vulnerable stories, Scripture, and hard-won hope, plus a 2-minute “index card” challenge that can change your week.

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Ever heard someone say “men are addicted to women”? 😏
Wrong. Men don’t get addicted to any woman, they get addicted to the right one.

In this no-filter episode of Married AF, Matthew and Monica break down 11 surprisingly simple things that make a husband obsessed, addicted, and deeply devoted to his wife, not because of flashy grand gestures, but because of the quiet, daily decisions that melt a man’s heart and lock in emotional connection.

From public respect that makes him feel like a king 👑 to playful teasing, creating a safe space for vulnerability, and yes…keeping intimacy alive 🔥these habits are the secret sauce behind those couples who can’t keep their hands (or eyes) off each other.

They also react to new Pew Research data showing marriage rates hitting historic lows, and ask the hard question: Is marriage becoming outdated…or are we just doing it wrong?

Whether you’re dating, newlywed, or years deep into marriage, this episode will make you rethink how powerful the “little things” really are.

👉 Listen now to learn how to go from “roommates” to ride-or-die soulmates.

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Are you and your spouse more “roommates” than romantic partners? You’re not alone, cultural shifts and daily life pressures are making emotional distance a real threat to modern marriages. In Episode 102 Matthew & Monica Powers unpack why couples drift apart, what the research actually says about connection (and divorce), and, most importantly, practical, faith-friendly steps to rebuild an unstoppable “we.”

You’ll hear:

• Why missing the small moments (Gottman’s “bids for connection”) predicts relationship outcomes and how small turns-toward beat grand gestures.
• How shifting from “soulmate” expectations to a growth mindset helps you grow together instead of apart.
• Concrete, everyday exercises to find each other again: state-of-the-union meetings, intentional micro-moments, value alignment, and a better definition of self-care.
• Real couple stories from our lives (and the podcast mic) that make the tough work feel doable — not doom-and-gloom.
  Plus: we break down what major research says about marriage trends and why this moment matters for couples today.

If this episode lands for you, comment, DM us, or share — tell us one small thing you’ll do this week to “turn toward” your partner. Want a resource list or worksheet for your State-of-the-Union meeting? Hit reply and we’ll send it.

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This Q&A goes there. From a late-20s Christian woman who’s honoring God but aching for touch…to a new mom whose husband says stay-at-home isn’t a “real job”…to couples wondering if sleep-groping means desire or disaster, and spouses asking, “Can a marriage survive if attraction was never really there?” We tackle the messy middle between body, spirit, and reality with truth, humor, and zero fluff.

In this episode you’ll hear:

• Singles & desire: Where do faithful women take frustration without losing faith or themselves?
• “Marriage is overrated?” We unpack the headlines vs. hope.
• Postpartum & respect: What to say (and do) when he minimizes your work and you’re running on fumes.
• Sleepy affection: Dreaming of you or hiding from you? How to read it and respond.
• “I love you, but I’m not in love”: Why it happens, how to talk about it, and a roadmap back.
• Porn or fatigue? The hard conversation behind lopsided intimacy.
• Attraction confessions: Rebuilding desire when words cut deep.
• Church & singles: Why so many feel unseen and how to start the community you need.

Plus: a global listener roll-call (US to Iran to Hong Kong), a lawnmower miracle, and the heart behind our new Single AF group.

Why listen: You’ll leave with scripts you can use tonight, next-step challenges for couples and singles, and a hopeful, faith-centered path forward—no matter where you’re stuck.

CTA: If this hit home, share it with a friend, drop your question for our next Q&A, and leave a 5-star review—help more couples and singles find the conversation.

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Is this the most misunderstood marriage idea of the year? On our 100th episode, we argue that a **healthy marriage requires saying “I do” to multiple people** not other partners, but every new version of your spouse as they grow, change, fail, heal, and mature.
No, this isn’t poly, swinging, or sister-wives. It’s the bold, biblical, and practical commitment to re-choose each other across seasons, career shifts, kids, body changes, crises, and midlife rewrites.

We tackle:

• Why “find the one” is less powerful than becoming the one for your spouse
• The annual State of the Union weekend (yes, including great sex) that keeps you synced
• How curiosity beats control: questions that reignite desire and direction
• The roommate trap after the kids leave and how to never end up there
• A spicy take on intimacy after 40: why it gets better when you grow together

Trigger Warning (for the algorithm and the comments): If you think your spouse should stay who they were on your wedding day… you’re going to hate this one.

Listen, then tell us: How many times have you said “I do” to the new version of your spouse?

“Is it betrayal to miss an old version of your spouse or honesty that can help you reconnect?”

“What’s one way your spouse has changed that you never expected… and how did you adapt?”

“Should couples schedule an annual ‘State of the Union’ or is that too clinical for romance?”

“Hot take: If you won’t re-choose your spouse’s current self, are you actually married to a memory?”

00:00 Cold open: “Is marriage overrated?”
04:50 Why “multiple marriages” (to the same person)
10:30 The curiosity script: questions that re-ignite connection
22:10 The annual State of the Union (and why great sex belongs there)
26:30 Roommates after kids, how to avoid it
30:45 Intimacy after 40: better than the myths
33:40 Roadblocks: nostalgia, control, unrealistic expectations
37:10 Final challenge + prayer

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Taylor & Travis get engaged…and the internet loses its mind. Then Charlie Kirk tells Taylor to “reject feminism, submit to your husband,” and implies marriage will “fix” her politics. If that’s your gospel, it’s not from Jesus. We break down the Taylor & Travis engagement and the Christian clickbait machine trying to hijack it. Come for the tea, stay for the theology.” We break it all down!

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