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Let’s stop pretending. The happiest couples aren’t lucky, they’re raw, honest, and a little dangerous behind closed doors. In this no-blush episode of Married AF, Matthew & Monica crack open the 7 taboo conversations that turn “roommates” into ride-or-die lovers: unfiltered fears, money secrets, the State-of-Us check-in, past scars, a shared “we” world, laser-fast emotional responsiveness, and yes your detailed desire map (aka the sex menu).

We go straight at the headlines,“Is marriage overrated?” “Why aren’t people getting married?”, and show you how couples who actually talk about the “off-limits” stuff end up with more intimacy, hotter chemistry, stronger trust, and way fewer blowups.

Inside this episode:

• The confession that turns fear into magnetic safety
• The financial naked truth, end money secrecy & weekly fights
• A 10-minute State of the Union that keeps you from drifting
• How to heal unspoken history so it stops hijacking today
• Bids for connection: the tiny turn-towards that skyrockets trust
• The sex conversation that upgrades desire without shame

Drop your take: Is marriage outdated or are we just cowards about real conversations?

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What if the most dangerous lies in your life aren’t coming from TikTok or culture—but from your own mirror? In this episode, we unpack the identity battles that keep people stuck: the quiet scripts that say you’re not enough, you’ve failed too much, or you’ll never have a “real” marriage. We contrast those lies with biblical truth—Psalm 139, 2 Corinthians 5:17, Ephesians 2:10—and we share a simple, practical exercise our singles group used to replace lies with truth you can carry daily.

We also tackle the cultural headwinds making connection harder than ever: younger adults increasingly calling marriage “outdated,” stagnating marriage rates and declining divorce rates that still mask deep disconnection, and the loneliness epidemic reshaping how we date, commit, and stay married.

Along the way, we name the modern trends—“checklist dating,” viral “icks,” and algorithm-fed expectations—that leave people chronically disappointed and relationally cautious, then offer a better path: identity first, covenant next, habits always.

If you’ve ever thought, “I still love my spouse, but I feel alone,” or if you’re single and wondering who you are before you date again—this one’s for you. Expect vulnerable stories, Scripture, and hard-won hope, plus a 2-minute “index card” challenge that can change your week.

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Ever heard someone say “men are addicted to women”? 😏
Wrong. Men don’t get addicted to any woman, they get addicted to the right one.

In this no-filter episode of Married AF, Matthew and Monica break down 11 surprisingly simple things that make a husband obsessed, addicted, and deeply devoted to his wife, not because of flashy grand gestures, but because of the quiet, daily decisions that melt a man’s heart and lock in emotional connection.

From public respect that makes him feel like a king 👑 to playful teasing, creating a safe space for vulnerability, and yes…keeping intimacy alive 🔥these habits are the secret sauce behind those couples who can’t keep their hands (or eyes) off each other.

They also react to new Pew Research data showing marriage rates hitting historic lows, and ask the hard question: Is marriage becoming outdated…or are we just doing it wrong?

Whether you’re dating, newlywed, or years deep into marriage, this episode will make you rethink how powerful the “little things” really are.

👉 Listen now to learn how to go from “roommates” to ride-or-die soulmates.

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