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Are you and your spouse more “roommates” than romantic partners? You’re not alone, cultural shifts and daily life pressures are making emotional distance a real threat to modern marriages. In Episode 102 Matthew & Monica Powers unpack why couples drift apart, what the research actually says about connection (and divorce), and, most importantly, practical, faith-friendly steps to rebuild an unstoppable “we.”

You’ll hear:

• Why missing the small moments (Gottman’s “bids for connection”) predicts relationship outcomes and how small turns-toward beat grand gestures.
• How shifting from “soulmate” expectations to a growth mindset helps you grow together instead of apart.
• Concrete, everyday exercises to find each other again: state-of-the-union meetings, intentional micro-moments, value alignment, and a better definition of self-care.
• Real couple stories from our lives (and the podcast mic) that make the tough work feel doable — not doom-and-gloom.
  Plus: we break down what major research says about marriage trends and why this moment matters for couples today.

If this episode lands for you, comment, DM us, or share — tell us one small thing you’ll do this week to “turn toward” your partner. Want a resource list or worksheet for your State-of-the-Union meeting? Hit reply and we’ll send it.

All your family’s pressing concerns and questions, answered in one place. Mike...

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This Q&A goes there. From a late-20s Christian woman who’s honoring God but aching for touch…to a new mom whose husband says stay-at-home isn’t a “real job”…to couples wondering if sleep-groping means desire or disaster, and spouses asking, “Can a marriage survive if attraction was never really there?” We tackle the messy middle between body, spirit, and reality with truth, humor, and zero fluff.

In this episode you’ll hear:

• Singles & desire: Where do faithful women take frustration without losing faith or themselves?
• “Marriage is overrated?” We unpack the headlines vs. hope.
• Postpartum & respect: What to say (and do) when he minimizes your work and you’re running on fumes.
• Sleepy affection: Dreaming of you or hiding from you? How to read it and respond.
• “I love you, but I’m not in love”: Why it happens, how to talk about it, and a roadmap back.
• Porn or fatigue? The hard conversation behind lopsided intimacy.
• Attraction confessions: Rebuilding desire when words cut deep.
• Church & singles: Why so many feel unseen and how to start the community you need.

Plus: a global listener roll-call (US to Iran to Hong Kong), a lawnmower miracle, and the heart behind our new Single AF group.

Why listen: You’ll leave with scripts you can use tonight, next-step challenges for couples and singles, and a hopeful, faith-centered path forward—no matter where you’re stuck.

CTA: If this hit home, share it with a friend, drop your question for our next Q&A, and leave a 5-star review—help more couples and singles find the conversation.

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Is this the most misunderstood marriage idea of the year? On our 100th episode, we argue that a **healthy marriage requires saying “I do” to multiple people** not other partners, but every new version of your spouse as they grow, change, fail, heal, and mature.
No, this isn’t poly, swinging, or sister-wives. It’s the bold, biblical, and practical commitment to re-choose each other across seasons, career shifts, kids, body changes, crises, and midlife rewrites.

We tackle:

• Why “find the one” is less powerful than becoming the one for your spouse
• The annual State of the Union weekend (yes, including great sex) that keeps you synced
• How curiosity beats control: questions that reignite desire and direction
• The roommate trap after the kids leave and how to never end up there
• A spicy take on intimacy after 40: why it gets better when you grow together

Trigger Warning (for the algorithm and the comments): If you think your spouse should stay who they were on your wedding day… you’re going to hate this one.

Listen, then tell us: How many times have you said “I do” to the new version of your spouse?

“Is it betrayal to miss an old version of your spouse or honesty that can help you reconnect?”

“What’s one way your spouse has changed that you never expected… and how did you adapt?”

“Should couples schedule an annual ‘State of the Union’ or is that too clinical for romance?”

“Hot take: If you won’t re-choose your spouse’s current self, are you actually married to a memory?”

00:00 Cold open: “Is marriage overrated?”
04:50 Why “multiple marriages” (to the same person)
10:30 The curiosity script: questions that re-ignite connection
22:10 The annual State of the Union (and why great sex belongs there)
26:30 Roommates after kids, how to avoid it
30:45 Intimacy after 40: better than the myths
33:40 Roadblocks: nostalgia, control, unrealistic expectations
37:10 Final challenge + prayer

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