How do you bring a dying marriage back to life?

In this episode David Miller explores the ten essential steps every man should take when his relationship is on the brink.

From brutal honesty and personal responsibility to sacred vows and the power of playing the long game, you’ll discover why the key to getting her back starts with getting yourself back.

Key Takeaways:

- ~[00:00] Conflict is a mirror; marriage forces you to face buried wounds and invites you into growth.

- ~[03:00] Step 1: Be honest about what’s happening; Step 2: Take ownership; Step 3: Be vulnerable.

- ~[05:00] Responsibility and compassion go hand in hand — stop judging and start understanding.

- ~[10:00] Remember your sacred vows and practise empathy; your partner’s soul needs to be seen.

- ~[14:00] Inner work is non‑negotiable; one person’s growth can transform the entire relationship.

- ~[19:00] Play the long game; resist quick fixes and hold space for your partner’s pain.

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What does it mean to love and be loved in a world that equates worth with productivity?

In this episode of *Man on Fire Rising*, David breaks down the eight ancient Greek types of love — from the obsessive grip of *mania* to the unconditional expansiveness of *agape* — and then pivots into a raw conversation about why so many high‑achieving men are unhappy.

You’ll hear stories of men who seemingly have it all yet feel deeply alone, and you’ll learn why true freedom begins when you believe you are enough.

🧠 **Key Takeaways:**
- ~[01:20] Understand the different flames of love: *mania*, *storagey*, *philia* and *eros*, and how they show up in real life.
- ~[04:15] Discover how basic human needs can override our morals and why awareness of this tension empowers new choices.
- ~[07:40] Learn about *pragma*, *philautia* and *agape* — mature love, self‑love and unconditional love — and why they require cultivation.
- ~[09:05] Hear how the culturally handed “map to success” leaves many men numb, isolated and collapsing at home despite crushing it at work.
- ~[11:30] Listen to Mark’s story: a man with every external marker of success who came millimetres from ending his life, and what saved him.
- ~[13:45] Practice three affirmations — “I am enough,” “All I’ll ever need is within me now” and “Joy is my birthright” — to begin rewriting your own map.

In this raw and challenging episode, David Mehler speaks directly to the men who have built walls instead of bridges—men whose success hides a deeper struggle with feeling unseen and unmet.

With unfiltered intensity and brotherly compassion, David confronts the facades of strength and leadership, revealing how we sacrifice authenticity for approval.

This episode is a call to stop hiding, start telling the truth, and invite healing by embracing your deepest wounds. If you’ve ever felt the weight of staying strong for everyone but yourself, this conversation will hit home.

Key Takeaways:

- ~[01:05] The masculine drive for performance and “getting things done” is often a mask hiding a need for validation.

- ~[04:15] Shame and fear of disappointment push men to wear emotional armor, blocking intimacy and real connection.

- ~[08:00] Suffering in silence is not heroic—“being the strong one” creates loneliness that erodes your sense of self-worth.

- ~[11:45] Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s the entry point to true leadership and authentic impact.

- ~[15:20] Healing begins when you confront the pain you’ve buried—freedom comes from telling the truth about who you are, not who you perform to be.

- ~[19:10] The challenge: Will you drop the mask, step into uncertainty, and let yourself be seen for the man you truly are?

In this episode of the Man on Fire podcast, David Mehler challenges high-achieving men to confront the pain they’ve been avoiding. He argues that what we’re really running from isn’t failure or success—it’s suffering itself.

The conversation reveals how pain management strategies like porn, food, alcohol and overwork keep us stuck and how turning toward discomfort can unlock freedom, purpose and even joy.

David draws on a lesson from India, childhood wisdom and decades of working with men to illustrate why avoiding emotions prolongs them and why our deepest wounds often hide our greatest gifts.

🔥 Key Takeaways:
- ~[00:01:00] Pain management is the real trap: we’re not running from success or failure but from the discomfort we never learned to face.
- ~[00:02:10] “Man suffers because man avoids his suffering” – avoidance, not the emotion itself, is the true source of our pain.
- ~[00:08:10] Children show us that emotions are meant to move in seconds to minutes; adults carry them for years because we resist feeling.
- ~[00:10:35] There’s a thin veil between the center of suffering and joy; when you dive straight into the emotion it often transforms into laughter and relief.
- ~[00:13:40] The greater your wound, the greater your calling; your trauma can become your medicine when you’re willing to see it through the lens of the soul.
- ~[00:15:10] A three-step practice: catch yourself pain managing, identify and fully feel the emotion, then anchor with gratitude.

David Mehler dismantles the myth that men must change who they are to be happy. Instead, he invites listeners to embrace every part of themselves and learn the art of exchanging into a more authentic version. Through personal anecdotes and a powerful story, he shows how ownership and small daily choices lead to profound transformation.

🔥 Key Takeaways:
- ~[00:00:20] Stop trying to change; dive into the fire and confront the lies about fixed identities.
- ~[00:02:30] Denial feeds your shadows; ownership and responsibility are the doorway to freedom.
- ~[00:05:30] You are a thousand versions of yourself; each day you choose which one to wear.
- ~[00:08:20] There is one authentic version of you; exchange into it by aligning your actions with your soul.
- ~[00:09:50] Robert’s story shows how embracing your pain and seeking support can turn a downward spiral into leadership and love.
- ~[00:12:10] Small millimeter shifts in daily decisions — from what you drink to how you breathe — steer you toward the life you want.

From nursery rhymes to boardrooms, men are taught to keep their guard up at all costs. In this raw conversation, David explores why our walls must crack for us to truly live. Drawing on personal stories of divorce, family illness and business collapse, he challenges the myth that strength equals stoicism and invites listeners into a more authentic way of being.

Key Takeaways:
~[00:00] The wall cracks — challenging the myth that strength means never breaking.
~[02:00] Fear of being seen — why people in positions of power hide their true selves.
~[04:40] Put down your guard and let in your God — accessing the soul beyond the armor.
~[06:30] Take down your own walls — the cost of keeping your heart hidden and the invitation to self‑responsibility.
~[08:50] The price of hiding — from dementia to divorce, what it costs you and those you love when you refuse to crack.

What if busyness isn’t about the hours you have but about the wounds you carry? In this episode of Man On Fire, we explore how childhood trauma, poor habits and an overactive mind make time feel scarce. We reveal the physiological and spiritual practices that shift your relationship with time from pressure to poetry.

🔥 Key Takeaways:
- ~[00:00:00] Realise that feeling “too busy” is a symptom of misplaced energy. Time scarcity is a reflection of what you deem sacred.
- ~[00:02:20] Vibrant nutrition and hydration build bioenergy, allowing you to bend time by restoring your body’s fuel.
- ~[00:05:20] Early wounds and sudden life changes damage your trust in life’s timing, locking the concept of time in your mind.
- ~[00:07:45] Even painful detours carry hidden gifts; when you zoom out, you can see the perfect, poetic timing of events.
- ~[00:10:40] Audit your daily habits and eliminate one that drains your gas tank—reclaim minutes for what matters.
- ~[00:14:30] Breathwork and spinal alignment free tension in the atlas vertebra, quiet the mind and move your sense of time back into the soul.

Many men talk about wanting a bigger life yet unconsciously sabotage their own growth. In this episode David Mailer dives into the hidden patterns — fear of failure, addiction to drama, complacency, perfectionism and misplaced priorities — that keep us stuck. He shares personal stories, practical exercises and a powerful reminder that change begins when we recognize our worth.

🧠 Key Takeaways:

- ~[01:20] Fear of failure and success: Our beliefs about failure and unworthiness hold us back.

- ~[04:15] Addiction to complacency: Settling for “good enough” is a hidden addiction that numbs your potential.

- ~[07:40] Busy versus productive: Workaholism and busyness can be masks for deeper fears.

- ~[09:05] Make it sacred: Your time, energy and attention reveal what you truly deem sacred.

- ~[11:30] Future projection: Jumping ahead keeps you from facing the pain of inaction.

- ~[13:45] Disassociating from impact: Ignoring consequences damages relationships and legacy.