How do you bring a dying marriage back to life?

In this episode David Miller explores the ten essential steps every man should take when his relationship is on the brink.

From brutal honesty and personal responsibility to sacred vows and the power of playing the long game, you’ll discover why the key to getting her back starts with getting yourself back.

Key Takeaways:

- ~[00:00] Conflict is a mirror; marriage forces you to face buried wounds and invites you into growth.

- ~[03:00] Step 1: Be honest about what’s happening; Step 2: Take ownership; Step 3: Be vulnerable.

- ~[05:00] Responsibility and compassion go hand in hand — stop judging and start understanding.

- ~[10:00] Remember your sacred vows and practise empathy; your partner’s soul needs to be seen.

- ~[14:00] Inner work is non‑negotiable; one person’s growth can transform the entire relationship.

- ~[19:00] Play the long game; resist quick fixes and hold space for your partner’s pain.

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What does it mean to love and be loved in a world that equates worth with productivity?

In this episode of *Man on Fire Rising*, David breaks down the eight ancient Greek types of love — from the obsessive grip of *mania* to the unconditional expansiveness of *agape* — and then pivots into a raw conversation about why so many high‑achieving men are unhappy.

You’ll hear stories of men who seemingly have it all yet feel deeply alone, and you’ll learn why true freedom begins when you believe you are enough.

🧠 **Key Takeaways:**
- ~[01:20] Understand the different flames of love: *mania*, *storagey*, *philia* and *eros*, and how they show up in real life.
- ~[04:15] Discover how basic human needs can override our morals and why awareness of this tension empowers new choices.
- ~[07:40] Learn about *pragma*, *philautia* and *agape* — mature love, self‑love and unconditional love — and why they require cultivation.
- ~[09:05] Hear how the culturally handed “map to success” leaves many men numb, isolated and collapsing at home despite crushing it at work.
- ~[11:30] Listen to Mark’s story: a man with every external marker of success who came millimetres from ending his life, and what saved him.
- ~[13:45] Practice three affirmations — “I am enough,” “All I’ll ever need is within me now” and “Joy is my birthright” — to begin rewriting your own map.

In this raw and challenging episode, David Mehler speaks directly to the men who have built walls instead of bridges—men whose success hides a deeper struggle with feeling unseen and unmet.

With unfiltered intensity and brotherly compassion, David confronts the facades of strength and leadership, revealing how we sacrifice authenticity for approval.

This episode is a call to stop hiding, start telling the truth, and invite healing by embracing your deepest wounds. If you’ve ever felt the weight of staying strong for everyone but yourself, this conversation will hit home.

Key Takeaways:

- ~[01:05] The masculine drive for performance and “getting things done” is often a mask hiding a need for validation.

- ~[04:15] Shame and fear of disappointment push men to wear emotional armor, blocking intimacy and real connection.

- ~[08:00] Suffering in silence is not heroic—“being the strong one” creates loneliness that erodes your sense of self-worth.

- ~[11:45] Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s the entry point to true leadership and authentic impact.

- ~[15:20] Healing begins when you confront the pain you’ve buried—freedom comes from telling the truth about who you are, not who you perform to be.

- ~[19:10] The challenge: Will you drop the mask, step into uncertainty, and let yourself be seen for the man you truly are?