On the show today is Nathan Seaward, a native New Zealander, former commercial pilot, turned life and business coach. After more than 15 years flying for some of the biggest airlines in the world he realised he had an unlived life of potential and now coaches a community of High performers, game-changers and rule breakers looking to create an extraordinary life for themselves and their families. Nathan is also host of the Nathan Seaward podcast about the struggles in life we all share and reaching our full potential.

Key Info:

-What is it that gets you up in the morning

-Giving up what is a highly successful life for the unknown, to discover new potential

-Bringing adventure to people’s lives - what does that mean? 

-Connection - being present

-Closing the gap between where you are now and where or who you want to be

-Growth instead of goals

“It occurred to me that if you focus on goals, you may hit your goals—but that doesn’t always guarantee growth. If you focus on growth, you will grow and always hit your goals.” - John Maxwell

-Fear. What is fear.

"It’s not confidence we need its courage"

How we get more courage

“Courage is rightly esteemed the finest of human qualities because it is the quality which guarantees all the others.”

WINSTON CHURCHILL

-Loneliness. Sit with the feeling

-Benefits of a MasterMind group - Nathan calls it a Community

-What book has had the biggest impact on you in the last month

-What are you most grateful for?

-What is a successful day for you before you go to bed - Making a Difference

Links:

Book Mentioned: Russel Brand: Recovery: Freedom From Our Addictions

Nathan Seaward.com

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Episode 23 - With Jamie Catto

Jamie Catto, producer, director, musician, author & creator as well as well a coach and mentor. 

From his manifesto:

We need to collectively admit that we’re not fine, we’re not confident and balanced and good. We turn up to work every day pretending we’re not neurotic and obsessed and insatiable and full of doubt, and we waste so much energy keeping up this mutual pretense for each other because we think if people saw the truth, if people really knew what was going on in our heads, all the crazy truth of our dark appetites and self loathing, then we’d get rejected. But in fact, the opposite is true. It’s when we dare to reveal the truth that we unwittingly give everyone else permission to do the same. To stop holding their breathe for a moment and actually come into the room. Be here, present, vulnerable and authentic.

Jamie is the author of Insanely Gifted - Turn Your Demons into Creative Rocket Fuel

In this episode:

-What inspired you to write this book

-Reactive / non-reactive - creating space

-Self-care

-Be willing to feel uncomfortable feelings

“The hard times, dark nights of the soul they show us who we are”

-Forgiveness & Compassion

-Being loving with ourselves

-Having to always be in control
 
"Every time we try to avoid our feelings we are abandoning ourselves"

-Really Get to Know Yourself - Noticing. Allowing space

-Hiding parts of ourselves. Editing ourselves to fit in

"We are all on a journey towards the darkness AND the light"

-We can unedited ourselves back to us

-How do we learn unconditional love. 

“You can be unconditionally loving and still realise that guy is a twat”

When reactive - be sweet to yourself, be loving.

“The I, the one you are when you’re not loving yourself isn’t you”

-The bodyguard that jumps in to protect you, to stay safe

-How old maps of behaviours of when we were a child are not helping us anymore now we are adults

-Being brave in turning towards the pain or discomfort

“There’s huge amount of treasure waiting for you and me behind all these doors I promise you”

“You don’t need to find it, it arises by itself. If you weed the garden, the flower pops up, you don’t need to invent the flow”

-Take off the masks - Being real

-Feeling edgy together is oxygen

-Being judgemental - “Just like me”

-Not everyone will like you - let people not like you

-We’re ashamed of our own narcissism

-We don’t want to take the risk

-Steps to being vulnerable

-The 70% rule

-Treat people as people. Slow down

-Everyone is creative

Links:

Jamie Catto: Insanely Gifted: Turn Your Demons into Creative Rocket Fuel

Pete Walker: Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving

Russel Brand: Recovery: Freedom from Our Addictions

Music by Bensound.com

Connect with Jamie:

JamieCatto.com

Jamie Catto Workshops

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Win Freedom From Self Sabotage

Episode 22

Today, we are joined by guest Hazel Gale. Hazel is a former kickboxing champion and a multiple national and open European boxing-title winner. She was emotionally drained by shame and hid it with overtraining. During her first few years of competitive fighting, she experienced physical and psychological burnout. She ultimately found solace in cognitive hypnotherapy. 

Hazel was able to rebuild her physical strength and achieve a balanced, healthy emotional state. She is empowered by the changes she has made for herself. 

Now Hazel is a qualified coach and cognitive hypnotherapist. She trained as a clinical therapist and also a master practitioner of cognitive hypnotherapy. Her goal is to help others with their own emotional battles. She currently practices in London and specializes in performance-related issues and the pursuit of creative and professional goals. 

In this Episode

- How Hazel got involved in kickboxing

- Different types of training and how Hazel trained

- Burnout and the process of burnout 

- The manifestation of feeling unworthy and not enough

- Praise addiction

- Hazel’s journey with cognitive hypnotherapy

- Cognitive hypnotherapy vs hypnotherapy

- Awareness and consciousness

- The stability of memories

- The aspects of cognitive hypnotherapy that are truly beneficial

- Limiting beliefs and false memories

- Taking action without sabotaging your efforts

- Fixed mindsets and growth mindsets

- The disabling effects of unmet needs

- What Hazel is most grateful for

Links:

Hazelgale.com

Fight: Win Freedom From Self-Sabotage  

The final part of the steps to building a strong self-image by John C Maxwell. 

Lesson 5 - Do The Right Thing (Even if it's Hard)

Lesson 6 - Practice Small Discipline Daily

Lesson 7 - Celebrate Small Victories

Lesson 8 - Embrace a Positive Vision For Your Life

Lesson 9 - Practice the 1 Word Strategy

Lesson 10 - Take Responsibilty For Your Life

Continuing with the ten steps to build a healthy self-image and self esteem. Lesson 3, Move beyond your limiting beliefs; our limited thinking, our lack of ability to see what we are capable of. Fear and doubt get in the way. I think we can thnik some people are born special and others less so. Some are capable of greatness and others not. It is time to remove this way of thinking. Lesson 4 Add Value to Others. I defintely need to spend much more time on this one and I hope in part this podcast is adding value to others. I want to share my learning, my growth with others. I am trying to incorporate all these lessons in to my life. I think many of us can all do with a healthier self-image and boosting how we see ourselves. Life is about growing and you cannot change what you are not aware of or cannot see.

Today I talk about lessons in Self-Image from the wisdom of John C Maxwell.  He says you cannot reach your potential if your self image is low. No matter how much you dream or work you will only perform to the level of your self image. He has 10 strategies to combat negative self image and promote a positive one. In this episode I discuss his first 2 points. The first, Guard your Self Talk. Make sure you are speaking to yourself in a positive way. Number 2, stop comparing yourself to others. Start where you are. Know we are all at different stages. Have a beginners mind.

A short episode into some questions I've been asking myself about my lack of self-belief or giving in to self doubt. Everyone has it occasionally but I know I have been holding myself back. No more. It may be a chllenge but that's what life is about. I will succeed in life and I cannot succeed if I am sabotaging myself.

Mindset expert, coach and author Michele Attias joins me for an interview to discuss her book Look Inside: Stop Seeking Start Living. Michele has 20 years experience in her industry. She helps her clients overcome limiting beliefs, fears and to let go of the past. 

Topics Include;

Inner Work

Who can you become?

Stop chasing, slow down

Mindset

Let go of the past

Limiting Beliefs

What is Fear?

http://www.micheleattiascoaching.com/