In this episode, EG explores what it really means to feel safe in a relationship, not just emotionally, but physiologically. Through a trauma-informed lens, she unpacks the concept of felt safety and shares how survivors of trauma, especially those healing from sexual violence, can begin to recognize, rebuild, and receive support that genuinely feels grounding and safe.

She discusses the difference between being around “nice” people and being around safe people, offering signs your nervous system uses to signal safety (and danger) in relationships. EG also breaks down practical steps for building a support system, starting from scratch, and relearning how to trust connection after trauma.

Whether you’re navigating PTSD, feeling disconnected from others, or supporting a survivor in your life, this episode is for you.

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual

violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

Want to get in touch? Ideas for resources to add to the website? Podcast content suggestions? Reach out to us: https://www.luxresources.org/contact

In this episode, EG walks through a practical, trauma-informed approach to coping with emotional triggers, especially those tied to PTSD and sexual trauma. She breaks down how the brain and nervous system respond during a trigger and shares four simple steps that can help regulate your body and restore a sense of safety.

This episode offers survivors tangible tools for grounding, emotional regulation, and reclaiming control. Whether you're navigating triggers yourself or want to support someone who is, this conversation is for you.

Resources:

Understanding PTSD from a Polyvagal Perspective

The Body Keeps the Score - Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk

Working with Emotional Triggers and Trauma

Understanding the Stress Response

Sour Candy and Stress

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual

violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

Want to get in touch? Ideas for resources to add to the website? Podcast content suggestions? Reach out to us: https://www.luxresources.org/contact

Cat is back! If you're new here, Cat is the other co-founder of Lux and was co-host on the pod before she moved to D.C. last summer. It’s been a minute, but we finally found time to sit down together again, and I could not be more excited for you to hear this convo.

We’re diving into something that is on everyone’s mind right now: how to stay engaged in everything going on in the world without totally burning yourself out. We talk about emotional bandwidth, guilt, rage fatigue, how to care without constantly doing, and what it looks like to advocate in a way that’s actually sustainable. Basically how to protect your peace and still give a damn.

Resources:

Heather Cox Richardson: Letters from an American

Where to find your reps (especially if you’re in NC!)

Vote411.org

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual

violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

Want to get in touch? Ideas for resources to add to the website? Podcast content suggestions? Reach out to us: https://www.luxresources.org/contact

In this episode, EG opens up about the loneliness of surviving; how trauma doesn’t just take something from you, it leaves you with the aftershocks long after. She talks about the story of Kayla Malec and dives deep into the different kinds of loneliness survivors face: the grief for the person you were before, the disconnect from the world around you, and the complicated feelings toward the version of you that did what she had to do to survive.

It’s not clean. It’s not linear. But you’re not alone in it.

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

Want to get in touch? Ideas for resources to add to the website? Podcast content suggestions? Reach out to us: https://www.luxresources.org/contact

In this episode, EG dives into the worst questions survivors get asked, and why so many of them miss the mark. From the straight-up harmful to the shockingly common, she unpacks the assumptions behind questions like “What were you wearing?” and “Are you sure that’s what happened?” and talks about how curiosity, concern, or even good intentions can still cause harm when we’re not being mindful.

She shares her own experiences, reflections from listeners, and a few actually helpful things you can say instead. Whether you're a survivor who’s felt dismissed or an ally who wants to do better, this episode is both a call-in and a call-out.

If you've ever been on the receiving end of a “but why didn’t you fight back?” or wondered what not to say to someone who’s been through trauma, this one’s for you.

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

Want to get in touch? Ideas for resources to add to the website? Podcast content suggestions? Reach out to us: https://www.luxresources.org/contact

In this episode, EG talks about forgiveness after trauma—specifically after sexual violence—and all the pressure that can come with it. There’s this idea that forgiving the person who hurt you is the key to healing, but she doesn’t think it’s that simple.

She shares some of her own story and thoughts on what forgiveness has (and hasn’t) looked like for her and why she thinks we need to give survivors more space to figure that out for themselves. If you’ve ever felt like you should forgive but didn’t want to—or weren’t ready—this episode is for you.

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

Want to get in touch? Ideas for resources to add to the website? Podcast content suggestions? Reach out to us: https://www.luxresources.org/contact

In this episode, EG sits down with Molly Booker for an open and powerful conversation about hypersexuality after assault, the deep impact of guilt and shame on survivors, and the power of reclaiming the word “no.” Molly shares her personal journey, offering insights into the healing process, the complexity of survivor experiences, and the lessons she’s learned along the way.

They also dive into her book, Magic in the Mess, exploring the themes of resilience, self-discovery, and finding meaning in the aftermath of trauma. Whether you’re a survivor, an ally, or someone navigating your journey, this conversation is full of honesty, understanding, and hope.

Plus, we’re doing a book giveaway! Want a chance to win a copy of Magic in the Mess? Here’s how to enter:

📲 Follow us on Instagram & TikTok (@luxresources)

❤️ Like our giveaway post

👯‍♀️ Tag a friend in the comments (1 tag = 1 entry, unlimited entries!)

💬 Comment the code word MESSY on our post for 3 extra entries

The giveaway closes April 13th at 11:59 pm.

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

Connect with Molly

www.mollybooker.com

https://substack.com/@mollybooker

https://bsky.app/profile/mollybooker.bsky.social

Want to get in touch? Ideas for resources to add to the website? Podcast content suggestions? Reach out to us: https://www.luxresources.org/contact

Happy Women's History Month! In this episode, EG is diving into what it really means to be a woman: the rules we were taught, the labels we were given, and the impossible expectations we’ve been trying to meet for way too long. From “be likable” to “don’t be too much,” we’re unpacking the unspoken rules that shaped us and throwing them away. She’s breaking down what it means to take up space, to stop shrinking ourselves, and to finally embrace the wild, messy, emotional, powerful parts of who we are. Expect a little anger, a lot of empowerment, and more than one “why did no one teach us this sooner?!” moment.

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

Want to get in touch? Ideas for resources to add to the website? Podcast content suggestions? Reach out to us: https://www.luxresources.org/contact