How does your story shape your sexual arousal template? Therapist Rick Manabat shares eye-opening examples of how specific sexual fantasies and porn preferences are subconsciously shaped by our stories. This is truly mind-blowing!

Rick Manabat is the owner and founder of Pneuma Therapeutic Services, with locations in Chicago and Colorado Springs. He has a Master's in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Trinity International University. Rick is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) who is also trained in EMDR. He has been married to his best friend for almost 13 years, and they have three children.

Learn more and connect with Rick at pneumachicago.com/rick-manabat

• Pneuma Counseling - Chicago
• Pneuma Counseling - Colorado Springs

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What parts of yourself do you hide, repress, or deny? Whatever is in your "shadow" can subconsciously drive everything you do. Roy Wooten unpacks the concept of the shadow, how it works, and what his healing journey has looked like—from not feeling lovable as a boy, to surviving sexual abuse, to breaking free through embodied healing experiences at The Crucible Project.

Roy Wooten serves as the Executive Director of The Crucible Project. With decades of experience as a counselor and ministry leader, Roy is deeply committed to personal transformation, relational health, and spiritual growth. He is best known for helping thousands of people improve their relationships through retreats, seminars, and coaching sessions. Learn more at thecrucibleproject.org/roywooten

More resources from Roy Wooten and The Crucible Project:

• Unstuck: 7 Steps to Break Free and Live Courageously (free eBook)
• Sign up for a Christian Men's Retreat (initial weekend)

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In this powerful live demo, John Kilmer guides Drew Boa in parts work focused on Drew's addiction to screens. This episode is an example of Manly Monday, one of the weekly HMA Coaching Calls. Learn more and join HMA this week only at joinHMA.com.

John Kilmer is a Mental Health Life Coach, Occupational Therapist, and Certified Husband Material Coach. He's a grateful follower of Jesus who is passionate about men's inner healing work. Learn more about John at relaxedcaregiver.com.

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What is shame? How does evil use shame against us, and what does healing look like? Dr. Curt Thompson explores shame through the lens of Scripture, neuroscience, and spiritual formation in community. Stay until the end to hear how Jesus meets us in our shame. What a beautiful conversation!

Dr. Curt Thompson is a compassionate psychiatrist who weaves together an understanding of interpersonal neurobiology (IPNB) and a Christian view of what it means to be human. Through Curt's workshops, books, private clinical practice, and other platforms, he helps people fully experience our deepest longing: to be known. Learn more at curtthompsonmd.com

More resources by Curt Thompson:

• The Being Known Podcast
• Confessional Communities
• The Soul Of Shame (book)
• All books by Curt Thompson

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Are you afraid that processing your sexual fantasies might lead to a relapse? Do you have concerns based on your understanding of the Bible? Does your wife have concerns? In this episode, you'll hear three reasons why processing your sexual fantasies can feel threatening, and what it looks like to do this work safely.

Register now for the Sexual Fantasy Workshop: HMA In A Day (Saturday, July 12) at husbandmaterial.com/workshop

Examples of safely processing sexual fantasies:

• Unburdening Sexual Arousal (Dr. Peter Malinoski working with Drew Boa)
• The Guy In The Locker Room (Drew Boa working with Jordan Castille)
• How To Analyze A Sexual Fantasy (Drew Boa and Dr. Doug Carpenter working with each other)

The insights on how to support your spouse's individual recovery and protect your marriage came from Stephen Thomas Consulting.

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Do you find yourself more susceptible to sexual temptation while traveling? Jake Kastleman helps you prepare to for the challenges of trips, vacations, and other disruptions to your daily routine—especially during the summer. You'll get tips on setting healthy expectations, creating structure while letting go of perfectionism, and preventing relapse.

Jake Kastleman is a porn addiction recovery coach and the founder of No More Desire. He holds a degree in Psychology from Utah Valley University. Now over 10 years sober from porn, Jake coaches men one-on-one across the world using a multi-dimensional approach rooted in neuroscience, psychology, parts work, emotional mindfulness, and spiritual growth. His work helps men not just quit porn, but overcome the root causes of cravings and reclaim their purpose and connection to what matters most.

Learn more and connect with Jake:

• No More Desire (Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery)
• The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn (Free Workshop)
• 10 Quick Mental Techniques to Stop Porn Cravings (Free eBook)

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When one person has a history of same-sex attraction and another has a history of relying on porn, how is a Christ-centered marriage possible? Christy and Mark Summers tell their incredible story, both individually and as a couple.

Christy and Mark Summers are the co-founders of Redeemed Seasons Ministries, where they care for and support Christian men and women seeking healing and wholeness through Jesus in their relationships, their identity, and their sexuality. Christy and Mark offer one-on-one and couple-to-couple soul care and spiritual direction. They also facilitate support groups for family and friends of LGBTQ-identified loved ones. Learn more at redeemedseasons.org

Resources from Redeemed Seasons:

• Rescue & Restoring (free 12-week healing & discipleship course)
• At My Right Hand (support group for family & friends of LGBTQ loved ones)
• Spiritual Direction (request an appointment)

Other ministries mentioned in this episode:

• Restored Hope Network
• Living Waters (Desert Stream Ministries)

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Do you feel confused or overwhelmed by trying to understand unwanted sexual attraction from a Christian perspective? In this episode, you'll hear the strengths and limitations of Side A, Side B, Side X, Side Y—and a new perspective on unwanted sexual attraction: the Sexual Development Model (SDM).

Download the Sexual Development Model chart at https://husbandmaterial.com/sdm

Referenced in this episode:

• Differing Views on Christian Doctrine, Identity, and Homosexuality by Jason Thompson (chart)
• The 5 Streams: Differing Responses To LGBTQ by Linda Seilor (chart)
• How My Sexual Fetish Shifted Over Time (podcast) by Drew Boa
• Healthy vs. Unhealthy Sexual Development (DVD) by Clifford and Joyce Penner

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