Modern day friendships - why do they feel so hard? Did you know each of your friendships have an “about” section for your origin story? Why do I still feel lonely even though I have close friends?

Friendships enrich our lives so much, but we understand that it can be hard to maintain old friendships and find the time to make meaningful new ones as busy moms! We are so pleased to have author, speaker, and seasoned journalist Anna Goldfarb on today’s episode to share her perspective on modern day friendships. While you may have several groups of friends (think friends from growing up, work friends, mom friends), those groups seldom overlap. Anna dives into WHY this has caused the new age problem of leaving us feeling lonely or isolated in friendships. We loved this idea she brought up about everyone having an “about section” for each of your friendships, and why that can actually help you to better understand your current friendship status and relationships with others. This episode is such a fun and energetic take on adult friendships that had us laughing along the way! We’ve talked about friendship plenty of times in other episodes, but this episode brought some new ideas forward. We’d love to hear what your takeaways were from today’s episode, and don’t forget to reach out to a friend and tell them you love them!

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As our kids continue to age, the topic of bullying is becoming more front and center. Especially with our pre-teens as they enter what our guest refers to as, “the crucial years”, ages 5-12, where they are rapidly developing into complex people. The conversation today with Dr. Sheryl Ziegler, Licensed Clinical Psychologist and author of the book titled, “The Crucial Years” provides an honest conversation for how we can raise empathetic and kind children who understand the implications of bullying. We’ll cover everything from how to talk to your kids about bullying, how they can learn to respond if they see someone being bullied, and what to do if they’re being bullied themselves. Dr. Sheryl shares techniques, prompts, and scripts to encourage conversation with your kids surrounding bullying that we found SO helpful. We also talk about keeping the lines of conversation open when it comes to puberty and our developing kids. This episode is jam packed with amazing information, and we would love it if you shared what hit home for you in your Instagram stories or share the episode with a friend!

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Whether you stay home with your family, work at home with kiddos, or are out in the workplace, we strive to bring guests that cover all lifestyles. That’s why we are so excited to have Dr. Anne Welsh on today’s episode to focus on the working parent. As a mother of 4, Dr. Anne is an expert on transitioning from working person to working parent. She is also a psychologist who started her career at Harvard, now working as an executive coach and consultant with a deep passion for empowering women. Throughout this episode, Dr. Anne explains why the stress of being a working parent is a systemic issue, not just an individual issue and some strategies to reframe stress as a working parent to keep you focused on your beliefs, boundaries, and bandwidth. We talk through how shame and guilt come into play when you're feeling like you’re not giving enough to your career or home life, and why asking for help from your village is SO important (and how to do it!). Lastly, we discuss finding your “glimmers”, the things that bring you joy everyday and drive resiliency against future stress. We really wish we had these tools when we started out in working motherhood, but are glad to have now heard the information. We hope you also feel inspired and would love it if you would share this episode with a working parent in your life!

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We know our community has been asking for more Amy and Abby episodes lately so we hope this one hits home. We are both sharing our top three lessons that we’ve learned over time. We cover avoidance and how it’s rarely the answer, the importance of getting the basics down when it comes to your health, and how self-awareness is the number one step for positive change. You know that friendship is an important topic around here and we share the lessons that we’ve learned around that, explain how you can’t change someone else’s perception of you, and discuss decision making; are you in decision making fatigue?

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Do you find yourself feeling dysregulated more often than you’d like? Dr. Amber Thornton, licensed Clinical Psychologist, is on the show today to talk with us about how we can recognize and work with the different triggers that can set us off. If you are someone who tends to stress about worst case scenarios that “might” happen, she has some tips for you. Or maybe you dread the infamous 2nd shift of parenthood; that time between school/daycare and bedtime? Dr. Thornton shares some strategies to help us cope with the overwhelm that can come at that time of day. She leaves us with realistic expectations we should be setting for ourselves and reminds us that at the end of the day, we aren’t going to be able to meet every single one of our child’s needs, and that’s okay.

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Dr. Morgan Cutlip, relationship expert, is no stranger to the HERself Podcast and we are so excited to have her back for another episode! Together we will be tackling “mental load” with tangible strategies that can actually work for you, your relationship, and your home. We talked with Dr. Morgan in episode 162, and in episode 163 we shared how we implemented her wisdom. But today, we’ll be diving deeper into our relationships to understand why sharing the mental load can prevent burnout and resentment and how to keep the spark alive to have a satisfying sex life. Like Amy and Colin, we know some of you in our community travel for work or have a spouse that travels for work. We acknowledge that this dynamic makes sharing the mental load challenging, and Dr. Morgan has some strategies to consider to foster communication while apart. Intimacy can play a major role in feeling connected to your partner too, so we encourage you to take to heart the details of Dr. Morgan’s interview with us today to nurture your relationship and feel connected outside and inside of the bedroom!

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Today on the podcast, we are talking about a vulnerable topic and human experience: shame. While we know it’s not always comfortable to talk about, we also know we aren't alone in our experiences and that sharing is how we all learn and grow. To help us walk through the topic of shame, we have invited Dr. Zoe Shaw on to today’s episode. Dr. Zoe is a psychotherapist, author, podcast host, and speaker who is passionate about helping women through difficult relationships and helping them overcome complex shame and codependency. Dr. Zoe talks us through the difference between simple and complex shame, people who may be more inclined to experience complex shame, the part that shame may play in our romantic relationships, and how codependency can impact our shame cycles. Today’s episode is unlike any other episode. It is truly impactful and we will be thinking about this episode for weeks and months to come.

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Relationships are at the foundation of our everyday connections. Friendship, family, and romantic relationships take dedication for both sides to feel validated and loved. We know relationships are hard, which is why we invited Dr. Thema Bryant to share with us her incredible knowledge and expertise. Dr. Thema is a psychologist, author, professor, and President of the American Psychological Association. Through her work as an educator, podcast host, and her newly released book, “Matters of the Heart”, Dr. Thema is leading the way in creating healthy relationships, healing traumas, and helping others overcome stress and oppression. This episode gave us a new way of thinking about our own relationships and we walked away with so many insightful new ways to shift our mindsets surrounding love and relationships. Dr. Thema’s answers to our deep and personal questions were so well spoken, we know you’re going to take away a lot from today’s episode too!

(Trigger warning: emotional and sexual abuse discussed)

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