Episodios

  • 13 | Is Your Honest Emotion Too Much for God? What Lament Teaches Christian Women About True Connection

    13 | Is Your Honest Emotion Too Much for God? What Lament Teaches Christian Women About True Connection
    Oct 8 2025
    Have you ever cried... and then felt ashamed for crying? Maybe you poured out your heart to someone you trusted - a spiritual leader, a friend, even God - and instead of being held in your pain, you were told to have more faith, pray harder, or just get over it. Or maybe you've learned to hide your struggles altogether because somewhere along the way, you started believing that your pain was proof something was fundamentally wrong with you. If you've ever felt like expressing honest emotion meant you were spiritually weak, or if you've been waiting for others to notice you're hurting while never actually telling them you need help - this episode is for you. Episode Description If you've been hiding your heart because you thought your pain made you unlovable, you're not alone - and you're not damaged goods. Today we're exploring one of the most devastating hidden barriers of religious trauma: the belief "I'm Unlovable." Through Debra's deeply personal story - from being told her grief was spiritual adultery to discovering God's inexpressible love in sacred sorrow - we'll uncover how religious environments can silence women's pain and teach them that honest expression equals weak faith. You'll discover an ancient language of worship that was stolen from you but has always been yours - the practice of lament - and learn why your pain doesn't repel God but actually moves His heart toward you. This isn't about becoming less emotional - it's about discovering that nothing you feel is too much for God, and that your wounds don't make you damaged, they make you beautifully, achingly human. In this episode, you'll discover: → Why hiding your pain and minimizing your needs keeps you disconnected from authentic love - and how to recognize when you're doing it → The ancient practice of lament - bringing your unfiltered heart directly to God without cleaning it up first → How God's ḥesed (loyal, covenant love) meets you in your deepest places, not because your pain disappeared but because you've encountered His presence in the middle of it → The difference between being unloved and being under-nurtured - and why this reframe changes everything → One simple practice to start bringing honest emotion to God each day and watch for the moment when His inexpressible love breaks through Healing Truth Your pain doesn't make you unlovable. It makes you human. And God's ḥesed - His loyal, covenant love - is specifically for humans in all their beautiful brokenness. You don't have to be healed to be loved by Him. You don't have to have it all together. The woman who brings her whole, broken, furious, grieving heart directly to God - she's not someone you have to become. She's who you've always been, waiting to be remembered beneath all the hiding. Ready to go deeper? Discover your personal healing path: Take our free Religious Trauma Assessment at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com and uncover which of the 12 hidden barriers might be shaping your relationship with God, yourself, and others. You'll receive a personalized report plus my complete Essentials Starter Kit - including my book He Is Enough, Truth Over Tradition mini-course, live reading circles, and access to our supportive community - all completely FREE as my thank you for taking this brave step. Transform your story completely: Join the Coming Home Journey at TheComingHomeJourney.com - a six-month guided experience to unravel religious trauma, instill God's truth, and create your new story alongside women who truly understand. Learn the language of lament, discover God's divine principles, and step into the freedom you've been longing for. Get all the details at TheComingHomeJourney.com. About Debra I'm Debra Schafer, spiritual healing coach for Christian women and founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle. For over seven years, I've walked alongside women who love God deeply but feel exhausted by religious performance and pressure. I know this path personally - I've lived the devastating loss of being told my grief was spiritual failure - and I've seen what happens when women finally bring their unfiltered hearts to God: they discover they were always lovable. Listener Love If this episode helped you feel permission to bring your whole heart to God, would you share it with someone who needs this gentle truth? And a quick review on Apple Podcasts helps more women find their way to healing religious trauma and discover that their pain doesn't make them unlovable. This isn't surface-level faith advice. It's soul-level restoration for Christian women healing from religious trauma who long for inner peace, spiritual healing, and the ability to trust God completely. Through addressing generational trauma and nurturing true connection, we help you experience God's love in the deepest way. Strengthen your relationship with a safe, loving God.
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  • 12 | Why Christian Women Still Feel Unsafe (Even In Their Own Faith)

    12 | Why Christian Women Still Feel Unsafe (Even In Their Own Faith)
    Oct 1 2025
    Do you ever catch yourself walking on spiritual eggshells—even in spaces that should feel safe? Maybe you find yourself scanning the room before you speak, wondering if your question will be received well, or if your honesty might be labeled as having "the wrong spirit." Maybe you've learned to adapt, to become whoever the room needs you to be, because authenticity feels dangerous. If you're a Christian woman who loves God deeply but still feels like you're constantly braced for correction or rejection, this episode will help you understand why—and show you the path to the spiritual safety you're longing for. Today we're exploring the profound truth that could heal one of religious trauma's most painful barriers: your hypervigilance wasn't paranoia - it was wisdom protecting you from real spiritual danger. Episode Description If you've been living in spiritual hypervigilance, constantly adapting to survive instead of standing in your truth, this episode will revolutionize how you understand safety in your faith. Today we're healing the devastating "I'm Not Safe" barrier by discovering how to distinguish between God's safe love and the harmful dynamics that taught you to live on guard. Through a personal story of spiritual manipulation disguised as loving guidance, we'll explore how religious trauma teaches us that safety comes from human approval rather than God's unchanging love. You'll learn why your constant vigilance wasn't paranoia—it was wisdom responding to real spiritual danger. Most importantly, you'll discover how to separate God from the people who misrepresented Him, and find the courage to trust your own God-given discernment. This isn't about avoiding all spiritual guidance, but about learning to hear God's voice directly instead of through human interpretation. You'll walk away understanding that questioning isn't rebellion—it's relationship, and that God delights in your authentic heart, not your spiritual performance. Safety isn't found in avoiding all risk, but in the arms of a God who has prepared a future for you with hope. In this episode, you'll discover: → Why your spiritual hypervigilance was actually brilliant wisdom protecting you from real manipulation → The difference between healthy spiritual guidance and controlling authority that uses Christian concepts for manipulation → How to separate God's character from the people who misrepresented Him through fear-based teaching → Practical steps to practice authenticity with God first, then with safe people in your life → The revolutionary truth that questioning deepens relationship with God rather than threatening it Healing Truth You are safe in God's love, and that safety isn't dependent on anyone else's approval or interpretation of His will for your life. God delights in your authentic heart—questions, emotions, and all. You were never meant to live in spiritual fear. You were meant to rest in His perfect love that casts out all fear. 🎧 Ready to go deeper? Discover your personal healing path: Take our free Religious Trauma Assessment at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com and uncover which of the 12 hidden barriers might be shaping your relationship with God, yourself, and others. You'll receive a personalized report plus my complete Essentials Starter Kit - including my book He Is Enough, Truth Over Tradition mini-course, live reading circles, and access to our supportive community - all completely FREE as my thank you for taking this brave step. Transform your story completely: Join the Coming Home Journey - a six-month guided experience to learn the difference between God's safe love and harmful spiritual dynamics. Discover how to trust your own God-given discernment while staying deeply connected to your faith. This isn't about losing your relationship with God - it's about finding the safety to be authentic with Him. Details here: TheComingHomeJourney.com About Debra I'm Debra Shafer, spiritual healing coach for Christian women and founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle. For over seven years, I've walked alongside women who've been taught that spiritual safety comes from human approval rather than God's love. I know this transformation personally - I've learned to distinguish between God's voice and human interpretation - and I've witnessed what happens when women discover they're safe to be authentic: they finally experience the freedom Christ died to give them. Listener Love If this episode helped you understand that your vigilance was wisdom rather than weakness, would you share it with someone who needs this truth? And a quick review on Apple Podcasts helps more women discover they're safe to question, feel, and heal in God's love. This isn't surface-level faith advice. It's soul-level restoration for Christian women healing from religious trauma who long for inner peace, spiritual healing, and the ability to trust God completely. Through addressing generational trauma and ...
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  • 11 | The Hidden Shame Keeping Christian Women from God's Love

    11 | The Hidden Shame Keeping Christian Women from God's Love
    Sep 24 2025
    What if your "character flaws" were actually brilliant survival strategies? Maybe you've been looking at your people-pleasing, perfectionism, or emotional sensitivity and thinking, "Something is really wrong with me." Maybe you carry quiet shame about the ways you learned to cope, believing they prove you're selfish, manipulative, or fundamentally flawed. But what if you weren't bad - you were surviving? And what if you were brilliant at it? Today we're exploring the truth that could heal one of religious trauma's deepest wounds: your survival patterns aren't evidence of your badness - they're evidence of your brilliance. Episode Description If you've been carrying shame about your survival patterns, believing they prove something is fundamentally wrong with you, this episode will revolutionize how you see your story. Today we're healing the devastating "I'm Bad" barrier by discovering the truth that changes everything: you weren't bad - you were a brilliant survivor. Through Tekyia's powerful story of transformation from shame-driven faith to love-driven relationship with God, we'll explore how God-given gifts like sensitivity, intelligence, and compassion get repurposed as survival tools when trauma occurs. You'll learn the difference between the "shame lens" that sees character flaws and the "wisdom lens" that recognizes brilliant adaptation. Most importantly, you'll discover how to reclaim your gifts from survival mode and use them for their original purpose - not just surviving, but thriving. This isn't about excusing harmful patterns, but about recognizing the wisdom in your survival so you can transform it into authentic living. You'll walk away understanding that your sensitivity is a superpower, your intelligence is a gift, and your compassion is exactly what the world needs - not despite your survival patterns, but because of the brilliance that created them. In this episode, you'll discover: → The revolutionary difference between the "shame lens" and "wisdom lens" - and how it transforms your entire self-perception → Why your people-pleasing, perfectionism, and hypervigilance were actually God-given gifts being used brilliantly for survival → How religious trauma teaches us to see our natural gifts as dangerous, forcing them into survival mode → The "survival pattern appreciation" practice that helps you recognize your brilliance instead of your brokenness → Practical steps to reclaim your gifts for thriving instead of just surviving - moving from defensive to authentic living Healing Truth You are not a collection of character flaws that need fixing. You are a brilliant survivor with God-given gifts that got repurposed for survival when life wasn't safe. Those gifts - your sensitivity, your intelligence, your compassion - they were never the problem. They're your superpowers waiting to be reclaimed. You weren't bad. You were surviving. And you were brilliant at it. 🎧 Ready to go deeper? Discover your personal healing path: Take our free Religious Trauma Assessment at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com and uncover which of the 12 hidden barriers might be shaping your relationship with God, yourself, and others. You'll receive a personalized report plus my complete Essentials Starter Kit - including my book He Is Enough, Truth Over Tradition mini-course, live reading circles, and access to our supportive community - all completely FREE as my thank you for taking this brave step. Transform your story completely: Join the Coming Home Journey at TheComingHomeJourney.com - a six-month guided experience to reclaim your God-given gifts from survival mode and learn to use them for thriving. Discover that what you've been calling brokenness was actually brilliance. About Debra I'm Debra Shafer, spiritual healing coach for Christian women and founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle. For over seven years, I've walked alongside women who've been taught to see their God-given gifts as character flaws. I know this transformation personally - I've learned to see my own survival patterns as brilliant adaptations - and I've witnessed what happens when women discover they were never the problem: they finally see themselves as God sees them. Listener Love If this episode helped you see your survival patterns as brilliant rather than broken, would you share it with someone who needs this reframe? And a quick review on Apple Podcasts helps more women discover they were never as bad as they believed - they were brilliant survivors whose gifts are waiting to be reclaimed. This isn't surface-level faith advice. It's soul-level restoration for Christian women healing from religious trauma who long for inner peace, spiritual healing, and the ability to trust God completely. Through addressing generational trauma and nurturing true connection, we help you experience God's love in the deepest way. Strengthen your relationship with a safe, loving God.
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  • 10 | The #1 Lie Christian Women Believe About Their Worth: A Spiritual Healing Path for Exhausted Hearts

    10 | The #1 Lie Christian Women Believe About Their Worth: A Spiritual Healing Path for Exhausted Hearts
    Sep 17 2025
    Have you been giving until you disappeared, believing that's what God wants from you? Maybe you've spent years believing your worth is tied to your output - constantly proving yourself through spiritual performance, serving until you're empty, trying to earn God's love through perfect behavior. But here's a revolutionary truth: God never required your exhaustion. He asked for your presence - not your performance. If you've been living like "a mirror that lies," constantly reflecting back your worth based on what you produce instead of who you are, this episode will change everything about how you see yourself and your faith. Episode Description If you're bone-deep tired from running on what feels like a spiritual performance treadmill, this episode reveals the profound difference between artificial motivation that depletes and natural motivation that energizes. Today we're healing the exhausting "I'm Not Enough" barrier by discovering that God never required your exhaustion - He's been inviting you into rest all along. Through Kristina's powerful transformation from crushing striving to peaceful presence, we'll explore how religious trauma dresses itself up as virtue, convincing women that giving until they disappear is what faithful service looks like. You'll learn to distinguish between artificial motivation (driven by fear, guilt, obligation) and natural motivation (flowing from love, inspiration, genuine desire). Most importantly, you'll discover that your worth was never meant to be tied to your output. This isn't about becoming less committed to God - it's about understanding that He wanted your heart, not your hustle. You'll walk away knowing how to stop living like a mirror that lies and start reflecting back the truth of who you really are. You'll finally understand that trauma dressed in religious language convinced you to serve from depletion, but God's invitation was always to serve from overflow. In this episode, you'll discover: → The life-changing difference between artificial motivation (depleting) and natural motivation (energizing) - and how to tell which one is driving you → Why "giving until you disappear" isn't virtue but trauma dressed in religious language → How the belief "you are only as worthy as your output" gets installed in religious environments → The "motivation check" practice to help you distinguish between serving from fear versus serving from love → Why God asked for your presence, not your performance - and what divine rest actually looks like Healing Truth You are not only as worthy as your output. God never required your exhaustion - He's been inviting you into rest all along. His love for you isn't conditional on your performance. The woman who serves from natural motivation, who rests without guilt, who knows her worth isn't tied to what she produces - she's not someone you have to become. She's who you've always been, waiting to be remembered beneath all the artificial striving. 🎧 Ready to go deeper? Discover your personal healing path: Take our free Religious Trauma Assessment at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com and uncover which of the 12 hidden barriers might be shaping your relationship with God, yourself, and others. You'll receive a personalized report that shows you where artificial motivation has replaced natural inspiration, plus my complete Essentials Starter Kit - including my book He Is Enough, Truth Over Tradition mini-course, live reading circles, and access to our supportive community - all completely FREE. Transform your story completely: Join the Coming Home Journey at TheComingHomeJourney.com - a six-month guided experience to discover the difference between artificial motivation that depletes and natural motivation that energizes. Stop giving until you disappear and learn to serve from the overflow of knowing you're already enough. Get all the details at TheComingHomeJourney.com. About Debra I'm Debra Shafer, spiritual healing coach for Christian women and founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle. For over seven years, I've walked alongside women who've been giving until they disappeared, believing that's what faithful service looks like. I know this exhaustion personally - I've learned the difference between serving from depletion and serving from overflow - and I've seen what happens when women discover God never required their exhaustion: they finally find the rest their souls have been aching for. Listener Love If this episode gave you permission to stop running on the performance treadmill, would you share it with someone who needs that freedom too? And a quick review on Apple Podcasts helps more women discover they don't have to earn God's love through exhaustion - they can rest in knowing they're already enough. This isn't surface-level faith advice. It's soul-level restoration for Christian women healing from religious trauma who long for inner peace, spiritual healing, and the ability to trust God completely. ...
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  • 09 | The #1 Reason Christian Women Still Feel Invisible: Healing Religious Trauma Through God's Love

    09 | The #1 Reason Christian Women Still Feel Invisible: Healing Religious Trauma Through God's Love
    Sep 13 2025
    Have you ever felt that tension between the God you personally sense and the religious expectations around you? Maybe you've spent years making yourself small to keep everyone else comfortable, while your true self remains hidden even from those closest to you. You've perfected what I call "helpful invisibility"—being indispensable but somehow still unseen. People notice your service, your put-together life, your ability to care for others, but no one really knows your dreams, your struggles, or who you are when the lights dim. Episode Description If you've ever felt invisible in the ways that matter most—seen on the surface but unknown in your depths—this episode is for you. Today we're exploring the #1 hidden barrier of religious trauma that keeps Christian women feeling unseen: the belief "I'm invisible." Through Simone's powerful story of navigating the tension between the God she sensed and religious expectations around her, we'll uncover how religious environments can teach women that being seen is dangerous, prideful, or inappropriate. You'll discover why invisibility isn't humility—it's often a survival strategy that once kept you safe but now keeps you from the deep connection with God and others that your heart is longing for. This isn't about becoming the center of attention. It's about recognizing that you were never meant to disappear, and that the God who sees you has been calling you by name out of hiding and into the light all along. Through biblical grounding in the story of the woman with the issue of blood, you'll see how Jesus stops everything to notice those who feel invisible and calls them "Daughter." In this episode, you'll discover: → Why "helpful invisibility" is actually a trauma response, not a spiritual gift—and how to recognize it in your own life → How religious trauma teaches women that being seen is dangerous for their souls and spiritualizes self-erasure as virtue → The beautiful truth about Jesus stopping everything to see the woman who touched His robe—and how He restores her name, place, and visibility → One simple practice called "the one true thing" to start letting yourself be seen in small, safe ways → How your visibility becomes an invitation for other women to step out of hiding too Your Practice for This Week When someone asks how you are, pause and share one true thing instead of automatically saying "fine." Notice what it feels like to let yourself be known, even in that small way. Healing Truth You are not invisible to the One who made you. You never have been. Learning to be seen by others starts with remembering that you've always been seen by Him. The woman who shows up fully, who speaks truth, who takes her rightful place—she's not someone you have to become. She's who you've always been, waiting to be uncovered. 🎧 Ready to go deeper? Discover your personal healing path: Take our free Religious Trauma Assessment at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com and uncover which of the 12 hidden barriers might be shaping your relationship with God, yourself, and others. You'll receive a personalized report plus my complete Essentials Starter Kit—including my book He Is Enough, Truth Over Tradition mini-course, live reading circles, and access to our supportive community—all completely FREE as my thank you for taking this brave step. Transform your story completely: Join the Coming Home Journey at TheComingHomeJourney.com—a six-month guided experience to unravel religious trauma, instill God's truth, and create your new story alongside women who truly understand. About Debra I'm Debra Shafer, spiritual healing coach for Christian women and founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle. For over seven years, I've walked alongside women who love God deeply but feel silenced, anxious, or spiritually disconnected because of hidden trauma. I know this path personally—I've lived it myself—and I've seen what happens when women finally name what harmed them: they come alive again in their faith. Listener Love If this episode helped you feel less alone, would you share it with someone who needs this gentle truth? And a quick review on Apple Podcasts helps more women find their way to healing religious trauma and discover the safe, loving relationship with God they've always longed for. This isn't surface-level faith advice. It's soul-level restoration for Christian women healing from religious trauma who long for inner peace, spiritual healing, and the ability to trust God completely. Through addressing generational trauma and nurturing true connection, we help you experience God's love in the deepest way. Strengthen your relationship with a safe, loving God.
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  • 08 | Create a New Story: Permission to Rewrite Your Faith Without Losing God

    08 | Create a New Story: Permission to Rewrite Your Faith Without Losing God
    Sep 3 2025

    "What if I told you that you have permission to rewrite your story—your faith story, your relationship with God, even your understanding of who you're meant to be—without losing the God who loves you?"

    If that sounds impossible because you've been taught that questioning anything means losing everything, this episode will set you free.

    God isn't threatened by your growth. He's actually been waiting for you to step into the fullness of who He created you to be.

    In this final episode of our healing pillars series, Debra shares her powerful moment when God told her "it's time for you to get a life!"—and how she chose to live and love like she was never broken. You'll discover that creating a new story isn't about throwing away your faith—it's about stepping into the spiritual freedom God always intended.

    This is Healing Pillar #3: Create a New Story—where everything you've unraveled and all the truth you've instilled finally gets to live and breathe in your actual life, moving through four incredible milestones that take you from feeling like you don't have enough or you're too much to standing absolutely unshakeable in who God created you to be.

    In this episode, you'll discover: → How to move from spiritual scarcity to living from divine abundance → Why your "too much" nature was actually divine fire expressing through your unique gifts → How your scars aren't disqualifications—they're credentials for your calling → Why you don't belong because of where you are—you belong because of who you are → What it means to live like you were never broken (even though you were)

    The four final milestones you'll explore: • Milestone 9: From "I Don't Have" → "I Encounter Genuine Experiences On My Spirit-Led Path" (Fearless Journey) • Milestone 10: From "I'm Too Much" → "Navigating Authentic Relationships With Divine Boundaries" (Divine Bonds) • Milestone 11: From "I'm Unworthy" → "The Tapestry Of Transformation Has Woven Wisdom And Beauty Into My Life" (Heart's Unveiling) • Milestone 12: From "I Don't Belong" → "I Will Not Be Moved" (Fortress of Strength)

    Life-changing revelation: You were born with a size eight foot, but you were given a size seven shoe. You didn't need a smaller container—you needed bigger spaces that honored your divine design.

    Action Step: Ask yourself, "What would it look like to live and love like I was never broken?" Notice what comes up—both the excitement and the fear.

    Healing Truth: Your foundation isn't in systems or people's approval; it's in God's unchanging love for you. You don't belong because of where you are—you belong because of who you are.

    🎧 Ready to go deeper? → Grab your copy of He Is Enough at HeIsEnoughBook.com — your redemptive memoir and healing guide plus audiobook, mini-course, reading circles, and support community for just $17 → Join the Coming Home Journey at TheComingHomeJourney.com — experience all three healing pillars in a six-month guided journey to unravel the trauma, instill the truth, and create your new story

    Have questions or want to connect? Email Debra at debra@healingreligioustrauma.org

    Series Complete: You've now heard all three healing pillars—Unravel, Instill, and Create. These pillars are a lifelong journey of coming home to the God who has been loving you all along.

    Listener Love: If this series helped you see that your new story can be more beautiful than you imagined, would you share it with someone who needs this permission? A quick review on Apple Podcasts helps more women find their way to spiritual freedom. 💛

    This isn't surface-level faith advice. It's soul-level restoration—for Christian women healing from religious trauma who long for inner peace, spiritual freedom, and the courage to step into who God created them to be.
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  • 07 | Why God's Real Voice Sounds Nothing Like Religious Trauma

    07 | Why God's Real Voice Sounds Nothing Like Religious Trauma
    Aug 27 2025

    "What if I'm being deceived? What if I can't tell the difference between truth and trauma?"

    If you've ever been terrified to trust what might be God's voice because of spiritual harm, this episode will change everything.

    When you've experienced religious trauma, every spiritual voice starts to sound suspicious. But here's the beautiful truth Debra discovered: God's real voice sounds nothing like the voices that caused harm. Nothing like shame, manipulation, or fear.

    In this second episode of our healing pillars series, you'll discover the profound difference between authentic divine guidance and the controlling voices that claimed to speak for God. Through tender storytelling about "the great contradiction"—how something can be filled with love while still causing deep harm—you'll learn to recognize God's true character.

    This is Healing Pillar #2: Instill the Truth—where you discover who God really is when no one else is speaking for Him, moving through four powerful milestones that take you from feeling unloved and like a failure to understanding you're exactly who God created you to be.

    In this episode, you'll discover: → Why God's voice honors your individuality and invites your whole heart—questions and all → The difference between rigid religious rules and God's life-giving principles → How your "too sensitive, too analytical, too emotional" nature is actually divine design → Why you matter so much that Jesus tailors His approach specifically to you → How to trust God AND trust your own intuition—because He created both

    The four milestones you'll explore: • Milestone 5: From "I'm Unloved" → "An Inexpressible Love Heals Me" (Sacred Sorrow) • Milestone 6: From "I'm a Failure" → "I Navigate My Path With Correct Principles" (Divine Principles) • Milestone 7: From "I'm Different (Wrong Way)" → "Discover the True Science of Salvation" (Heavenly Algorithm) • Milestone 8: From "I Don't Matter" → "The Divine Healing Methods of Jesus" (Sacred Parts Restored)

    Life-changing truth: God doesn't flinch at your raw emotions. He welcomes your full expression because nothing is too much for Him—not your fury, not your grief, not your questions.

    Action Step: Practice bringing your whole heart to God—including your questions and struggles. Notice how this feels different from religious performance.

    Healing Truth: Authentic faith isn't about silencing your inner voice—it's about learning to hear God's voice through it.

    🎧 Ready to go deeper? → Take the free quiz at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com to discover your personalized healing path and get a bonus 3-part audio series → Grab your copy of He Is Enough at HeIsEnoughBook.com — your redemptive memoir and healing guide plus audiobook, mini-course, weekly reading circles, and support community for just $17 → Join the Coming Home Journey at TheComingHomeJourney.com — experience all three healing pillars in a six-month guided journey to unravel the trauma, instill the truth, and create a new story

    Have questions or want to connect? Email Debra at debra@healingreligioustrauma.org

    Coming Up Next: Healing Pillar #3 - "Create a New Story: Permission to Rewrite Your Faith Without Losing God." Discover how to step into the freedom God always intended for you.

    Listener Love: If this episode helped you hear God's real voice of love, would you share it with someone who needs this gentle truth? And a quick review on Apple Podcasts helps more women find their way to spiritual healing. 💛

    This isn't surface-level faith advice. It's soul-level restoration—designed for Christian women healing from religious trauma who long for inner peace, true connection with God, and trust in His gentle, loving voice.
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  • 06 | Why Most Christian Women Avoid Unraveling Religious Trauma (And Why You Should Start)

    06 | Why Most Christian Women Avoid Unraveling Religious Trauma (And Why You Should Start)
    Aug 20 2025

    HEALING PILLAR #1 OF A 3-PART SERIES

    "Oh, but I wouldn't call it that. It wasn't that bad. I don't want to be dramatic." Sound familiar? Even when you're describing feeling anxious around God, exhausted from trying to be "good enough," or confused about why your faith feels so heavy—something in you immediately pulls back from the words "religious trauma." In this first episode of our three-part healing pillars series, Debra shares why most Christian women will do almost anything to avoid looking at religious trauma, even when it's sitting right there in plain sight, quietly shaping every prayer and every step toward God. Through vulnerable storytelling about facing her own part in the harm, you'll discover why this work feels so frightening—and why it's actually the beginning of coming home. This is Healing Pillar #1: Unravel the Trauma—the gentle journey through four powerful milestones that can take you from feeling invisible and not enough to standing completely free. In this episode, you'll discover: → Why gently unraveling what happened isn't rebellion against your faith—it's the path back to God → The four healing milestones that guide you from trauma to freedom → How to move from "I'm invisible" to "My soul is seen through glimpses of grace" → Why your survival patterns weren't character flaws—they were brilliant adaptations → How to separate God from those who misrepresented Him The four milestones you'll explore: • Milestone 1: From "I'm Invisible" → "I'm Seen" (Individual Inspiration) • Milestone 2: From "I'm Not Enough" → "I'm Enough" (True Motivation) • Milestone 3: From "I'm Bad" → "I'm Surviving Wisely" (Awareness) • Milestone 4: From "I'm Not Safe" → "I'm Free" (Standing Free) Action Step: Notice where you might be avoiding looking at something because it feels "too dramatic" to name. What if your sensitivity is actually picking up on something real? Healing Truth: This isn't about throwing away your faith. It's about clearing away everything that's been blocking your view of who God really is and who you really are. 🎧 Ready to go deeper? → Take the free quiz at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com to discover your personalized healing path and get a bonus 3-part audio series → Grab your copy of He Is Enough at HeIsEnoughBook.com — your redemptive memoir and healing guide plus audiobook, mini-course, weekly reading circles, and support community for just $17 → Join the Coming Home Journey at TheComingHomeJourney.com — experience all three healing pillars in a six-month guided journey to unravel the trauma, instill the truth, and create a new story Have questions or want to connect? Email Debra at debra@healingreligioustrauma.org Coming Up Next: Healing Pillar #2 - "Instill the Truth: Why God's Real Voice Sounds Nothing Like Religious Trauma." Learn how to distinguish between God's gentle conviction and the harsh voices of spiritual shame. Listener Love: If this episode helped you realize you're not invisible to God, would you share it with someone who needs this gentle truth? And a quick review on Apple Podcasts helps more women find their way to this healing space. This isn't surface-level faith advice. It's soul-level restoration—designed for Christian women healing from religious trauma who long for inner peace, true connection with God, and the freedom to ask honest questions without fear.
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