Teaching new skills can be hard especially when your child’s having big feelings is affecting you. In this episode we will dig into how to stay grounded and calm in those moments is difficult and requires some skill and practice. Show Notes: Setting Loving Boundaries 00:00 – Introduction Host Lee-Anne Bloom introduces the podcast, her background as an occupational therapist, and the mission of Growing Strong Roots. 00:28 – The Challenge of Parenting Lee-Anne discusses the challenges of raising resilient children and her goal to share science-based strategies and real-life stories. 00:51 – Episode Overview Invitation to "root down together" and help families bloom to their fullest potential. 01:00 – Setting Loving Boundaries: Why It Matters Introduction to the topic of boundaries, why they are uncomfortable, and their importance for both parents and children. 01:55 – The Role of Boundaries in Family Life Boundaries help set up healthy routines (screen time, bedtime, chores, transitions) and encourage self-regulation. 02:19 – Boundaries as Structure and Safety Boundaries provide structure, predictability, and a sense of safety for children, allowing them to explore and build independence. 02:44 – Scaffolding: Meeting Kids Where They Are Explanation of "scaffolding"—supporting children at their current developmental and functional level, and gradually building independence. 03:11 – Daily Life Examples How boundaries and scaffolding apply to daily tasks like cleaning, homework, and getting to school on time. 03:41 – The Observer Effect & Building Independence Observing children as they complete tasks, taking mental notes, and gradually pulling back support. 04:37 – Handling Pushback Understanding why children push back on boundaries, and how this is often a sign of growth, not defiance. 05:03 – When Kids Struggle How to differentiate between a child needing extra support and a child resisting hard work. 06:03 – Parental Self-Regulation The importance of parents managing their own emotions and modeling self-regulation, including the "four by four" breathing technique. 07:39 – Knowing Your Why Reflecting on the values and virtues behind setting boundaries, and the skills you want your child to develop. 08:52 – Breaking Down Overwhelm How to break tasks into smaller, manageable steps when children feel overwhelmed. 09:39 – Boundaries Benefit Parents Too Boundaries protect parents’ energy, model self-care, and strengthen family relationships by reducing conflict. 10:20 – Episode Wrap-Up Final thoughts on combining loving boundaries, scaffolding, and self-regulation to help families grow together. Questions? Comments? Suggestions for future episodes? Want to book me for a parenting or development consultation? Contact us at https://www.oakbloomot.com/contact. Please leave a comment here as well! Thanks for listening. Transcript: Setting loving boundaries [00:00:00] Hello and welcome to Growing Strong Roots, an occupational therapist's perspective on parenting, self-regulation, and resilience. I'm your host, Lee-Anne Bloom, owner and occupational therapist at Oak Bloom OT in Oakland, California. At Oak Bloom, we provide holistic occupational therapy for children focusing on increasing functional life skills through interest-based learning and family involvement. [00:00:27] As a mom and a therapist working with families for many years, I've seen firsthand how overwhelming it can be to raise sturdy children. My goal is to share science-based strategies, real-life stories and resources that can help you nourish those roots so that you and the children in your life can grow stronger, sturdier, and more resilient. [00:00:50] Let's root down together, water those roots so individuals and families can bloom to their fullest potential. [00:00:59] Today I wanna talk about something that comes up for all families, whether you're raising a child who pushes back because of neurological differences, or you're supporting a child going through a big life transition, like starting a new school or entering puberty. [00:01:13] And that topic is setting loving boundaries. Boundaries are uncomfortable both for the person who's setting the boundary and the person experiencing the boundary being set. It's much easier just to do things for our kids rather than teach them the way to do a particular task. [00:01:31] It's also really important for families to give these boundaries to their kids, to help with structure and predictability and manage their emotions and behavior. Boundaries can also create a sense of safety for kids, knowing that their caregivers are in charge, which frees them up to explore and build independence. [00:01:54] Boundaries help set up healthy routines like around screen time, bedtime, chores, and transitions, which can reduce stress in the long run. In the moment though, it might not feel like that. Boundaries encourage self-regulation by teaching kids to ...
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