In this episode, Elle and Vee go deep with Adam Darrow, the author of Seek the Risk: One Man's Journey Into Non-Monogamy. Described as a "firsthand recounting of a wide-open relationship, told with unflinching candor from the male perspective", Elle and Vee were struck by the relatability of Adam's ENM story in Seek the Risk, from the overthinking and jealousy to the adventurous sex and deep connection in his relationship. His firsthand account of how he worked through the challenging emotional moments of his relationship with "the wrong girl" is FULL of nuggets, many of which are mentioned in this deep, candid, vulnerable conversation. Grab a pen and dig in :)

What does Seek the Risk mean? "Experience hunting" rather than "trophy bagging". (2:52)

Applying the Seek the Risk philosophy to CNM (consensual non monogamy). (6:49)

Misalignment and shame: when one partner is the one who is pushing, and one is being pushed. Being mindful and careful about not shaming the “slower” partner. (9:23)

The treasure you seek: when do you know it’s growth vs. self-flagellation? (15:13)

Tool #1: Creating a container to hear stories about your partner’s sexual activities so you aren’t blindsided by them. Asking for consent to share information. (18:30)

Tool #2: Check-ins/debriefs. (23:37)

Being triggered at a sex party and how to work through it. (25:36)

Tool #3: “Take the cigarette break.” aka Not reacting in the moment. Notice your own growth! (31:22)

Tool #4: Self-hypnosis aka “magical reframing”. (36:01)

Tool #5: “Exist in the grey.” Don’t act on emotions when spiraling out: sit with uncomfortable feelings. “Negative outcome fantasy.” (38:50)

Imposter syndrome: how our childhood traumas show up in our adult relationships. (43:37)

IFS: internal family systems and Aspecting (from ISTA). (49:52)

Masculinity: Societal hypocrisies and submissive associations with pegging and anal play. (52:58)

Final Nugget! (1:00:34)

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In this episode, Vee and Elle go deep with Liv Love: sex writer, sex educator and swinger, and new friend from Hedonism Swing Breakers 2025! They focus on bisexuality, labels, performance anxiety, shame, strap on sex ... and a play-by-play of how to go from zero to orgasm. This is a no-holds-barred conversation about questioning your bisexuality, pussy insecurities, and so much more!

Lack of confidence eating going down on women. (00:49)

Liv’s story. (5:35)

Bisexuality: when do you know you’re bi? (10:05)

Performance Anxiety when you’re new to going down on a woman. (12:42)

Labels: Hetero-Romantic, Bi-Sexual, etc. (18:14)

How our upbringing affects our comfort with being bisexual. (21:20)

Kinsey scale: where do the girls feel they fall on it? Female vs. male energy. (27:10)

Projections of our pussy insecurities: smell, taste, what it looks like, etc. (34:27)

Taste/smell and how the pussy changes over the orgasm cycle. (41:00)

How to eat pussy: encouraging full body orgasms, waiting until the vulva is ready to receive oral, and bringing the pussy from dry to orgasm. (44:26)

How to have and give multiple orgasms. (52:52)

Poll results: women are insecure about their woman on woman skills. (57:08)

Tip to build confidence: go down on someone who’s already orgasmed, who’s an easy cummer, and do fears/desires/boundaries. (58:41)

Above the waist bisexual: is it okay to just not go down on women? (1:03:10)

Strap on sex! (1:05:56)

Hang ups around our own vulvas affecting our desire to go down on others. (1:08:56)

Final Nugget! (1:10:26)

Liv Love is a sex writer, sex educator and swinger. She teaches workshops as a sex expert on the Temptations cruises and writes about the lifestyle, sex and porn on her blog Honeyahh.com.

Links:

Website: Honey Ahh

Instagram: @livlove_inc

Blog Post referenced: Help! Eating Pussy for the First Time

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In this episode, Vee and Elle dive into Elle's Hedonism Swing Breakers 2025 experience, sharing spicy stories, communication hiccups, and the evolution of their desires in the lifestyle. They explore boundaries, consent, group play dynamics, and the rediscovery of feminine energy — all while navigating connection, frustration, and the value of both solo and shared intimacy.

Introduction to Hedonism Swing Breakers 2025 (00:00)

Fear Desires Boundaries & Intentions for the Trip (04:24)

New Connection and Playroom Experience (14:38)

Audio note replay and New Nipple Experience (21:13)

Oops! I Wanna Cum Soon Micommunication & Guilt (27:01)

Turning Down The Sex Suggestion From Your Parter (31:19)

Oops Again! A Missed Check-In and A Confusing Mixed Signal (33:00)

The Shift in Sexual Preferences From Lots of People to Less (44:00)

Elle Practicing Her Taking with Nikki -- Wheel of Consent (46:13)

Orgasm Tower, Spanking, Bruises and Expectation of Cumming (63:25)

The Difference Between Giving and Taking (01:00:17)

Threesome in the Wrong Room (01:02:17)

Top Floor: Attending Sex Parties Solo Vs With Friends/Partners (01:04:48)

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This week the girls go deep with Leola Watkins, Pleasure Priestess and the best-selling author of Sacred Sex Ed. Answering listeners' questions, they dig into a number of concepts under the tantric umbrella from shadow work and Golden Shadows, to sex magic and creating through orgasm, to yoni and lingum gazing. They also cover how all of this applies to men, when often tantric conversations can feel very feminine-energy-focused, AND how we can apply living tantrically to everyday life! This is a conversation for people who are new to the concepts of tantra, as well as people who have done 15 retreats. Get ready to get turned on by life!

Leola's story. Tantra and overcoming sexual shame. (3:51)

How to apply tantra to the real world: how can I be librated and expansive in this work environment and my home environment? (8:27)

What it means to be a Pleasure Priestess. (13:29)

What is shadow, and shadow work? Analyzing an old trigger of male-male play. (18:37)

What does sexual liberation mean when it comes to shadow work? (26:28)

Analyzing one of Vee’s triggers: Sex without condoms. (28:27)

Golden Shadow, and Elle’s integrated shadow. (33:28)

What’s in it for men? (38:07)

Eye Gazing: Tantra 101. What’s the point of this exercise? (42:36)

Vulnerability: “the cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” (46:19)

Sex magic: what is it? Manifesting through orgasm. (48:00)

Making your life juicier: the tantric principle that every moment is sacred. (53:25)

How to stay grounded at Hedonism Swing Breakers. (58:07)

Leola’s offerings and the final nugget: yoni and lingum gazing with your partner! (1:02:20)

Connect with Leola:

Website: talktantratome.com

Instagram: @talktantratome

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This week, the girls go deep on an often (in their experience) overlooked and underused play option: fingering! Pulling from listener polls, friends, research and their own experience, Elle and Vee share all the juicy details of every aspect of fingering that they could come up with. Did they miss anything?

Fingering: yay or nay?

Foreplay: Stimulating around the hole before insertion.

How many fingers at first?

Self-pleasure: Do you use fingers during masturbation?

The Technique: in and out vs in and using the come hither fingers?

Which fingers? Spiderman technique or pointer and middle?

Fingers as the main event vs as foreplay, and formative sexual experiences with fingering.

Squirting: the technique, and what makes it pleasurable.

Using fingering to orgasm after penetration.

Looking at potential partners’ fingers and nails. Using gloves, and lube with gloves.

Fingering an asshole: during doggy style, and prostate play.

Fingering poll results and final nuggets!

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What Is ISTA SSSex Level 1 Retreat? (00:00)

The Intensity of Emotional Processing. (07:25)

The Importance of Slowing Down. (13:38)

Elle’s Reasons for Going to ISTA. (21:07)

Masculine and Feminine. (27:00)

No Expectation of Tantra and Sexuality as a Sacred Experience. (28:55)

People Pleasing vs Listening to Your Body's Signals. (33:44)

Shadow Work: Elle’s Revelations Around Social Anxiety. (37:00)

Triggers as Gifts: Feminine Connection. (40:08)

How Elle will take her takeaways into her relationship with Her Partner Going Forward. (48:47)

Embodied Practices: Dancing into Femininity. (52:03)

Working through Feeling Disconnected at a Play Party. (55:00)

Tantric Latihan. (1:00:54)

Final nugget. (1:17:46)

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This week, the girls chat with Marz, who is the copilot of Top Floor, a curated members-only community for those embracing alternative relationship dynamics, kink, and sex-positive exploration. They give all the top tips from the Cunnilinguistics workshop Marz facilitated in which Vee was the demo model for cunnilingus, despite her aversion to exhibitionism!

What is cunnilinguistics? (3:14)

Normalizing Different Vulvas: Vee works on her pussy insecurities. (6:20)

What to expect from a Friday night at Top Floor as part of their Signature Weekend. (13:25)

Doing it Scared: Going Deep on Vee’s “immersion therapy” to get comfortable with her pussy and exhibitionism. (18:12)

What are some pointers for honing in and receiving in a play party environment? (22:03)

Rimming: licking the vagina hole. Communicating what you do and don’t like. (25:44)

The scientific reason to embrace receiving. (29:49)

Tips for getting out of your head while receiving. (35:09)

Communication tips while receiving at a play party. (40:30)

Pro tips: communication and safety. (43:32)

Pussy licking tips: give them an "oral flight"! Tongue techniques and rhythm. (51:31)

Fingering while performing oral: how many fingers, and nail hygiene (length and cleanliness). (54:59)

Safety: using gloves to finger and condoms during head? (57:42)

Top Floor highlights and naughty stories! (59:48)

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Navigating the Lifestyle: Starting out as a Manicorn (00:00)

Hot Wifing vs. Cuckolding (4:54)

The Role of the Third: Enhancing Couples' Experiences & Feelings of Loneliness (6:44)

Lessons Learned: Mistakes as a Single Guy (10:32)

Transitioning to a Couple: Finding Balance in the Lifestyle (15:35)

Is it easier to make connections with a hot chick on your arm now? (17:57 )

Age is just a number! Cougar’s and Silver Foxes Who Know What They Want (22:13)

Boundaries: Sleep Overs and Romantic Dating (23:05)

Gangbang Group Operation Detailed and Casual Encounters on Craigslist(29:59)

Gang Bang Psychology: Why Participate(40:00)

Being Selective with Cream Pies and More (42:47)

Navigating Swinger Events as a Couple (45:49 )

Tips for Single Guys in Swinging (49:34)

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