This Week, Elle and Vee chat with Leandra Petroff, Somatica-certified sexologist and sex & intimacy coach, and pick her brain about everything from narcissism in relationships, the perspective of a switch, and building real intimacy in modern relationships. They break down what “somatic” actually means and how to radically deepen connection. From the psychology of dominance and submission to core desires, hottest sexual movies, and spotting narcissism in ENM and polyamory, this episode is packed with sex education and relationship insight.

Somatic Work vs. Talk Therapy: overcoming religious guilt to become a sex educator, and What the hell does "somatic" mean? (1:30)

What is intimacy and how can people start feeling intimacy, getting out of their heads and into their bodies? (6:32)

Appreciation Game: showing appreciation for your partner to create love and intimacy in your partnership. (9:19)

What's more intimate: Eye Contact or Pegging? (12:09)

Eye Contact While Fucking? Going through the 3 dimensions of sex. (14:06)

“Hottest Sexual Movie”: What’s a Hottest Sexual Movie, What’s a Core Desire, and how do they feed into your hottest fantasies? (20:07)

The Switch Perspective: WHY you might like to explore both dominance and submission. (23:08)

Figuring out your Core Desires: What do you want to feel when you have sex? (26:59)

Bottoming vs Being Submissive. (30:39)

Narcissism: how narcissists can be manipulative in ENM relationships. The five different types of narcissism. (34:18)

How do you know you're dating a narcissist? (40:40)

What to do after dating a narcissist. (46:33)

Red Flags to Look Out For. (47:52)

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Fisting isn’t about going hard — it’s about going slowly, intentionally, and deeply connected.

In this episode Elle and Vee sit down with Jamie Joy and Riley Ocean to take the shame, fear, and mystery out of fisting and talk about what actually makes it powerful, pleasurable, and safe. Together, they explore anal and vaginal prep, communication, pacing, and aftercare, breaking down what it really takes to explore deep penetration — emotionally, mentally, and physically.

Fisting: first fisting experiences and why we love it! (00:41)

Leaving something to look forward to: anal, DP, double fisting in one hole. (10:29)

What’s so great about fisting? Elle has a great fisting experience post-pregnancy. (12:02)

Fisting Prep: What to do beforehand, for the front and the back holes. (20:44)

Lube: The best fisting lubes, the “lube test”, and what to do before fisting. (28:11)

Anal Fisting Prep: stretches for tops and bottoms, and turning the bottom on (bonus points if they orgasm first!). (35:21)

Inserting the Fist: three methods of insertion: corkscrew, short pumps, and sustained pressure. (38:14)

Pain vs. Discomfort: it's ok to stop. (43:52)

As the top: how do you read the bottom and know when to push; how do you know when to back off? (49:38)

Techniques for opening as the bottom: bearing down, and clenching and releasing. (53:33)

Fist or “duck” hand formations: pros and cons. (55:06)

Hand Techniques for maximum pleasure! (56:37)

Double Fisting Orgasm: whatd does it feel like to have two fists in you and a wand on you? (1:01:57)

Removing the Fist: slow, and with the breath. (1:05:29)

Aftercare: what to do for the bottom and the top afterwards. (1:11:30)

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In this episode, Vee and Elle answer listener questions from the @girlsgonedeeppod instagram.

Chapters

How Do You Find a Unicorn or a 3rd? (See Episode 81 for more tips) (00:00)

What Was Your First Girl on Girl Experience? Was It a Friend or Random?

What’s the Largest Orgy You’ve Been In? Defining Two Types of Orgies. (31:00)

Condoms in Mouths and Ureaplasma.(37:06)

What Do You Do To Make Your ENM Partnership Work? (43:45)

Why Do This Lifestyle And How You Know It's For You? (01:01:57)

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