In this episode, Elle and Vee go deep with Adam Darrow, the author of Seek the Risk: One Man's Journey Into Non-Monogamy. Described as a "firsthand recounting of a wide-open relationship, told with unflinching candor from the male perspective", Elle and Vee were struck by the relatability of Adam's ENM story in Seek the Risk, from the overthinking and jealousy to the adventurous sex and deep connection in his relationship. His firsthand account of how he worked through the challenging emotional moments of his relationship with "the wrong girl" is FULL of nuggets, many of which are mentioned in this deep, candid, vulnerable conversation. Grab a pen and dig in :)

What does Seek the Risk mean? "Experience hunting" rather than "trophy bagging". (2:52)

Applying the Seek the Risk philosophy to CNM (consensual non monogamy). (6:49)

Misalignment and shame: when one partner is the one who is pushing, and one is being pushed. Being mindful and careful about not shaming the “slower” partner. (9:23)

The treasure you seek: when do you know it’s growth vs. self-flagellation? (15:13)

Tool #1: Creating a container to hear stories about your partner’s sexual activities so you aren’t blindsided by them. Asking for consent to share information. (18:30)

Tool #2: Check-ins/debriefs. (23:37)

Being triggered at a sex party and how to work through it. (25:36)

Tool #3: “Take the cigarette break.” aka Not reacting in the moment. Notice your own growth! (31:22)

Tool #4: Self-hypnosis aka “magical reframing”. (36:01)

Tool #5: “Exist in the grey.” Don’t act on emotions when spiraling out: sit with uncomfortable feelings. “Negative outcome fantasy.” (38:50)

Imposter syndrome: how our childhood traumas show up in our adult relationships. (43:37)

IFS: internal family systems and Aspecting (from ISTA). (49:52)

Masculinity: Societal hypocrisies and submissive associations with pegging and anal play. (52:58)

Final Nugget! (1:00:34)

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In this episode, Vee and Elle go deep with Liv Love: sex writer, sex educator and swinger, and new friend from Hedonism Swing Breakers 2025! They focus on bisexuality, labels, performance anxiety, shame, strap on sex ... and a play-by-play of how to go from zero to orgasm. This is a no-holds-barred conversation about questioning your bisexuality, pussy insecurities, and so much more!

Lack of confidence eating going down on women. (00:49)

Liv’s story. (5:35)

Bisexuality: when do you know you’re bi? (10:05)

Performance Anxiety when you’re new to going down on a woman. (12:42)

Labels: Hetero-Romantic, Bi-Sexual, etc. (18:14)

How our upbringing affects our comfort with being bisexual. (21:20)

Kinsey scale: where do the girls feel they fall on it? Female vs. male energy. (27:10)

Projections of our pussy insecurities: smell, taste, what it looks like, etc. (34:27)

Taste/smell and how the pussy changes over the orgasm cycle. (41:00)

How to eat pussy: encouraging full body orgasms, waiting until the vulva is ready to receive oral, and bringing the pussy from dry to orgasm. (44:26)

How to have and give multiple orgasms. (52:52)

Poll results: women are insecure about their woman on woman skills. (57:08)

Tip to build confidence: go down on someone who’s already orgasmed, who’s an easy cummer, and do fears/desires/boundaries. (58:41)

Above the waist bisexual: is it okay to just not go down on women? (1:03:10)

Strap on sex! (1:05:56)

Hang ups around our own vulvas affecting our desire to go down on others. (1:08:56)

Final Nugget! (1:10:26)

Liv Love is a sex writer, sex educator and swinger. She teaches workshops as a sex expert on the Temptations cruises and writes about the lifestyle, sex and porn on her blog Honeyahh.com.

Links:

Website: Honey Ahh

Instagram: @livlove_inc

Blog Post referenced: Help! Eating Pussy for the First Time

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In this episode, Vee and Elle dive into Elle's Hedonism Swing Breakers 2025 experience, sharing spicy stories, communication hiccups, and the evolution of their desires in the lifestyle. They explore boundaries, consent, group play dynamics, and the rediscovery of feminine energy — all while navigating connection, frustration, and the value of both solo and shared intimacy.

Introduction to Hedonism Swing Breakers 2025 (00:00)

Fear Desires Boundaries & Intentions for the Trip (04:24)

New Connection and Playroom Experience (14:38)

Audio note replay and New Nipple Experience (21:13)

Oops! I Wanna Cum Soon Micommunication & Guilt (27:01)

Turning Down The Sex Suggestion From Your Parter (31:19)

Oops Again! A Missed Check-In and A Confusing Mixed Signal (33:00)

The Shift in Sexual Preferences From Lots of People to Less (44:00)

Elle Practicing Her Taking with Nikki -- Wheel of Consent (46:13)

Orgasm Tower, Spanking, Bruises and Expectation of Cumming (63:25)

The Difference Between Giving and Taking (01:00:17)

Threesome in the Wrong Room (01:02:17)

Top Floor: Attending Sex Parties Solo Vs With Friends/Partners (01:04:48)

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