Stacie and Eden explore the intricate balance between feeling grateful and experiencing other, seemingly contradictory emotions. Eden shares her personal journey of balancing motherhood with a newborn and a two-year-old, expressing her challenges with exhaustion and guilt. Stacie and Eden emphasize the importance of acknowledging and processing all emotions without judgment, and discuss societal pressures that often hinder this process. They advocate for intentionality in thoughts and actions, likening it to a pilot adjusting coordinates. The episode encourages listeners to embrace their emotions, practice mindfulness, and the importance to create supportive communities for holistic conversations.

What is Discussed:

Gratitude and Tension (00:00:00)Exploring the tension between feeling grateful and having other conflicting emotions, using personal experiences as examples.

New Motherhood Challenges (00:02:12)Discussing the challenges and conflicting emotions of being a new mother while feeling grateful for the blessings.

Acknowledging Negative Feelings (00:05:48)Encouraging the acknowledgment of negative feelings and the importance of giving oneself permission to feel them.

The Impact of "Shoulding" (00:08:00)Discussing the negative impact of societal and external pressures on one's ability to listen to their own instincts and make choices.

Permission to Feel (00:10:54)Exploring the idea of giving oneself permission to feel conflicting emotions and the importance of recognizing and addressing them.

Reframing and Acknowledging Emotions (00:13:00)Highlighting the significance of acknowledging emotions as a prerequisite for reframing and reorienting one's perspective.

Creating a Space for Conversations (00:16:11)Emphasizing the need for a community and space for holistic conversations about the challenges and responsibilities that affect women's lives.

Gratitude and tiredness (00:17:18)Discussion about feeling tired and struggling to feel genuinely grateful.

Therapy and emotions (00:18:08)The benefits of therapy in recognizing and processing emotions without judgment.

Imagination and reframing (00:20:53Exploring the impact of imagination on emotions and the importance of reframing negative thoughts.

Self-regulation and gratitude (00:22:10)Learning to self-regulate emotions and focusing on personal control for gratitude.

Being present and content (00:25:27)The challenge of being present and finding contentment in the present moment.

Practicing presence (00:33:22)The importance of practicing presence and overcoming default thinking about the past or the future.

The importance of intentional thinking (00:34:05)The speakers discuss the importance of being intentional with thoughts and decisions to avoid drifting off course.

The power of intention (00:34:55)The conversation emphasizes the need to be intentional in daily life, with a focus on making new choices and thoughts.

Acknowledging and reframing feelings (00:37:23)The discussion centers around acknowledging one's true feelings and reframing them to create space for gratitude.

The impact of intention on life's course (00:41:25)The analogy of a pilot intentionally changing coordinates is used to illustrate how small shifts in intention can significantly impact life's trajectory.

Coping mechanisms and delaying personal work (00:44:08)The speakers discuss the tendency to delay personal growth and the importance of acknowledging one's coping mechanisms.

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Stacie and Eden delve into the profound and often perplexing question: "Am I Ready?" This episode is a heartfelt exploration of readiness, uncertainty, and the unexpected challenges that life throws our way. Stacie and Eden share personal anecdotes and insights, offering listeners a relatable and inspiring perspective on navigating significant life events. Whether you're contemplating marriage, moving in with a partner, or facing unforeseen obstacles, this episode provides valuable guidance on embracing uncertainty and building resilience.

What is Discussed:

The beginning (00:00:00)Introduction to the podcast and the episode's format.

Defining "Am I Ready?" (00:01:13)Discussion about the concept of being ready and its relation to imposter syndrome.

Personal experiences with readiness (00:04:14)Sharing personal experiences related to feeling ready or unprepared for significant life events, including motherhood and marriage.

Unexpected challenges (00:09:21)Discussion about unexpected challenges when moving in together and dealing with illness.

Adapting to unexpected changes (00:11:31)Adapting to unexpected changes in a relationship due to illness and the impact on daily life.

Reflection on navigating unexpected challenges (00:14:22)Reflection on navigating unexpected challenges and the need to pivot in response to unforeseen circumstances.

Choosing Hard Now (00:19:25)Discussion on the importance of choosing hard now for a better future and the concept of agency in making tough decisions.

Am I Ready? (00:21:33)Exploration of the tension between feeling ready or unready for significant life events, and the impact of delaying decisions.

Moving to New York (00:24:28)Personal story of making the decision to move to New York despite feeling unready, and the realization of being able to handle hard things.

Do It Anyway (00:29:57)Emphasis on the importance of doing things anyway, regardless of feeling ready or not, and the value of gaining evidence that you can handle tough situations.

Choosing Your Hard (00:32:17)Discussion on choosing to face challenges now to avoid greater difficulties later in life.

Being Ready and Growing Into the Future Version of Yourself (00:33:34)Exploration of the idea that the future version of oneself is ready and waiting, and that growth occurs during the process.

The Right Question: When, Not If (00:34:19)Emphasizing the importance of taking action now, regardless of feeling ready, and the need to focus on the present.

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Stacie and Eden discuss the discomfort of personal growth and the challenges of outgrowing spaces, people, and relationships. Stacie shares her experiences of constant discomfort and compares growth to exercising a muscle, while Eden reflects on her journey of navigating new ventures and overcoming self-doubt. They discuss the importance of investing in oneself, managing evolving relationships with love and honor, and prioritizing authenticity. The episode inspires listeners to embrace discomfort as a natural part of growth and to stay true to their personal aspirations.

What is Discussed:

The discomfort of growth (00:00:29) Discussion about the voluntary, painful process of personal growth and the willingness to embrace discomfort.

Accelerated growth (00:02:04) Comparing personal growth to exercising a muscle, and the experience of moving through discomfort more quickly to see results.

Packing growth into a tight period (00:03:34) Discussion about the experience of packing multiple life changes into a short period and the resulting accelerated growth.

Outgrowing rooms, people, places, things (00:08:00) The discomfort and realization of outgrowing current peer groups, spaces, and networks, and the need to seek new environments for growth.

Investing in personal growth (00:11:42) The realization that personal growth may require financial investment, and the discussion about the necessity of paying to move to the next level.

Managing relationships during growth (00:16:23) Dealing with discomfort and guilt when feeling the need to decrease communication with loved ones to make room for personal growth and execution.

Growing Pains (00:18:04) Discussion about the natural progression of limited time and evolving relationships.

Seasonal Relationships (00:20:31) Analogies of childhood friendships and the shifting depth of relationships as responsibilities evolve.

Prioritizing Relationships (00:21:41) The importance of prioritizing relationships in different life stages and responsibilities.

Uncomfortable Growth (00:24:48) Encouragement to embrace discomfort and guilt associated with personal growth and shifting relationships.

Self-Expansion (00:25:43) Embracing personal growth and evolving identities without clinging to past versions of oneself.

Trusting Intuition (00:29:47) Encouragement to trust personal intuition and not seek consensus before sharing thoughts and experiences.

Embracing Personal Dreams (00:33:06) Realization of living someone else's dream and the importance of being the star of one's own dream.

Praying for Purpose (00:34:37) Discussion about seeking purpose and the shift in perspective when asking for guidance.

Embracing Uncomfortable Growth (00:35:33) The discomfort and challenges of personal growth, including the pivotal role of external encouragement and internal resistance.

Making Bold Changes (00:37:24) Decisive actions leading to significant life changes, including ending relationships, quitting a job, and moving to a new city.

Following Dreams in New York (00:39:25) The realization of a dream to live in New York City and the decision to pursue personal desires despite past constraints.

Embracing Discomfort for Growth (00:42:15) Differentiating between discomfort from growth and discomfort from staying in an unsuitable situation, emphasizing the importance of growth discomfort.

Encouraging Transformation (00:43:17) Acknowledging the refining process of discomfort in growth and the significance of answering prayers through growth...

Stacie and Eden explore the profound question: "Are you driven or dragged by the things in your life?" They share their personal experiences and the transformative journey of identifying elements that either weigh them down or propel them forward. Stacie discusses the liberating feeling of adding more “driven” aspects to her life, defining her success by the joy these elements bring. Eden reflects on giving herself permission to release the “drags” and focus on her passions, like coaching and this podcast. Together, they encourage listeners to embrace support, let go of guilt, and pursue a life aligned with their true passions, ultimately leading from a place of doubt to a destiny filled with fulfillment and success.

What is Discussed:

Driven or Dragged (00:00:24) Discussion on the concept of feeling driven or dragged by different aspects of life.

Defining Drags and Driven (00:02:27) Stacie explains the feelings associated with being dragged or driven in various activities.

Analyzing Drags and Drivens (00:04:43) Exploring the impact of feeling dragged or driven on overall well-being and the possibility of balancing them.

Self-Assessment of Drags (00:06:22) Eden shares personal reflections on focusing more on the driven and realizing the need to assess and release drags.

Seeking Help and Releasing Drags (00:08:35) The importance of seeking help and releasing tasks that feel like drags, leading to a discussion on reframing procrastination.

Releasing Drags for Creativity (00:14:40) Eden’s experience of releasing drags to free up time and energy for more creative pursuits.

Permission to Define Roles (00:16:53) Encouragement to define roles and responsibilities based on personal desires rather than societal expectations.

Adding More Who's (00:16:58) Discussion about adding more people into life and the impact of resources on adding support. (Reference: “Who Not How” by Dan Sullivan & Dr. Benjamin Hardy)

Unlocking Resources (00:17:23) Exploring the resources in life and the importance of opening up to receive help and support.

Permission to Seek Help (00:18:52) The significance of seeking help and support in various aspects of life, such as parenting and personal growth.

Finding Purpose (00:19:42) The impact of seeking help and support on personal growth and finding purpose in life.

Defining Success (00:26:40) Defining success as minimizing tasks that are not enjoyable and focusing on things that bring joy and purpose.

Reframing Life (00:27:17) Reflecting on the balance of tasks that drive and drag, and the importance of redefining success and incorporating joy into life.

Doubt to Destiny Developmental Path (00:32:47) Personal journey of self-discovery and finding purpose beyond traditional roles of wife and mother.

The Discovery Process (00:33:32) Exploring new interests and passions, leading to self-discovery and redefining life goals.

The Discernment process (00:34:31) Evaluating personal desires and aspirations, leading to a shift in career and entrepreneurial pursuits.

Daring to Dream (00:35:23) Acknowledging inner aspirations and overcoming self-doubt to pursue life coaching and personal development.

The Journey as the Destination (00:38:22) Embracing the process of doing and realizing that the journey itself is the destination, leading to present-moment appreciation.

Reflecting on the Doubt to Destiny Development Path (00:42:02) Recognizing pivotal moments and choices that led to personal and professional growth,...

Stacie and Eden dive into the nuances of finding one's passion and purpose. They share personal anecdotes, with Stacie discussing the clarity she's found in her purpose and the joy of her current assignment, while Eden empathizes with listeners who may feel lost, drawing from her own decade-long journey of self-discovery. They explore the societal pressures around career choices and the value of trying new things. The conversation also touches on recognizing and embracing one's spiritual gifts, the importance of supportive feedback, and the beauty of personal growth. Stacie and Eden's heartfelt dialogue encourages listeners to enjoy the journey of self-discovery and to trust that everything will fall into place with time.

What is Discussed:

Welcome to From Doubt to Destiny (00:00:00) Introduction to the podcast and its hosts, Stacie Trott and Eden Rider.

Passion and Purpose (00:00:24) Discussion on the clarity of purpose and leaning into passion, with examples of aligning assignments with purpose.

Struggling with Purpose (00:05:46) Eden's journey of feeling lost and struggling to find purpose, empathizing with others in similar situations.

Questioning Purpose (00:11:44) Exploration of the universal question of purpose and the vulnerability of not knowing one's true calling.

Self-Discovery and Exploration (00:15:14) Eden's self-discovery journey, trying various activities to find her passion and purpose, and the impact of lack of exposure.

Seeking Purpose (00:16:03) Efforts to find passion and purpose through quizzes, course tests, and trying different activities.

Self-discovery and spiritual gifts (00:16:40) Discovering spiritual gifts through self-assessment and discussions with trusted individuals.

Receiving feedback and outside perspectives (00:17:52) The impact of feedback from others and the importance of outside perspectives in recognizing one's gifts.

Impact of words and embracing one's gift (00:23:40) Realizing the impact of one's words on others and accepting and embracing one's gift without overthinking.

Comparison and embracing the journey (00:25:56) Avoiding comparison, embracing the journey, and finding joy in the process of self-discovery and growth.

Life Stages (00:32:18) Discussion on life stages, learning, earning potential, and serving others.

Living in the Present (00:33:13) Understanding depression, anxiety, and peace in relation to living in the past, future, and present.

Anxiety and Grace (00:34:26) Exploring the concept of time jumping, anxiety, and the grace needed to handle future events.

Finding Peace in the Present (00:35:19) The importance of staying present and finding peace amidst life's challenges.

FDTD Developmental Path (00:36:19) Discussion on the "From Doubt to Destiny" Developmental Path - doubt, discovery, discernment, decision-making, dreaming, doing, and fulfilling destinies.

Vision Board Night (00:37:12) Encouragement to dream and define oneself, and the value of community support in identifying strengths.

Purpose and Discovery (00:39:08) Encouragement to continue the discovery journey and trust in the timing of understanding one's purpose.

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• The things I admire about "Insert Name" are...

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In this episode, Stacie and Eden are flipping the script. Eden is interviewing Stacie about her incredible marriage journey. Imagine being married twice…to the same person! Stacie shares her story of marrying George twice, reflecting on their nine-year dating period, their challenges, and the personal growth that ensued. The conversation delves into themes of self-awareness, the impact of peer groups, and the importance of prioritizing personal goals. Stacie’s candid reflections offer valuable insights into navigating relationships and the transformative power of embracing one's journey. Stay tuned for part two, where Eden and Stacie will continue to explore the intricacies of Stacie’s experiences, offering more insights and encouragement for those navigating their own challenges in love and life.

What is Discussed:

Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)Eden and Stacie introduce the podcast and share their excitement for the episode.

Switching Roles (00:00:17)Eden explains the role reversal for the episode, focusing on Stacie's marriage story.

FDTD Special Guest (00:02:28)Eden mentions her one-month-old son, Bomani, present during the recording.

Meeting George (00:03:32)Stacie recounts the unique circumstances of meeting her husband, George, multiple times.

Signs of Destiny (00:06:11)Stacie reflects on the concept of destiny and signs regarding her relationship with George.

First Marriage Timeline (00:09:00)Stacie shares that she dated George for nine years before getting married.

Growing Together (00:10:42)Stacie discusses how she and George pursued their education and careers concurrently.

Peer Influence on Relationships (00:14:35)Stacie notes the impact of her peer group on her perspective about marriage and relationships.

Influence of Peer Groups (00:16:46)Discussion on how peer groups impact children's development and life choices.

Personal Focus in New York (00:18:33)Eden shares how living in New York City fosters personal and career growth.

First Significant Relationship (00:19:04)Stacie reflects on her first meaningful relationship and the importance of shared values.

Long-Term Relationship Mindset (00:20:38)Stacie explains her approach to dating with a focus on long-term compatibility.

Breakup and Healing (00:22:06)Stacie describes the difficult breakup and her decision to cut off communication.

Reconnecting After Breakup (00:23:49)The couple reconnects after a friend's death, leading to therapy and healing.

Marriage Timeline (00:25:41)Stacie discusses the transition from dating to marriage after years of relationship.

Traditional Wedding Experience (00:26:50)Stacie shares details about their grand wedding in New York City.

Post-Wedding Reality (00:27:42)Stacie describes the challenges faced immediately after their wedding.

Isolation and Struggles (00:29:22)Stacie expresses feelings of isolation and confusion about her marriage.

Community Support (00:30:48)Discussion on the importance of community support during difficult times.

Loss of Control (00:32:28)Stacie reflects on feeling a loss of control in her life and marriage dynamics.

Understanding Control in Marriage (00:33:09)Discussion on the feeling of losing control when entering marriage and its implications.

Frustration and Lack of Solutions (00:34:55)Exploration of initial frustrations and the struggle to find solutions in a challenging marriage.

The Breaking Process (00:35:06)Insight into the transformative...

Stacie and Eden delve into the pervasive issue of burnout, sharing intimate experiences and the profound effects it has on both physical and mental health. They candidly discuss the pressures of modern life, the importance of self-care, and the transformative power of therapy and community support. With vulnerability and wisdom, they explore the necessity of being fully present in life, avoiding the pitfalls of merely going through the motions. This conversation serves as a powerful reminder to prioritize well-being, seek support, and celebrate life's small victories on the journey to empowerment and self-discovery.

What is Discussed:

Introduction to Burnout (00:00:05) Stacie introduces the topic of burnout and outlines the format for discussing it.

Personal Experiences with Burnout (00:01:23) Stacie and Eden share their personal experiences with burnout, discussing work-related stress and the impact of pregnancy.

External and Internal Pressures (00:03:26) The discussion explores the combination of external work demands and internal pressure, leading to burnout. The concept of being an overachiever is also discussed.

Impact of Technology on Burnout (00:05:43) The impact of technology on increasing stress and the constant accessibility leading to burnout is discussed.

Strategies for Managing Burnout (00:07:37) The conversation shifts to strategies for managing burnout, including meditation and the need for intentional stillness.

Recognizing Burnout (00:09:38) The co-hosts discuss the need to recognize burnout beyond extreme examples and create awareness of its various manifestations.

Professional and Personal Burnout Experience (00:11:36) Stacie shares a personal experience of extreme work pressure and burnout during a vacation, highlighting the struggle to disengage.

Impact of Burnout on Pregnancy (00:13:34) Eden shares her experience of early labor due to burnout and the importance of recognizing and addressing stress during pregnancy.

Managing Stress in Pregnancy (00:15:14) Eden discusses her current pregnancy and managing stress to prevent early labor.

The impact of burnout on physical and mental well-being (00:15:36) Discussion on the impact of burnout and the importance of recognizing burnout symptoms.

The normalization of stress and burnout (00:16:08) Exploration of how stress and burnout have become normalized in society, and the need to challenge this normalization.

The body's awareness and response to burnout (00:17:06) Insight into the body's awareness of burnout and its role in guiding individuals to a safe environment.

Recognizing and addressing burnout symptoms (00:19:09) Discussion on recognizing personal experiences of burnout and strategies for transforming one's relationship with oneself.

Coping mechanisms and guilt associated with burnout (00:20:30) Exploration of coping mechanisms such as numbing behaviors and the associated feelings of guilt.

Permission for self-care and healthy coping strategies (00:23:33) Emphasis on granting oneself permission for self-care and the adoption of healthy coping strategies to combat burnout.

The transformative power of therapy (00:25:47) Reflection on the transformative impact of therapy in enhancing self-care practices and addressing burnout.

Seeking support and transparent conversations (00:29:05) Encouragement to seek support through therapy and transparent conversations with friends to address burnout symptoms and experiences.

Transparency and Support (00:30:58) Encouraging openness and seeking support from loved ones to combat...

Stacie and Eden delve into the complex world of identity and labels. Today, they peel back the layers of societal labels that often define us more by expectation than by essence. Stacie opens up about her discomfort with being pigeonholed by her profession and shares her aspiration to be recognized first as a woman of faith, while Eden discusses the often underestimated and judged role of a stay-at-home mom. They explore how labels can equally empower and constrain us, discussing the dynamics of personal identity in a capitalist society, the pressure of checking boxes during life changes like divorce, and the need to find moments of stillness to discover who we are beneath these labels. Together, they reflect on the transformative potential of redefining ourselves on our own terms and invite listeners to join in by crafting personal greetings that affirm their destinies. Stay tuned - this is an episode you won't want to miss!

What is Discussed:

Introduction (00:00:00) Stacie and Eden introduce the podcast and its purpose.

Personal Experiences with Labels (00:01:19) Stacie shares her discomfort with being defined solely by her occupation.

Challenges of Identifying as a Stay-at-Home Mom (00:04:02) Eden discusses the judgment and internal conflict associated with identifying as a stay-at-home mom.

Struggles with Labels in Personal Life (00:06:41) Stacie shares her struggle with labels during a period of separation and divorce.

Empowerment through Self-Definition (00:09:55) Stacie and Eden discuss the idea of empowering self-definition and reframing the use of labels.

Reframing Labels for Empowerment (00:10:47) Eden shares her perspective on using labels in an empowering way and giving herself permission to define her identity.

Embracing "Enoughness" (00:12:39) Stacie and Eden discuss the concept of "enoughness" and reframing self-evaluation based on labels.

Using Labels for Empowerment and Connection (00:13:56) Eden discusses the impact of labels on self-perception and connection with others.

Challenging the Norm of "What Do You Do?" (00:15:14) Stacie and Eden express their desire to challenge the societal norm of defining individuals by their occupations.

Ending Networking Events without Occupation Questions (00:16:40) Stacie and Eden advocate for starting a movement to shift the focus away from asking about occupations at networking events.

The Makeup Artist's Approach (00:17:07) The importance of not leading with job titles and how it can impact interactions positively.

Discovering One's Identity (00:17:32) Anecdote of a speaker's experience at an event, emphasizing the significance of defining one's identity beyond job titles.

Defining One's Superpower (00:18:33) The concept of identifying one's superpower and its impact on self-definition and interactions.

Transformative Relationship with Labels (00:20:24) Embracing positive relationships with labels and identities and disassociating from them when necessary.

Shifting Into a Positive Outlook (00:21:25) Changing perspectives from self-evaluation to focusing on wins and positives.

Empowerment Through an Oríkì (00:24:16) Introduction to the concept of an oríkì for self-praise and empowerment. (Luvvie Jones, Professional Toublemaker)

Gratitude and Stillness (00:27:26) The power of gratitude and the significance of stillness in shedding labels and finding clarity.

Being and Becoming (00:31:47) The importance of understanding one's core identity and aligning it with aspirations and actions.

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