In Part 2 of my chat with hair artist and author Vicki Lord, we dive even deeper, into dating, ADHD, self-pleasure, and what truly makes a woman good in bed.

We talk about her new book "Lets talk... Sex, cuts and blowdries", why dating yourself is essential, and how confidence and connection are at the heart of great sex. From the female orgasm to self-love, this episode is raw, real, and full of laughter.

And, of course, we end with my signature questions, “What item of clothing makes you feel sexiest?” and “What’s your favourite form of foreplay?”

⚠️ Content warning: Discussions of sex, self-pleasure, female anatomy, dating, ADHD, and adult themes.

💇‍♀️ Follow Vicki: ⁠@vickilordhair⁠

📚 Publisher: ⁠@byjpmartin⁠

🎧 Let's talk... Sex, cuts and blow-dries: Choosing the chair instead of the closet (out October 22nd) – available on Amazon: ⁠https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0FRRSG1G3?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&bestFormat=true&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAad-7etM9WBCgXsXIspFEt9O85EMfQ8CAjri2-ig1HkYOxIESqQFFJt6ZudwQw_aem_4b-S7nr_ZBhjTElmj1e86w

In this episode, I talk with hair artist and author Vicki Lord about her brand-new memoir Let's talk... Sex, cuts and blow-dries: Choosing the chair instead of the closet (out in print October 22nd). A raw memoir about love, sexuality, ADHD, and self-discovery.

Vicki opens up about her journey from hairdresser to writer, from suppressing her sexuality for 30 years to living loudly and proudly as a lesbian at 50.

We talk about hair as a crown of identity, ADHD and relationships, the cycles of love, and the healing power of writing. Vicki shares how her book became therapy, and how talking about sex, confidence, and women’s pleasure can help others feel less alone.

Vicki’s openness and humour make this one of the most honest episodes yet.

⚠️ Content warning: Discussions of sex, sexuality, ADHD, relationships, and self-pleasure.

💇‍♀️ Follow Vicki: @vickilordhair
📚 Publisher: @byjpmartin

🎧 Let's talk... Sex, cuts and blow-dries: Choosing the chair instead of the closet (out October 22nd) – available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0FRRSG1G3?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&bestFormat=true&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAad-7etM9WBCgXsXIspFEt9O85EMfQ8CAjri2-ig1HkYOxIESqQFFJt6ZudwQw_aem_4b-S7nr_ZBhjTElmj1e86w

This is Part 2 of my two-part mini-series , the one where I tell my sex story.

In this episode, I open up about my views on sex, confidence, and sex work. Why I believe in being open, unfiltered, and sex-positive. I talk about how my relationship with sex has changed from teenage insecurity to full empowerment, how ADHD and mindset affect intimacy, and why I support decriminalising sex work for safety and respect.

This conversation is about owning your body, knowing your worth, and removing the shame around female sexuality.

I want to hear your thoughts and questions for an upcoming Q&A episode, so DM me @FashionIsMyForeplay or email me fashionismyforeplay@gmail.com

Mentions and signposting

• UK Online Safety Act (2023) — context on current sex work and online restrictions

• New Zealand Prostitution Reform Act (2003) — example of decriminalisation done safely

• Organisations advocating for sex workers’ rights:

  • @sexworkerrightsuk

  • @swasnetwork

  • @englishcollectiveofprostitutes

• ADHD + Sex resources: “How ADHD Affects Sex and Intimacy” (ADDitude Magazine)

⚠️ Content warning: Discussions of sex, sex work, ADHD, unhealthy relationships, sexual shame, and gender/sexuality.

In this episode, I sit down with Jordan Chan, activist, Mr Gay Britain finalist, and Chair of Swale Pride, to talk about his journey from surviving brutal bullying in rural Kent to leading change for the queer community.

Jordan opens up about his experiences with identity, activism, and the power of visibility. We talk about the Red Ribbon Calendar, his latest charity project raising money for the Terrence Higgins Trust and The Sussex Beacon, both supporting people living with HIV.

This episode dives into community, stigma, safe sex, and representation, from the 80s AIDS epidemic to queer joy in shows like It’s A Sin, Pose, Heartstopper, and Love, Simon.

🎗️ Featured Links & Recommendations:

• 📸 Jordan’s Instagram: @jordanwch_92

• 🗓️ Buy the Red Ribbon Calendar:

  https://payhip.com/b/M5bjs?utm_id=1344207247310791_v2_s01_e1001&fbclid=PAZnRzaANQDX1leHRuA2FlbQIxMQABpw1CmbGMmX9kHKSibo_SaypTxCRy5WYy1F7bP_l950PslwsgstimgTc13gsE_aem__0xPNX4TFL1x2xDKoO9Qxw

• 🏳️‍🌈 @swalepride_official

• 💖 @thtorguk | @sussexbeacon

• 📷 @mwordsphotography

• 🎬 TV & Film Recs: It’s A Sin, Pose, Pride, Heartstopper, Queer As Folk, Love Simon

⚠️ Content warning: Discussions include bullying, homophobia, HIV/AIDS, stigma, and sexual health.

In this first of a two-part special, I share my journey into the fashion industry, how becoming a mum pushed me to find my identity beyond parenting, and how that led me into design, styling, production, and eventually hosting this podcast.

From my early days creating children’s clothing on Instagram, to studying fashion at UCA, becoming a Dazed finalist, working backstage at London Fashion Weeks, and freelancing across styling and production, this episode is all about the highs, lows, and lessons of finding my place in fashion.

Next week, in Part 2, I’ll share the other side of the story, my history with sex and why I bring both worlds together on Fashion Is My Foreplay.

Follow me on Instagram/ TikTok/ YouTube @fashionismyforeplay

In this episode of Fashion Is My Foreplay, I sit down with my mum for an unfiltered conversation about sex-positive parenting and what it means to raise five daughters with honesty, openness, and without shame.

We talk about her own childhood, teaching without judgement, navigating slut shaming, body confidence, eating disorders, and the challenges of generational cycles around food and image. We also dive into the male gaze, teenage rebellion, and how dress and identity become a form of expression.

This one’s raw, real, and deeply personal, exploring how parenting shapes confidence, sexuality, and the way we see ourselves.

⚠️ Content warning: This episode includes discussions of homophobia, sexual assault, abortion, eating disorders, and porn.

Follow Emma on Instagram: ⁠@_.emma.laing._

Follow me on Insta/TikTok/YouTube @fashionismyforeplay for more unfiltered chats.

Note: This episode has some tech issues with microphone quality, but it’s been fixed for future recordings.

Also, a content warning: we discuss sensitive topics including sex, fetishisation, and violence against trans women.

In this episode of Fashion Is My Foreplay, I sit down with Zorana Dawn (@zoranadawnart) a Brighton-based burlesque and drag performer, character artist, and fashion chameleon.

Originally from Serbia, Zorana’s world is filled with colour, pattern, self-expression, and unapologetic confidence. We talk about:
✨ Fashion as performance, from the stage to the bedroom
✨ Burlesque, drag, body glitter, and a wardrobe full of jumpsuits
✨ The fetishisation and dangers trans women face in dating and hookups
✨ How transition changed her body, sex life, and self-acceptance
✨ Why self-love, lingerie, and touch are central to her life and relationships

Zorana’s story is bold, honest, and glitter-covered, just like her.

Follow Zorana on Instagram: @zoranadawnart
Follow me on Insta/TikTok/YouTube @fashionismyforeplay for more unfiltered chats.

In this episode of Fashion Is My Foreplay, I sit down with Rebecca, the face behind Vixn. A bold, Brighton-based activewear brand that’s about more than just leggings.

We dive into gym fitness and body confidence, the power of pole, and how dopamine dressing can transform not only how you look, but how you show up for yourself. Rebecca talks about confidence in the gym setting, from feeling strong to feeling sexy, and how the right clothes can enhance your training, boost your mood, and make you walk in with your head higher.

She also shares her vision for Vixn, what’s next for the brand, and the realities of building a business in the activewear space.

This one’s about sweat, style, and unapologetic self-belief.

Follow Vixn here: @vixnfitness

Follow me on Insta/TikTok/YouTube @fashionismyforeplay for more unfiltered chats.