In Part 2 of my chat with hair artist and author Vicki Lord, we dive even deeper, into dating, ADHD, self-pleasure, and what truly makes a woman good in bed.

We talk about her new book "Lets talk... Sex, cuts and blowdries", why dating yourself is essential, and how confidence and connection are at the heart of great sex. From the female orgasm to self-love, this episode is raw, real, and full of laughter.

And, of course, we end with my signature questions, “What item of clothing makes you feel sexiest?” and “What’s your favourite form of foreplay?”

⚠️ Content warning: Discussions of sex, self-pleasure, female anatomy, dating, ADHD, and adult themes.

💇‍♀️ Follow Vicki: ⁠@vickilordhair⁠

📚 Publisher: ⁠@byjpmartin⁠

🎧 Let's talk... Sex, cuts and blow-dries: Choosing the chair instead of the closet (out October 22nd) – available on Amazon: ⁠https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0FRRSG1G3?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&bestFormat=true&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAad-7etM9WBCgXsXIspFEt9O85EMfQ8CAjri2-ig1HkYOxIESqQFFJt6ZudwQw_aem_4b-S7nr_ZBhjTElmj1e86w

In this episode, I talk with hair artist and author Vicki Lord about her brand-new memoir Let's talk... Sex, cuts and blow-dries: Choosing the chair instead of the closet (out in print October 22nd). A raw memoir about love, sexuality, ADHD, and self-discovery.

Vicki opens up about her journey from hairdresser to writer, from suppressing her sexuality for 30 years to living loudly and proudly as a lesbian at 50.

We talk about hair as a crown of identity, ADHD and relationships, the cycles of love, and the healing power of writing. Vicki shares how her book became therapy, and how talking about sex, confidence, and women’s pleasure can help others feel less alone.

Vicki’s openness and humour make this one of the most honest episodes yet.

⚠️ Content warning: Discussions of sex, sexuality, ADHD, relationships, and self-pleasure.

💇‍♀️ Follow Vicki: @vickilordhair
📚 Publisher: @byjpmartin

🎧 Let's talk... Sex, cuts and blow-dries: Choosing the chair instead of the closet (out October 22nd) – available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0FRRSG1G3?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&bestFormat=true&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAad-7etM9WBCgXsXIspFEt9O85EMfQ8CAjri2-ig1HkYOxIESqQFFJt6ZudwQw_aem_4b-S7nr_ZBhjTElmj1e86w

This is Part 2 of my two-part mini-series , the one where I tell my sex story.

In this episode, I open up about my views on sex, confidence, and sex work. Why I believe in being open, unfiltered, and sex-positive. I talk about how my relationship with sex has changed from teenage insecurity to full empowerment, how ADHD and mindset affect intimacy, and why I support decriminalising sex work for safety and respect.

This conversation is about owning your body, knowing your worth, and removing the shame around female sexuality.

I want to hear your thoughts and questions for an upcoming Q&A episode, so DM me @FashionIsMyForeplay or email me fashionismyforeplay@gmail.com

Mentions and signposting

• UK Online Safety Act (2023) — context on current sex work and online restrictions

• New Zealand Prostitution Reform Act (2003) — example of decriminalisation done safely

• Organisations advocating for sex workers’ rights:

  • @sexworkerrightsuk

  • @swasnetwork

  • @englishcollectiveofprostitutes

• ADHD + Sex resources: “How ADHD Affects Sex and Intimacy” (ADDitude Magazine)

⚠️ Content warning: Discussions of sex, sex work, ADHD, unhealthy relationships, sexual shame, and gender/sexuality.