In today’s episode we discuss our appearance on the ABC’s Compass program “Beyond Monogamy” which was released on Sunday 27th April 2025. We dissect the process of filming, the feedback we have been receiving, counter-opinions presented in the show and how we are feeling after our highest profile media appearance yet…

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Evan's story is unlike anything you've heard. Imagine spending your most formative years within the confines of a religious fundamentalist cult. How would this shape your approach to sex, love and relationships?

In addition to his vulnerability, honesty and ability to self-reflect, Evan is also a talented songwriter and frontman of his Canberra-based band, The Burley Griffin.

In this episode, prepare to be moved as we delve into Evan's inspiring journey: from rebuilding his understanding of love and intimacy after purity culture, to his personal explorations in non-monogamy, his path to self-love, grappling with external and intrinsic validation, how the Queer community became a vital force in his deconstruction of social and relationship norms and so much more….

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We take the opportunity to celebrate our 10th Wedding Anniversary by reliving the night of the proposal!

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In todays episode we discuss Liam being shamed, how we police language, a recent Chris Williamson Instagram caption, an incredible new TV show “Adolescence”, and so much more!

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We have a difficult discussion in today’s podcast that relates to child safety and Abbey’s recent Substack article “We Must Be Critical of Non-Monogamy”. We unpack the reception and criticisms around the article, the importance of nuanced conversations around this topic, why no community is immune from having these discussions and so much more.

Important Resources:

If you feel affected by this episode and the themes discussed, please reach out to these great resources:

United States:

Childhelp USA

The National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN)

Australia:

Kids Helpline

Bravehearts

England:

NSPCC (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children)

Childline

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Tim is a philosopher, award-winning writer and teacher. He has a doctorate in philosophy from the University of New South Wales on the evolution of morality and specialises in ethics, critical thinking, the philosophy of science and the philosophy of education.

Currently, Tim is the Senior Philosopher at The Ethics Centre (who run the brilliant “Festival of Dangerous Ideas” in Sydney), and is an Honorary Associate in the philosophy department at the University of Sydney.

In 2021 he released the critically acclaimed book entitled “How We Became Human: And Why We Need to Change” and we reference this frequently in our chat today.

In this conversation we discuss the moral panic of non-monogamy, where do our beliefs come from, whether monogamy is a moral good in the world, how do we calibrate our ethical compass, how do you balance the intellectual and the embodied, parenting and the window of plasticity, where do monogamous ethical frameworks come from, serial monogamy and so much more.

Guest Links

Dr. Tim Dean Website

Ethics Centre Website

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In today’s episode we unpack Liam’s recent vasectomy procedure. We discuss the procedure, the lead up and the aftermath, delve into the ethics of contraception, the importance of peas and double briefs, semen, myths around vasectomies, manhood and so much more…

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Georgia Grace is a certified sex and relationship practitioner and somatic therapist who is particularly known for her work in somatic sexology, embodied counselling and trauma-informed practices.

Her approach to working with sex and relationships is inclusive, sex-positive and shame-free, and supports individuals, couples and groups to overcome common sexual concerns.

She is also a co-founder of NORMAL, a sexual wellness company, where she works with Lucy Wark and a team of experts to create educational courses and design modern sex toys.

Georgia hosts the podcast “Glad You Came”, and in October 2024 released her critically acclaimed book “The Modern Guide to Sex”.

This conversation was our first time meeting Georgia, and we were immediately captivated by her intellect, wit, compassion and articulate way of explaining concepts. Based in Australia, we are thankful that one of the leading voices on sexuality is someone who embraces a forward-thinking, inclusive and sex-positive approach.

In this wide roaming chat we discuss; faking orgasm, masturbation scripts, the concept of “The Learning Edge”, embodiment and sexuality, top down and bottom up therapeutic approaches, the role of porn, the window of tolerance, “up-regulating and down-regulating”, practice vs play sessions, maintaining erotic desire, listening to your bodies’ cues and so much more.

Guest Links:

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Normal Toys

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