I’m coming in hot with a truth bomb that might just flip your parenting, your self-awareness, and your whole emotional vibe on its head.

Who's heard that we must learn to “control our emotions”? ME. A million times...

Newsflash: This is TERRIBLE advice.

Yep, I said it. So if you've ever gritted your teeth, stuffed your feelings down, or told your kid to “just calm down”, you’re not alone.

We’ve all been fed this myth that emotional intelligence means being cool, calm, and collected 24/7. Like some sort of emotionless robot with a gratitude journal?! Ok then.

But here's the thing: emotions aren’t meant to be controlled, they’re meant to be understood.

Every feeling you have is like a little post-it note from your inner world.

Anger? “Hey, your boundary just got steamrolled.”

Anxiety? “Something feels off, look closer.”

Disappointment? “You were hoping for something, and it didn’t land.”

Emotions aren’t interruptions. They’re INTEL.

So today, I’m diving into how emotional intelligence is actually about tuning in, not shutting down. I’ll show you how to listen to your emotions (without getting stuck in them), use them to guide better decisions, and teach your kids to do the same.

Because once you stop shoving emotions aside and start decoding what they’re telling you?

Everything. Gets. Easier.

🎁 🎁 FREEBIES:

Parent Guide: "3 Steps From Chaos to Connection" (How to raise emotionally intelligent kids)

Parent Guide: "Beating Anxiety in Kids" (Evidence based strategies to support anxious, sensitive kids)

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Hi, I'm Stephanie Pinto. I'm an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives.

✅ Want me to speak to the staff your school/preschool, team or organisation on Emotional Intelligence? Email us and we'll make it happen!

If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!

🩷Join over 130,000 people in my online community! ➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids

💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.com for free resources, courses, coaching, collaborations or speaking engagements.

🥳 Find me on the socials...

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Ever been told that "kids just need some good ol' fashioned discipline" to learn their lesson?

Yeah... let’s talk about why that advice needs to go straight to the recycling bin.

I'm pulling back the curtain on the real difference between discipline and punishment — and why confusing the two can seriously mess with your child's emotional growth (and your relationship with them).

Spoiler: Discipline isn’t about being "soft." It’s about being SMART.

You’ll learn:

✨ Why discipline teaches and punishment backfires

✨ How discipline builds future behaviour, while punishment keeps kids stuck in shame

✨ Why connection and guidance will always beat blame and fear

✨ How real discipline actually boosts emotional intelligence (and no, yelling doesn’t count)

👉 Ever wondered why your punishments aren’t "working" — no matter how many times you threaten, lecture, or take away the iPad?

👉 Curious why some kids grow into sneaky, secretive teens — and how it has everything to do with how we handle mistakes when they’re little?

If you’re serious about raising emotionally resilient kids, trust me — the next 25 minutes are going to be a total game-changer.

Let’s change the way we parent — one empowered conversation at a time. 🎙️

🎁 🎁 FREEBIES:

1. Parent Guide: "3 Steps From Chaos to Connection" (How to raise emotionally intelligent kids)
2. Parent Guide: "Beating Anxiety in Kids" (Evidence based strategies to support anxious, sensitive kids)

AVAILABLE NOW at stephaniepinto.com/resources

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Hi, I'm Stephanie Pinto. I'm an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives.

✅ Want me to speak to the staff your school/preschool, team or organisation on Emotional Intelligence? Email us and we'll make it happen!

If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!

🩷Join over 130,000 people in my online community! ➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids

💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.com for free resources, courses, coaching, collaborations or speaking engagements.

🥳 Find me on the socials...

Insta: www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parent

FB: www.fb.com/stephpinto

YT: www.youtube.com/c/StephaniePinto

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What if the secret to raising calm, confident, and connected kids has been quietly thriving in Denmark this whole time?? (It's been ranked in the top 5 happiest countries for over 40 years!)

Not in a high-tech lab. Not in a parenting trend. But in a culture that consistently tops the charts as the happiest in the world.

This week on the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, we’re diving into The Danish Way with bestselling author and cultural researcher Jessica Joelle Alexander.

If you’ve ever wished parenting could feel more peaceful, less like a power struggle, and more like a partnership—this episode is your warm, welcoming invitation.

And guess what? Her brand-new book The Danish Way Everyday is out THIS week! So if you're into calm, connected parenting (I know you are), go preorder your copy right after you finish this episode. 💛

In today’s episode, we chat about the powerful principles behind the Danish PARENT acronym:

✅ Play

✅ Authenticity

✅ Reframing

✅ Empathy

✅ No ultimatums

✅ Togetherness

and how you can use these tools to raise emotionally intelligent kids without constant power struggles.

We also dive into something super timely: raising responsible digital citizens. Jessica shares how a trusting, emotionally safe relationship with your child is the real safeguard in today’s digital world—not just rules and restrictions.

From building calm daily rhythms to creating more hygge moments, this episode is like a warm cup of tea with a side of parenting wisdom.

Find Jessica:

https://thedanishway.com/

https://thedanishway.com/new-book-the-danish-way-everyday/

https://www.instagram.com/jessicajoellealexander/

🎁 🎁 FREEBIES:

1. Parent Guide: "3 Steps From Chaos to Connection" (How to raise emotionally intelligent kids)
2. Parent Guide: "Beating Anxiety in Kids" (Evidence based strategies to support anxious, sensitive kids)

AVAILABLE NOW at stephaniepinto.com/resources

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Hi, I'm Stephanie Pinto. I'm an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives.

✅ Want me to speak to the staff your school/preschool, team or organisation on Emotional Intelligence? Email us and we'll make it happen!

If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!

🩷Join over 130,000 people in my online community! ➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids

💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.com for free resources, courses, coaching, collaborations or speaking engagements.

🥳 Find me on the socials...

Insta: www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parent

FB: www.fb.com/stephpinto

YT: www.youtube.com/c/StephaniePinto

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Have you ever found yourself snapping at your kids and then sinking into a wave of guilt, thinking, “I swore I’d be different!!!” 😭

In this powerful and heart-opening episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, I’m joined by Shelly Robinson, conscious parenting coach and founder of Raising Yourself.

We’re diving deep into the life-changing work of reparenting—what it really means, why it’s so essential, and how it helps you respond to your kids with calm and compassion instead of reacting from old wounds.

You’ll hear the raw story of a mum I coached who broke down mid-session, struggling with her anger and shame. And if that feels familiar—if your reactions feel bigger than the moment—you are not alone.

Together, Shelly and I explore:

🩷 How despite all the effort we give, we cannot rely on willpower alone to parent consciously

🩷 Why reparenting your inner child is the key to breaking generational patterns

🩷 The truth about anger (and what it’s really trying to tell us)

🩷 How to let go of guilt and lean into self-compassion

🩷 A gentle guided inner child reparenting exercise you can do with us.

And don’t miss Shelly’s one-liner that might just shift your whole perspective:

🌟 "Your parents have an inner child too."

If you’re ready to feel less reactive, more in control, and truly seen in your parenting journey, this one’s for YOU.

Find Shelly here:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/raising_yourself/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/raisingyourself

W: https://www.shellyrobinson.com

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Hi, I'm Stephanie Pinto. I'm an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives.

✅ Want me to speak to the staff your school/preschool, team or organisation on Emotional Intelligence? Email us and we'll make it happen!

If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!

🩷Join over 130,000 people in my online community! ➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids

💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.com for free resources, courses, coaching, collaborations or speaking engagements.

🥳 Find me on the socials...

Insta: www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parent

FB: www.fb.com/stephpinto

YT: www.youtube.com/c/StephaniePinto

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Messing up as a parent: It’s not IF, it’s WHEN. 😅

Trust me, even I mess up and I speak on Emotional Intelligence daily, I run conferences on it, I have courses and a book on it... so let me give you permission to lose your cool too!!

However - we DO need to talk about the messy, completely normal experience of losing your cool, whether it’s yelling at the kids, snapping at your partner, or going quiet and shutting down. Especially what to do AFTER the blow-up, and how to handle it with your kids.

Because emotional intelligence isn’t about being calm all the time. It’s about learning how to repair, reconnect, and actually teach our kids to do the same.

I talk about:

💥 Why it’s 100% human to lose your cool sometimes

🧠 What’s going on in your brain and body when you snap or shut down

❤️ How to do a proper repair (not just a quick “sorry”)

🧒🏼 How to TEACH your kids to repair when they muck up too

😶 And what to do if you’re someone who goes quiet after conflict

If you’ve ever ended the day thinking, “Ugh, why did I do that…”, this one’s for you.

Let’s normalise the mess-ups and get really good at the bounce-back. 💛 Steph.

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Hi, I'm Stephanie Pinto. I'm an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives.

✅ Want me to speak to the staff your school/preschool, team or organisation on Emotional Intelligence? Email us and we'll make it happen!

If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!

🩷Join over 130,000 people in my online community! ➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids

💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.com for free resources, courses, coaching, collaborations or speaking engagements.

🥳 Find me on the socials...

Insta: www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parent

FB: www.fb.com/stephpinto

YT: www.youtube.com/c/StephaniePinto

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Hi all, today on the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting podcast I'm diving deep into a game-changing topic that will profoundly shift the way you view your child's behaviour: HIDDEN TRIGGERS.

Have you ever had a moment when your child or teen suddenly melts down over what seems like nothing? One moment they're fine, but the next, it's chaos over the "wrong" snack, the innocent question you asked, or a change in plans. You're left wondering, "What the heck just happened?!" Yep. I've been there too.

So today, I'm letting you in on the truth: your kids aren't being difficult; they're responding to unseen triggers that their brains and nervous systems register long before they can articulate their feelings.

Imagine if you could spot these triggers before they escalate into emotional blow-ups?! That’s the power of emotional intelligence in parenting! Trust me.

Today I've got 11 hidden triggers that can sneakily and instantly impact your child’s emotions and behaviour, along with a few practical solutions for each that you can implement right away to support them in a more emotionally intelligent way. I explore everything from sensory overload and hunger to the effects of parental stress and overwhelming expectations.

You'll hear about:

• Overstimulation and sensory sensitivities
• "Hangry” meltdowns
• Keeping your kids hydrated (seriously!)
• Creating a supportive emotional climate that models self-regulation
• How to create smoother transitions between activities
• Perceived injustices (definitely a hidden trigger for many kids!)
• Physical discomforts and pain that you can't see
• Adjusting your expectations to fit their developmental level (NOT age)
• Conflict exposure
• And the last one I'll keep a secret cause it's my ultimate favourite - sorry not sorry!

Here's where you can really deepen your emotional intelligence and see the results... less conflict, fewer arguments, reduced yelling - seriously! And more calm, connection, and understanding.

Tune in and let me give you a few more tools to navigate your kids' big emotions with grace and emotional intelligence.

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Hi, I'm Stephanie Pinto. I'm an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives.

✅ Want me to speak to the staff your school/preschool, team or organisation on Emotional Intelligence? Email us and we'll make it happen!

If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!

🩷Join over 130,000 people in my online community! ➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids

💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.com for free resources, courses, coaching, collaborations or speaking engagements.

🥳 Find me on the socials...

Insta: www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parent

FB: www.fb.com/stephpinto

YT: www.youtube.com/c/StephaniePinto

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Ever hear people throw around terms like “fight, flight, freeze,” “nervous system,” or “relational safety” and think… what are they actually talking about? Yep, me too.

As a parent (and someone who works with families), I didn’t really understand what those phrases meant... until I came across Mona Delahooke’s work. And let me tell you, once I did, everything about my kids’ behaviour suddenly made a LOT more sense!

In this special re-release of our 2022 interview, Mona - who’s a clinical psychologist with over 30 years of experience - breaks down the science behind those frustrating, baffling behaviours our kids send our way.

But this isn’t just theory—Mona shares practical, real-life strategies to help you stay calm and support your child when they’re overwhelmed.

This conversation feels even more meaningful today because, in 2023, Mona survived a brain aneurysm—an experience that’s led her to slow down and prioritize her health. I feel so lucky we still have her voice and wisdom to learn from, and I’m beyond grateful to share this life-changing conversation with you.

In this episode, we dive into:

✅ Why your child’s “bad behaviour” is often a sign their nervous system is in distress

✅ How understanding the brain makes parenting so much easier (and less stressful!)

✅ Simple, effective ways to respond without yelling, punishing, or losing your cool

If you’re ready to stop feeling frustrated and start feeling empowered, this one’s for you.

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Hi, I'm Stephanie Pinto. I'm an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives.

✅ Want me to speak to the staff your school/preschool, team or organisation on Emotional Intelligence? Email us and we'll make it happen!

If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!

🩷Join over 130,000 people in my online community! ➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids

💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.com for free resources, courses, coaching, collaborations or speaking engagements.

🥳 Find me on the socials...

Insta: www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parent

FB: www.fb.com/stephpinto

YT: www.youtube.com/c/StephaniePinto

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What if parenting didn’t have to be a battle of wills? And wouldn't it be nice to welcome your child's "no!" instead of it igniting a power struggle?! I feel you.

Today on the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, I sit down with Vivek Patel, founder of Meaningful Ideas, to explore what some call a radical yet deeply effective approach—Noncoercive Collaborative Parenting.

Vivek shares why kids resist us more when they trust us less - and how the common fallback to coercion damages that trust.

But instead of simply telling us what not to do, Vivek offers clear, practical steps for building a relationship where cooperation flows naturally.

We dive into:

✨ The "Model, Guide, Friend" framework and how it can transform your parenting.

✨ Why hearing “no” from our kids feels so triggering and how to embrace it as a gift.

✨ How to teach kids to set boundaries and resist peer pressure, without controlling them.

✨ Debunking the myth that noncoercive parenting raises “soft snowflakes” or kids who walk all over us.

✨ Inspiring through values—and the importance of knowing and living your own.

Vivek also shares his personal journey of raising his now-28-year-old daughter this way—despite being raised in a home filled with control and coercion. His insights are powerful, practical, and guaranteed to shift the way you think about guiding your child.

💡 One of Vivek’s most powerful reminders:

“When your child says no, say: ‘Thank you so much for telling your truth.’” Mindblowing?! Yup. Have you ever tried it? Probably not. Radical, powerful - TRY IT.

If you’re ready to move beyond power struggles and create a parenting approach built on trust, connection, and collaboration—this episode is for you.

🎧 Tune in now and discover how to guide your child while respecting their voice.

Find out more about Vivek’s work here:

W: meaningfulideas.com

IG: @meaningfulideas

FB: facebook.com/meaningfulideas

YT: youtube.com/c/meaningfulideas

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Hi, I'm Stephanie Pinto. I'm an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives.

✅ Want me to speak

to the staff your school/preschool, team or organisation on Emotional

Intelligence? Email us and we'll make it happen!

If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us

at hello@stephaniepinto.com and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!

🩷Join over 130,000 people in my online community! ➡️

www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids

💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.com for free resources, courses, coaching, collaborations or speaking engagements.

🥳 Find me on the socials...

Insta: www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parent

FB: www.fb.com/stephpinto

YT: www.youtube.com/c/StephaniePinto

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.