Episodios

  • Marriage unfiltered: The truth behind the 'perfect' social media life

    Marriage unfiltered: The truth behind the 'perfect' social media life
    Nov 5 2025
    nstagram shows us flowers, holidays, and perfect couple selfies. But what’s really happening behind those posts?

    In this season finale of Don’t Hold Back, Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba sits down with her husband, Skhu Mayaba, for a real, funny, and honest conversation about what love looks like when no one’s watching.

    They unpack the truth behind curated couple content and explore how real relationships require growth, patience, and quiet acts of love. If you’ve ever wondered whether your relationship measures up, this one is for you.

    Production credits:
    A DW Africa vodcast created in collaboration with Jacaranda FM and East Coast Radio.

    Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba – Host
    Wanjiku Mwaura – Lead Producer (DW)
    Silja Fröhlich – Lead Producer (DW)
    Asumpta Lattus – Executive Producer (DW)
    Diane Macpherson – Executive Producer (Kagiso Media Radio)
    Ntsikelelo Khanyile – Production Assistant (Kagiso Media Radio)
    Wandile Langeni – Production Assistant (Kagiso Media Radio)
    Thandiwe Nkoana – Lead Videographer and Editor
    Ronnie Nkoana – Assistant Videographer

    #DontHoldBackPodcast | #LoveUnfiltered | #MarriageInRealLife | #CoupleConversations | #NoFilterRelationships | #SkhuAndNozi | #SayItLoud Catch up with our host Nozibele · More information about this podcast · The 77 Percent (DW Africa)
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    34 m
  • The pain we never name: Healing the mother wound

    The pain we never name: Healing the mother wound
    Oct 22 2025
    What happens when your first heartbreak is your mother?
    In this deeply personal episode, author and coach Moshitadi Lehlomela joins Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba to talk about the quiet pain many people carry --the mother wound.

    Moshitadi shares how she first recognised her own wound at university, when anxiety and depression began to surface.

    “I realised that I had a mother wound in varsity,” she says. “I felt alone. I felt defective.”

    Nozi opens up with empathy and honesty, creating a safe space for a conversation about pain, forgiveness, and self-discovery. Together, they unpack how childhood wounds resurface in adulthood, how to unlearn toxic patterns, and what it means to mother yourself with compassion.

    “You’ve already done great work so far,” Moshitadi reminds listeners. “Maybe the coping mechanisms you developed are not healthy, but you’ve been doing your best trying to protect yourself.”

    This conversation is about healing, identity, and finding peace -- even when the love that shaped you also left a scar.

    More about Moshitadi Lehlomela

    Moshitadi Lehlomela is a writer, coach, and entrepreneur who helps people heal from the mother wound — the deep emotional scars left by maternal pain. She’s the author of The Girl Who Survived Her Mother and Healing the Mother Wound, and through her work she guides others toward self-love, emotional freedom, and breaking generational patterns.

    Core production team:

    Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba – Host
    Wanjiku Mwaura – Lead Producer (DW)
    Silja Fröhlich – Lead Producer (DW)
    Asumpta Lattus – Executive Producer (DW)
    Diane Macpherson – Executive Producer (Kagiso Media Radio)
    Ntsikelelo Khanyile – Production Assistant (Kagiso Media Radio)
    Wandile Langeni – Production Assistant (Kagiso Media Radio)
    Thandiwe Nkoana – Lead Videographer & Editor
    Ronnie Nkoana – Assistant Videographer

    #DontHoldBack #HealingTheMotherWound #MoshitadiLehlomela #SelfLoveJourney #NozibeleQamnganaMayaba Catch up with our host Nozibele · More information about this podcast · The 77 Percent (DW Africa)
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    37 m
  • Let's talk about sex, AGAIN

    Let's talk about sex, AGAIN
    Oct 8 2025
    * Content warning: This episode contains adult themes and is intended for listeners aged 18 and older.*

    You wanted more candid conversations about sex, so here it is: Nozibele reconnects with gynaecologist and sexologist Dr Nompumelelo "Mpume" Zenda, aka Dr Gynae, for an open, no-holds-barred talk on everything from libido and Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) to first-time sex experiences. They debunk myths, explore female pleasure, and discuss why honest conversations around sexuality are essential to health and happiness.

    This episode explores topics many shy away from: celebrating body confidence, understanding hormonal health challenges like PCOS, and affirming that your sexual journey is valid at every stage of life. Whether you're curious, confused, or ready to break free from silence, this episode offers insight, support, and truth without judgment or taboo.

    In this episode:
    00:00 Introduction and Welcome
    00:14 Guest Introduction and Popular Demand
    01:00 Diving into Sex and Sexuality
    02:46 First Time Sex: Expectations vs. Reality
    06:10 Understanding Vaginal Tightness
    08:44 Self-Pleasure and Masturbation
    15:30 Contraceptives and Libido
    17:22 The Importance of Lube
    18:17 Postpartum Sex Drive
    19:45 Intimacy and Communication
    20:08 Debunking Myths About Women's Sex Drive
    21:32 The Role of Romance
    22:08 Initiating Intimacy
    26:15 Maintaining Sexual Chemistry
    30:39 Stimulating the Senses
    32:55 Final Thoughts and Takeaways

    About Dr Nompumelelo Zenda

    Dr Nompumelelo Zenda is a Johannesburg-based OB-Gynae and medical sexologist, renowned for advancing sexual and reproductive health in South Africa. Founder of the innovative wellness consultancy We See You, and a Fellow of the European Committee of Sexual Medicine, Dr Zenda blends medical expertise with cultural awareness. Through her media work, advocacy, and teaching, she empowers young South Africans to take confident control over their bodies, health, and relationships.

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    This show is a collaboration between DW and leading South African radio stations, Jacaranda FM and East Coast Radio. Catch up with our host Nozibele · More information about this podcast · The 77 Percent (DW Africa)
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  • Gcina Mhlophe on embracing culture and tradition

    Gcina Mhlophe on embracing culture and tradition
    Sep 24 2025
    In the latest episode, legendary storyteller, poet and author Dr. Gcina Mhlophe reflects on what it means to preserve culture in a fast-changing world.
    Dr. Mhlophe shares her journey from a childhood “house of song and prayer” to becoming one of South Africa’s most respected custodians of heritage. She explains why storytelling remains the heartbeat of cultural identity - and why younger generations must learn to balance tradition with modern life.
    “Culture starts within,” she says. “It’s about having a sense of belonging, of respect, and of knowing who you are, even as the world changes.”
    The episode explores practical ways families can pass on rituals, the importance of African languages, and the risks of letting global influences dilute local traditions. Catch up with our host Nozibele · More information about this podcast · The 77 Percent (DW Africa)
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    30 m
  • Five simple habits to a healthier you

    Five simple habits to a healthier you
    Sep 10 2025
    What does “healthy” really mean? In this episode of Don’t Hold Back, Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba talks to fitness coach Kopano Mokhele, who deliberately gained 25 kilos — and is now losing it again — to better understand what his clients face.
    Kopano shares honest lessons about food cravings, mental health, and why BMI doesn’t always apply to African body types. He also reveals five simple steps anyone can take to start a healthier lifestyle - from moving in ways you enjoy, to making one food change, to tracking progress and staying motivated.
    Authentic, funny, and packed with practical advice, this is your reminder that health is a journey, not a deadline. Catch up with our host Nozibele · More information about this podcast · The 77 Percent (DW Africa)
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    31 m
  • 5 Things You Need to Know Before You Turn 35

    5 Things You Need to Know Before You Turn 35
    Aug 27 2025
    When Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba revealed on the podcast that she’s turning 35 later this year, she admitted she was struggling with questions many women ask themselves: Have I achieved enough? Am I where I should be at this age?
    It was the perfect moment to bring in a mentor figure. Sitting across from her was Elana Afrika-Bredenkamp – a household name on radio and TV, an author, leadership coach, and mother – who knows about navigating milestones and expectations. Elana’s message? Stop panicking. Whether you’re in your twenties, thirties, or beyond, this episode is packed with practical wisdom and empowering reminders that it’s never too late to reset, grow, and thrive.

    This show is a collaboration between DW and leading South African radio stations, Jacaranda FM and East Coast Radio. Catch up with our host Nozibele · More information about this podcast · The 77 Percent (DW Africa)
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    38 m
  • Living Proudly: Black, Gay, HIV-Positive in 2025

    Living Proudly: Black, Gay, HIV-Positive in 2025
    Aug 13 2025
    How do you live proudly when the world still carries stigma? In this episode of Don’t Hold Back, Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba sits down with Phenyo Moletsane - a proud Black, gay man living openly with HIV in 2025 - for a powerful conversation that goes beyond labels, fear, and silence.

    From navigating HIV stigma in South Africa to redefining what it means to love and live openly as a Black queer man, Phenyo shares the realities many never see. He talks about the micro-moments where visibility feels like both liberation and risk, the ongoing mental health journey, and the changing nature of relationships.

    This episode breaks down misconceptions around HIV, embraces identity with power and pride, and explores the courage it takes to challenge social norms. Phenyo also speaks candidly about the joys and challenges of dating while living openly with HIV, and the vital support LGBTQIA+ youth need beyond the usual “be yourself” message.

    Whether you’re living with HIV, part of the queer community, or an ally ready to support without shame or saviourism, this conversation is real, raw, and full of heart.

    In this episode:
    00:34 Welcome to Don't Hold Back
    00:50 Introducing Today's Guest
    01:19 Catching Up After Years
    02:07 The Snack Tradition - a Teaser
    02:43 Living Positively with HIV
    03:10 The Impact of Sharing My Story
    05:24 Challenges of Public Disclosure
    05:53 Personal Relationships and HIV
    07:52 The Journey to Healing
    10:03 Advocating for the Next Generation
    13:04 Navigating Conversations About Safe Sex
    15:35 Coming Out to Family
    16:18 Navigating Safe Conversations
    17:34 Seeking Help and Counseling
    19:11 Finding Love and Disclosure
    24:49 Rapid Fire Question Section
    25:52 Addressing Stigma and Discrimination
    30:04 Message to Young People and Parents
    33:11 Final Thoughts and Farewell

    #DontHoldBackPodcast | #LivingPositively | #PhenyoMoletsane | #HIVAwareness | #LGBTQIAPlusSA | #BreakTheSilence | #DifferentFacesOfHIV Catch up with our host Nozibele · More information about this podcast · The 77 Percent (DW Africa)
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    34 m
  • Sex and Sexuality: What women wish they’d been taught

    Sex and Sexuality: What women wish they’d been taught
    Jul 30 2025
    How do you talk about sex when no one ever taught you how?

    *Content warning: This episode contains adult themes and is intended for listeners aged 18 and older.*

    In this episode, Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba is joined by Johannesburg-based gynaecologist and sexologist Dr Nompumelelo “Mpume” Zenda (AKA Dr Gynae). Together, they unpack how to approach first-time experiences, body confidence, and open conversations in relationships. They also explore the importance of teaching children about sexuality using age-appropriate, honest language.

    Dr Zenda is the founder of We See You and a respected voice in women’s health and public education.

    This episode is about breaking the silence, offering clarity, and helping women feel more confident in their own skin.

    In this episode:
    00:00 Introduction to the Taboo of Sex
    01:26 Meet the Guest: Dr. Mpume
    03:29 The Importance of Early Sex Education
    09:08 Personal Experiences and Cultural Norms
    11:03 Consequences of Lack of Sex Education
    14:36 Diagnosing Sexual Dysfunctions
    16:13 Reprogramming Your Mindset
    16:31 The Brain: The Biggest Sex Organ
    17:06 Understanding and Loving Your Body
    19:20 Society's Influence on Body Image
    20:56 Rapid Fire Questions
    22:20 Sex Education and Parental Guidance
    25:02 Communicating with Your Partner
    28:02 The Importance of Self-Discovery
    33:20 Final Thoughts and Farewell

    More about Dr Nompumelelo Zenda
    Dr Nompumelelo Zenda is a Johannesburg-based OB-Gynae and medical sexologist, widely recognised for her work in advancing sexual and reproductive health in South Africa. She is the founder of We See You, a consultancy focused on innovative, inclusive approaches to wellness. As a Fellow of the European Committee of Sexual Medicine, Dr Zenda brings both medical expertise and cultural sensitivity to her work. Through her media presence, published work, and public health advocacy, she helps young South Africans make informed, confident decisions about their bodies, health, and relationships. Catch up with our host Nozibele · More information about this podcast · The 77 Percent (DW Africa)
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    34 m