Brian celebrates his first successful afternoon on the apps in six weeks, applying a lesson from a recent episode and proving a point he's made in others. Judson shares recommendations for Anthony Amiewalan’s novel Eddie & Alan, Michael Finkel’s biography of Stéphane Breitwieser, The Art Thief, Kaveh Akbar’s novel, Martyr!, and Nicholas Colia’s film, Griffin in Summer. Both hosts are tickled by the Hookup of the Week, which describes a listener's decision to throw himself a birthday party to reclaim the sexual awakening that homophobia denied him as a teenager. Then, Brian and Judson are joined by partners in life and work, James Nguyen and AC Gottlieb, costume designers currently represented on stage by Chappell Roan in her Visions of Damsels and Other Dangerous Things tour and by Messy White Gays off-Broadway. James and AC chat with the hosts about the origin of their relationship and their evolution to openness, making and maintaining queer friendships–including navigating boundaries around sex with friends, entering into couples therapy, and their past dalliances with throuple-dom. The pair also discuss finding independence within a codependent relationship, how much we let dating apps inform our feelings about ourselves, the pursuit of their professional dreams, and how they came to design for Chappell Roan. Finally, James and AC help Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question submitted by a listener who has concerns about hosting hookups at home.

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Brian and Judson celebrate the victory of mayor-elect Zohran Mamdani and the fact that friend-of-the-podcast Brandon Kyle Goodman has extended their run in HEAUX CHURCH off-Broadway at Ars Nova through November 21. Brian raves about the Broadway play Liberation by Bess Wohl. Judson's trick is a treat on Halloween. Brian prepares for a sex party by listening back to his own advice on a previous episode and discovers he may, in fact, be vers. After listening to the Hookup of the Week, the two wax nostalgic for their younger years, hooking up in bars.

​They are then joined by comedian, writer, and actor Jay Jurden, whose debut television special, “Yes, Ma’am,” is now streaming on Hulu. Jay discusses the journey to getting “Yes, Ma’am” on screen, why it was important for the special to be so sex-positive, the necessity of stand-up for marginalized audiences, the new hour he is taking on his “Nothing Special" tour, his 14-year relationship with his now husband, identifying as bisexual, his former career as a personal trainer, his possible future on Broadway, and his deep, queer connection to Marvel’s X-Men.

​To cap off the episode, Jay helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is hurt after his partner declines his request for sex, only to go and have a repeat hookup with someone else.

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It’s Dads and Daddies’ 75th episode! On it, Judson enjoys a repeat hookup with a neighbor and accompanies him to see comedian and artist Max Wittert perform. Brian looks forward to ending his hookup drought by attending his first sex party in months. Judson and Brian both reiterate their encouragement to all Dads and Daddies listeners to watch Netflix’s Boots, particularly after the Pentagon put out a statement against it. Judson and his husband are invited to be a Nielsen family. A previous “Hookup of the Week” submitter returns with a Part Two to his previous encounter. The two are then joined by author, journalist, comedian, and performer Mike Albo, whose latest book, Hologram Boyfriends: Sex, Love and Overconnection, has just come out from Macmillan Audio. The three marvel at each having separately learned about “Locktober” in recent days, share their wonder for the concept of edging, and talk about the origin and writing of Hologram Boyfriends. Mike also discusses his relationship with money, being labeled a "Daddy," his love for Provincetown, his frustration with the ubiquity of open relationships, and using condoms in a post-PrEP world. Mike helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is ready to make a real connection again after his partner passed away, but is frustrated that many of the men he meets are in open relationships. To close, Mike provides additional advice for a listener whose question about finding community in a new city was discussed a couple of episodes prior.

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Judson and his husband celebrate their 10th wedding anniversary in Eureka Springs, Arkansas, while Brian and his family discover a free gallery show featuring original works by Basquiat, Haring, Koons, Mapplethorpe, Sherman, Warhol, and more. The two hosts each go without physical release for longer than usual and expound on the joys of refraining. Brian then experiences a moment of undeniable divine intervention, and Judson starts his new job. They enjoy a pocket-sized Hookup of the Week about the joys of being Daddy to a pocket-sized partner. Brian spends three nights at the theater seeing Ragtime, Dylan Mulvaney's solo show, The Least Problematic Woman in the World, and, of course, Brandon Kyle Goodman's Heaux Church off-Broadway at Ars Nova—where he was joined by Judson and several Dads and Daddies listeners. Brian then makes a proposal to any theater producers listening to bring this year’s queer theater standouts to more audiences. Writer, actor, host, and sexual/mental wellness advocate Brandon Kyle Goodman then sits down with Brian to discuss how writing on Netflix’s hit animated series Big Mouth put them on their mission to deshame sex by talking about it. They also cover Brandon’s journey with their husband from monogamy to polyamory, how dating other people has benefited their primary relationship, being an educator of oral pleasure, how to make kindness cool within the queer community, and all about the past, present, and future of Heaux Church. The episode concludes with Brandon helping address a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener frustrated by how their partner prioritizes a dom hookup over their relationship, and finally, with some words of guidance from Brandon on coming together during these difficult times.

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Judson’s return from a trip to Southern California inspires a comparison of Los Angelenos and New Yorkers, and a conversation about how both Judson and Brian’s husband Toby are able to convince most who meet them that they are chill, when their husbands know otherwise. Brian observes Yom Kippur with Judson’s husband, and learns some words of wisdom that help him gain some perspective on how to exist in the current political climate. The two share their thoughts on Netflix’s Boots and Judson theorizes as to whether or not he could survive boot camp himself. The “Hookup of the Week” comes from a world traveler with a special message for a paramour an ocean away. It is then time for a Go Ask Your Dad Extravaganza, as Brian and Judson respond to four listener questions - one from someone who wants help communicating his frustrations about the attention he’s receiving (or not receiving) at bathhouses or sex parties to his partner who’s having a great time; one from someone who wants to explore being a Daddy, but doesn’t trust that what he might say or do will feel safe for others after the traumas he’s overcome on his journey to coming out; one from a couple who identify as shy who are looking to move out of Florida to a more LGBTQ-friendly environment and make friends; and ending with one from a listener asking what the best ways are to make a Daddy feel cared for.

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Brian tests whether or not he can make a hookup happen in the limited time available to him while his daughter is at an appointment. Judson crosses state lines for a hookup and receives a cultural education. Brian’s family enjoys a week of the arts–a Chappell Roan concert, the Mamma Mia revival on Broadway, and the Gabby’s Dollhouse movie–and he provides his thoughts on each. Judson feels the “Hookup of the Week” in his heart more than his groin. The two then attempt to tackle the topic of masculinity, how they each approach the expectations to live up to masculine standards, how it has shaped who they are as sexual beings, and the relationship between the standard of masculine beauty in the gay community and the AIDS epidemic. They end by responding to a “Go Ask Your Dad” question from a listener seeking advice after his sex life with his partner whom he loves and who he acknowledges is his person has dwindled over time.

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Judson recounts a weekend trip upstate and forgets an unforgettable hookup. Brian envies his husband’s incredibly successful week of hookups, one so plentiful it allowed him to forget one, too. The two then commiserate about the preparation required for bottoming. Brian discusses his tenth trip to see ”Oh, Mary!” and his fifth Mary, Jinkx Monsoon. Judson explains why he chose a trip to Arkansas to celebrate his tenth wedding anniversary. Both are very turned on by a ”Hookup of the Week” that’s far more about the thrill of the chase than the act itself. After the break, Brian shares his heartbreak after some of his family’s main sources of joy became embroiled in hot-button political situations—and on the wrong side. In his quest to be helpful, he shares to-do lists from transgender rights expert Chase Strangio that provide guidance for what cis and trans people can do to aid in protecting the trans community. Judson offers tips for navigating conversations about complex topics one doesn’t feel knowledgeable about. The episode closes with a ”Go Ask Your Dad” question from a listener in the beginning stages of opening his relationship, who is curious about how to incorporate the Love Languages into the process.

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Judson accepts a job offer and feels deep appreciation for all the support he received over his past few weeks of unemployment. Brian has found a new love in a sandwich he’s discovered near his office. Brian and Judson express their love for the trans community and ask how they can be best of service in these times of incredible oppression. The super-hot Hookup of the Week comes from a listener who attends Dads and Daddies friend DJ James Anthony’s new party, Unspeakable Joy, where he meets a pair of platonic roommates and brings them home to his boyfriend. The two are then joined by popular bator content creator Bryan Bance, aka XY BK Bry. Bryan talks about the enormity and variety of the bator community, he educates Brian about what it’s like to attend a bator event, he shares how being a bator has made him a better lover, how ejaculation does not always have to be the end goal, and provides thoughts on how one can get started on their own journey exploring masturbation. He also talks about the pleasure of ‘ruined orgasms,’ provides tips on edging, discusses the phenomenon of gooning, and laments the lack of accurate sex education in the U.S. To close, Bryan joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who has only just begun to explore openness in his relationship with his boyfriend and would like advice on setting agreements around communication.

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