Judson and Brian beat the heat by hunkering down in the basement to answer another set of Go Ask Your Dad questions from our listeners! But first, Brian and Judson each negotiate rules with their husbands for running “sexy errands” during their respective trips to Provincetown. One listener educates Brian and Judson on gay car enthusiast culture, while another educates them on the proper terminology for a sex act discussed on a previous episode. Judson suffers through a tense week at work. Brian suffers through withdrawal from his daughter while she is at sleepaway camp. The “Hookup of the Week” leaves both feeling envious and pondering the magical qualities of hot tubs. After the break, Judson and Brian respond to several listener questions ranging from how best to communicate the desire to see a hookup again, to how to think about integrating one’s gay self with their work self after a promotion to a management position, to how to keep years of shame from turning oneself into a prude, to handling STIs in an open relationship, to what Judson believes to be the toughest question they’ve addressed yet from a listener in an open, long-distance relationship whose demisexual partner has begun to hookup with his roommate. They end with a voice memo from a repeat submitter with a unique request that could help him find the love of his life.

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Judson and Brian reunite after three weeks apart. Judson takes a page from our Gay Vacation Anxiety episode to put himself in the best mental and emotional place for two weeks in Provincetown. Brian is forced to admit that he may, in fact, be a Disney Gay. The listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week” inspires a conversation about gay community and joy. After the break, Brian shares a series of new ways he and his husband have found to enjoy their open marriage over the previous few weeks. Judson proposes the ideal “house rules” for hookups when sharing a vacation rental with friends. They end by responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener expressing concern that there isn’t an overlap in the kinks that interest him and his partner.

Judson is taken out by a stomach bug for a couple of days. Brian attends the sex party he expressed nerves about in last week’s episode. Together, they enjoy a listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week” with a twist. Brian and Judson are then joined by DJ James Anthony. Known as host of the weekly “Get Into The Groove” on SiriusXM’s Studio 54 channel, and for his monthly Saturday residency at the iconic Eagle in New York City, “James Anthony’s House,” James tours the world as a much sought-after DJ, producer, and remixer. In their chat, James takes Brian and Judson through his lifetime journey playing music for people, starting in his earliest days. They discuss the virtues of daytime dance parties, RuPaul and Michelle Visage’s exhaustive knowledge of dance music, the evolution of James’ 22-year marriage, how he and his husband navigate openness today, his relationship with the apps, and his thoughts on aging. James then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener struggling with the fact that some aspects of his body are attractive to others, but not to himself.

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A gang of neighborhood kids accosts Judson. Brian struggles with parenting solo while his husband is away on business. Judson helps Brian through his anxious feelings about a sex party they both plan to attend. They get a huge laugh from a relatable listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week.” The two then enter into a deep discussion about spirituality. They talk about how they each define the term, what spiritual practice looks like in their day-to-day lives, their personal histories with religion, and how they balance spirituality with the state of the world today. They close by responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener seeking advice on whether or not to ask out the sexy barista who hands him his coffee every morning, and how to do it appropriately.

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Judson shares movie, book, and live music recommendations for the summer. Brian provides an update to his story about his clash with the principal at his children’s school. They both have much to say about a listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week.” They then welcome out and proud bear Derek Frazier to the podcast. Known as “Big D,” runner-up on the historic 23rd season of “Big Brother,” Derek provides insights into the infamous Cookout Alliance he initiated, ultimately resulting in the show’s first Black winner. He shares intimate details about his weight loss journey, how he struggles to find acceptance in the bear community as a Black man, his plans for Bear Week in Provincetown, MA, his experiences meeting people out at gay bars and on the apps, and how he deals with the online hate that continues to come his way since his time on “Big Brother.” Derek then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who felt envious as a POC in an open relationship with a white man for the attention his ex-boyfriend would get, and wants advice about how to approach the possibility of opening up his next relationship.

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Brian comes to Judson with many questions after a recent threesome. Judson survives a frustrating hookup day. A Hookup of the Week makes it all the way from Germany. The two then enter into a discussion about love. They share how they each fell in love with their husbands, and what that love feels like now. They compare their love for the different members of their families. They talk about what love looks like within friendships. The love chat continues when this week’s Go Ask Your Dad comes from a listener starting the process of opening his relationship, who disagrees with his partner’s belief that love and sex are intrinsically intertwined.

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Judson is self-reflective after a week of anniversaries, experiences the highs and lows of a company-wide work event, and may have met the ultimate hookup partner. Brian also experiences an incredible hookup and reaches his 5th review on TheBlowers. Judson learns a new Daddy trick from this week’s listener-submitted Hookup of the Week. After the break, they resume their friendly fire, and Brian gets emotional, sharing how the principal at his children’s school reacted to a particular component of his Pride plans for all the students. They end with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener looking for thoughts about preparing himself for what he believes to be the inevitable end of a 10-year hookup relationship.

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Judson recuperates from an intense period at work and enjoys a repeat hookup with a neighbor. Brian bemoans that it has been a frustrating week on the apps. The two debate the virtues of white chocolate and whether or not liking it is at all specific to the queer community. A listener shares a Hookup of the Week story about their first Daddy experience. Judson and Brian then chat all about Pride! They share their favorite Pride memories, reflect on what Pride means to them, how they each celebrate Pride, what’s important to them about the Pride Festival and Parade, and how their experience of Pride has evolved over the years. They end by responding to a listener’s Go Ask Your Dad question, asking how he should tell a hookup he enjoyed that he likely won’t see him again after learning new information.

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