Brian celebrates his first successful afternoon on the apps in six weeks, applying a lesson from a recent episode and proving a point he's made in others. Judson shares recommendations for Anthony Amiewalan’s novel Eddie & Alan, Michael Finkel’s biography of Stéphane Breitwieser, The Art Thief, Kaveh Akbar’s novel, Martyr!, and Nicholas Colia’s film, Griffin in Summer. Both hosts are tickled by the Hookup of the Week, which describes a listener's decision to throw himself a birthday party to reclaim the sexual awakening that homophobia denied him as a teenager. Then, Brian and Judson are joined by partners in life and work, James Nguyen and AC Gottlieb, costume designers currently represented on stage by Chappell Roan in her Visions of Damsels and Other Dangerous Things tour and by Messy White Gays off-Broadway. James and AC chat with the hosts about the origin of their relationship and their evolution to openness, making and maintaining queer friendships–including navigating boundaries around sex with friends, entering into couples therapy, and their past dalliances with throuple-dom. The pair also discuss finding independence within a codependent relationship, how much we let dating apps inform our feelings about ourselves, the pursuit of their professional dreams, and how they came to design for Chappell Roan. Finally, James and AC help Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question submitted by a listener who has concerns about hosting hookups at home.

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Brian and Judson celebrate the victory of mayor-elect Zohran Mamdani and the fact that friend-of-the-podcast Brandon Kyle Goodman has extended their run in HEAUX CHURCH off-Broadway at Ars Nova through November 21. Brian raves about the Broadway play Liberation by Bess Wohl. Judson's trick is a treat on Halloween. Brian prepares for a sex party by listening back to his own advice on a previous episode and discovers he may, in fact, be vers. After listening to the Hookup of the Week, the two wax nostalgic for their younger years, hooking up in bars.

​They are then joined by comedian, writer, and actor Jay Jurden, whose debut television special, “Yes, Ma’am,” is now streaming on Hulu. Jay discusses the journey to getting “Yes, Ma’am” on screen, why it was important for the special to be so sex-positive, the necessity of stand-up for marginalized audiences, the new hour he is taking on his “Nothing Special" tour, his 14-year relationship with his now husband, identifying as bisexual, his former career as a personal trainer, his possible future on Broadway, and his deep, queer connection to Marvel’s X-Men.

​To cap off the episode, Jay helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is hurt after his partner declines his request for sex, only to go and have a repeat hookup with someone else.

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It’s Dads and Daddies’ 75th episode! On it, Judson enjoys a repeat hookup with a neighbor and accompanies him to see comedian and artist Max Wittert perform. Brian looks forward to ending his hookup drought by attending his first sex party in months. Judson and Brian both reiterate their encouragement to all Dads and Daddies listeners to watch Netflix’s Boots, particularly after the Pentagon put out a statement against it. Judson and his husband are invited to be a Nielsen family. A previous “Hookup of the Week” submitter returns with a Part Two to his previous encounter. The two are then joined by author, journalist, comedian, and performer Mike Albo, whose latest book, Hologram Boyfriends: Sex, Love and Overconnection, has just come out from Macmillan Audio. The three marvel at each having separately learned about “Locktober” in recent days, share their wonder for the concept of edging, and talk about the origin and writing of Hologram Boyfriends. Mike also discusses his relationship with money, being labeled a "Daddy," his love for Provincetown, his frustration with the ubiquity of open relationships, and using condoms in a post-PrEP world. Mike helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is ready to make a real connection again after his partner passed away, but is frustrated that many of the men he meets are in open relationships. To close, Mike provides additional advice for a listener whose question about finding community in a new city was discussed a couple of episodes prior.

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